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 Symptoms of a broken heart?
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 Where can I buy a snake or a snapping turtle?
I want to wrap up a box with a big snapping turtle or a snake inside and video tape my husband opening it up Xmas morning....


 What would you say if, your Valentine's Day, your wife got you HER favorite candy, & then ate the whole box?
They were Turtles, BTW. I'd brought them with me on a hotel trip. She ate them while I was in the gym.

(She ate the fine candy I'd gotten her, too, though I did have about 5 of ...


 Do we have a connection here ?? Are we on the same path ???
What kind of stupid answer is this ? Sorry but a dear friend of mine, is having a very hard time on a personal level. Her hubby asked her these two questions (that I posted above) after she simply ...


 Does your spouse ever ask questions that makes it seem like...?
...like his/her motive is to get a replacement?

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 Would my wife believe me about this legitimate business?
So, I have some deep tissue issues and a massage seems like a good idea. Also, based upon the fact that all the kids in the neighborhood throw velcro covered balls at me while I mow the lawn, I was ...


 My husband Hakuna, cheated on me with 2 other men should we consider marriage therapy?
He cheated on me with Walcott and Song.. and I cheated on him with Fabregas, Torres and Ramos. Do you think marriage therapy would work? I never knew he was bisexual.. he's never told me and we&...


 Which is better the single life or the married life?
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 Should I tell my mom a 33 year old women(who I know) wants to meet up with my brother who is 16?
I know this women, she is divorced and must now have a taste for teenagers, my brother said that last time he was there she was she gave him a hand job, I normally wouldn't bother what my ...


 Is it inappropriate for my husband to hold my sister from behind, with his hands around her waist area?
I recently caught my husband holding my sister from behind, with his hands around her waist area. Because he normally only does this to me, it made me feel really uncomfortable. But am I overreacting ...


 How many credit cards did you need to give your girlfriend before she married you?
I really like my girlfriend and I want to spend the rest of my adult life with her. I say adult life because if I get reincarnated as a movie star and I find someone better then I will be happier and ...


 Ladies, when is sex too much?
1/day
2/day
3/day
4/day
5/day
6/day
Etc?

How much is too much for you?...


 For those who are generally dominant(sexually) and not the submisive type?
If your spouse requested to dominate you for an eveing, would you do it?
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 GIRLS do YOU think she will like these NUTS?
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 Would young men mind if I stared at their thighs legs and chest?
Or would they find it creepy?
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 Am I the only Mom that has fantasies about her manly teen son? Please tell me no.?
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 Poll, did you loose your virginity before marriage/?
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 Fiancé slept with his ex-gf .... 5 years ago. What should I do?
Last night I found out that my fiancé and father of my 2 sons had sex with his ex-gf twice. It happened 5 years ago, when we had been together for over a year. At the time, I was quite emotionally ...


 what is good qualities for ideal husband?
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 AM I ASKING FOR TOO MUCH? my wife, former stripper, is lazy and i feel used for money!!!?
Well, I got married to a former stripper. She has a 9 year old daughter from a previous relationship, who she loves, but she is not responsible and plays a bad role. My wife always left her daughter ...



coco
what to do when husband is masturbating while you sleep?
I woke up one morning and could tell that he did it the night before while sleeping. I confronted him and he said he did not want to wake me. crap! I don't mind it~ I understand it's natural. I asked who he fantasized about and he couldn't remember. he said probally me~ he usually does (could tell he was lying) We just never have sex! I consider myself lucky to get it once a week. am I over analyzing it? feel like after the baby and getting married we are falling downhill fast! help? Is this no big deal? I'm losing sleep and feel hurt!



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♥ Gimme cho o latte ♥
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Same thing is happening to me. We have been married for 9 months and I am 6 months pregnant. I just gave up....haven't had sex for months.

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Mike
just have sex cause then he wont masturbate

the only reason he does it is because lack of sex

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jeannette
okay first off y arent u guys having sex if ur married........and hahaha u should just wake up an jump on em!

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MarkJen
Hey, I feel you pain. My ex and I were lucky if we did it once a month! He needs to appreciate you and be thankful he has a woman to make love to!

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Pete Supports It Gets Better
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you're overanalyzing...

i've been married for almost nine years... if my wife ever gave me crap for handling my own business, i'd leave...

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Just Me
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I'd say take a shower, do your hair, do your makeup, put on some perfume, and put on the sexiest langeret you have (after the baby's in bed of course). If you don't have any, buy some at Victoria's Secret. Do all this when your husband isn't looking then wait for him in bed. Make sure the bed is made up and the room is clean. Try turning off the electric lighting and light candles as your primary source of lighting. When he comes in, just invite him to join you for a few hours. If you're sure he's going to say no and go to sleep or walk away, stand up and do a strip dance or just bring your body over to him and start putting your hands under his clothes and on his skin and massage his body instead. Try taking his clothes off for him if he'll let you and just let things develop. It seems that you need to be the aggressive one in this situation and do whatever it takes to convince him to be with you.

I can't imagine any normal heterosexual male turning down sex with any woman, especially if it's his wife. If he refuses you in that moment and other similar moments, I'd start asking questions about whether or not he's cheating on you with somebody or is getting his satisfaction from pornography instead of you and therefore doesn't think you're sexy enough to get him turned on. Either way, gently let him know how you feel and what you're feeling and that you want to know how you can get his attention again.

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BRYAN C
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Well as they say 'take matters into your own hands'.

Next night in bed...reach over...start massaging him...and get some for you.

BC

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hakunamatata7
First of all In my opinion when a woman is hurt one shouldn’t have to validate her feelings. Anger , jealousy is a bit different. But Hun if this Is hurting you then speak up about it! Don’t accuse him of anything just talk to him and try to understand why he is doing what he is doing. If I were in your shoes I would be just as hurt, like “ what you’re not good enough that he has to fantasize about who knows what and touch himself? This may be no big deal to him, but this can be hints of something bigger.. the fact that he is unhappy perhaps? Whatever the reason may be, both of you need to communicate esp. if it’s something that just started happening in your relationship.

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MZ. RO
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This is definitley a problem....my hubby jacks off too, from time to time I catch him in the middle of the night, I think it's funny. He tells me he didn't want to wake me or he knew i was tired....he told me once it's less pressure and energy when he masturbates...i don't mind it. We actually have what i consider a healthy sex life, we spice it up from time to time and have it about 4-5 times a week. We're both 30. You need to talk to him to see what the problem is...maybe sex therapy would help too. Good luck!

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Mandy
I went through the same thing with my ex-husaband. I confronted him about it, it turns out that he was bi. there could be alot of reasons he is doing it. One could be that he ain't interested anymore,or that he really doesn't want to bother you cause he thinks you are worn out from the baby. Talk to him and see what the real reason is, if you don't talk now you may end up divorced.

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semperfi4life
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There is an issue here. I am a sex maniac, and have been married almost 20 years. I am in deployed right now, and have been gone a year, and have not done anything, because I want to have that grand moment. your husband is with you and pulling the pud, something is wrong. It is not your fault, but self love is not a cool thing to do, and it is wasted intimacy. It is a big deal, and you need to tell your husband that you are hurt. If he has strong feelings, it will then be controlled, unless he is addicted yanking the shaft alone. As a man, I can't imagine practicing self love with my woman who is available laying next to me. She feels better than rosy palm and the five twins any day of the week.

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trick
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i get it on all the time with my husband and i know he has done this. i have done it too because i didn't want to wake him up. he talked to me about it he doesn't care. i don't care either at least he doesn't go look at porn and leave the bed. still i wouldn't worry about it.

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Wilma F
why aren't you having sex.

if he's refusing to have sex w/ you and masturbating instead then you have a problem.

if he's masturbating because you won't have sex w/ him then you have a problem.

start talking and let him know you want sex more than once a week. Start initiating sex if you aren't already.

fwiw: even if you were having sex every day then it's possible he'd still masturbate. The masturbation isn't an issue by itself. the fact that your sex life is not what you want it to be and the masturbation appearing to be a substitute for sex is a problem.

and get out of the poor guy's head. you don't need to know who he's fantasizing about when he whacks off. because if you go there then you'll start asking him questions you really don't want the answer to, such as: who does he fantasize about while he's having sex w/ you and which of your sisters/friends does he think is hot. and that will open up for him to ask questions you may not to answer.

as to what I do: if I'm asleep then I don't know about it. If I wake up or stumble into the room while it's going on then I ask if he'd like an extra hand or if he wants to be alone.

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Leha!
*hug* That does seem like a big deal, as much as it sucks to have to say it. I suggest you talk to him about how him doing that makes you feel. Tell him how it hurts, let him know that once in a while you'd rather have him wake you up and make love than just have him finish himself off. Try spicing it up. Wear something sexy to bed or initiate sex yourself. It's wrong of him to just kick you to the curb like that. You have the right to be upset, but you also have the power to have him begging for you. ;]

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Bert
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How the hell could you tell he was masturbating when you were asleep? That makes NO sense.

I've woke up and could by the movement that my husband was masturbating next to me....I just try not to giggle and go back to sleep.

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tropnhof.
1. Maybe going to a marriage counselor would help.
2. Fantasizing about someone else besides one's mate, sometimes, isn't unusual. I would leave that out of your arguments.
3. Yes, it is a big deal that you are "falling downhill fast." All I can think is that you could both see a counselor.

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RobbieJ
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There is a chance that he is also tired. I know it is a very lame excuse but, it is sometimes the reason. To "take care of business" himself, he doesn't have to worry about foreplay or pillow talk which nearly all women will always want. What I suggest is, start things yourself. Fondle him without him asking. Just roll over to him and start by rubbing his chest or something. Do what you can to get him excited. Usually, just my wife pushing her body against me will get me excited, even when I'm not in the mood. Once you know he's aroused, you need to grab right ahold of him and say to him "You know what I want you to do with this?............ME... and then get on.. If that don't work, I'm sorry.. but, it would for me.

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Beverly
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Im sorry that you're hurting. Is there a reason why he'd rather do that, then have sex with you? Maybe its time you be more aggressive and initiate sex. Buy something sexy, light some candles and spend a romantic night with him. You have to be spontaneous. Keep things fresh. Make him want you.

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John K
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You might be over-analyzing it a little. Like, you say, it is totally normal for guys to still do that on their own. It is kind of a form of "me time" as they say. Answering that he fantasizes about you was a little lame but so was asking in the first place after catching him. Getting caught just people on the defense. Ultimately, it does not serve much purpose but to possibly cause embarrassment or jealousy between you two if y'all explore something so personal.

It could quite possibly be that he has been wanting to spice things up. Whether it is something he suggested that you weren't quite comfortable with, or something he's been hesitant to bring up. Total shot in the dark though.

Outside of that, it is totally normal for guys to wax and wane like all people. It is also normal for sex to die down a little after a baby or after the marriage has settled in. And just because it is normal, does not mean it will stay that way forever. I see that you are frustrated but try and find ways of dropping the hint that come from your love of him and not that urgency. Whether you gained much weight from the pregnancy or not, working out a little is always a good way to get your partner's attention.

Of course, I say all this assuming you have talked to him about it. If you have not - again - try to not jump his stuff after working yourself up with a bunch of assumptions. Keep in mind what you need from the relationship and what needs to be done for both of you to be happy.

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Nicole W
next time if you wake up and hes doing the deed. help him out! that will show him that your willing to take time to make him happy!

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Mrs. SexyPants
I masterbate while my husband's sleeping, but it's really hard to keep that vibrating sound quiet enough not to wake him up...but even if I do, he likes watching me...

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la vie est belle
make it your mission to have sex everynight before you go to sleep. even if you dont want to

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ĿỉŁF™ #8 - still sideways
I like to watch my husband masturbate which has pretty much eliminated any chance of him doing it when I'm sleeping.

<---- freak

*edit*
Tino - I'm totally serious...

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Ben Dover
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Give him more head.

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Tino {9} Reborn
Fake like your sleeping. Then, when he whips it out to start spankin it, you grab the SOB and put it in your mouth(or vagina). Take some charge woman! Hell, while he sleeps, jump on his 8///////D and go to town. There has got to be more to your situation than just his masturbation.


LILF: Can I clone you?? lol

LILF: So am I!

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wildeyes
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Tell him you can't stay in the relationship if things don't change. You shouldn't be unhappy in you relationship the longer you are the harder it'll get.

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