should i be worried about my husband cheating?

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2007-11-27 14:52:16 +0000	More guys than you ladies know do that just to have a feeble attempt at being desired again. We want to put ourselves out there to see just what it would be like to be on the open market again. It says nothing about you or how we feel about you, but moreso as an ego boost for us. Sometimes this ego boost backfires and they get no hits from any women, and then the wife finds out and gets insecure (rightfully so from your point of view). Chances are that he may not even know the real reason why he has done this, but it just seemed like something fun to do. I am sure he still loves you, finds you desirable and just wanted to step outside of himself and everything for a couple of minutes and do something to try and make himself feel like a "stud" again. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-27 15:00:45 +0000	He's married. He shouldn't be on singles.com. Maybe he has a low self-esteem and it makes him feel better about himself knowing that someone else might find him attractive. Let him know you love him and that you are attracted to him. I don't think being pregnant is affecting your judgement. Tell him it hurts your feelings for him to go on those type of sites. If he got a response, the temptation may cause him to stray. I'd keep a close watch on the situation. Ask him to go back on the site and delete his profile in front of you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-27 14:44:25 +0000	HELL NO you are not being emotional. I HATE it when men blame US for their stupidity. Your husband logged on b.c he wants to see what single women are available in your area. You don't join a website like that for fun...you look at Perez Hilton for fun. I would not let this go....you may even want to check his phone records for suspicious activity. I hope for your sake that he has nothing to hide, but it sure does make one wonder........ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-27 14:53:09 +0000	He is being a jerk and probably has already cheated on you. I would say that you are being very reasonable and there is no reason for him to be involved in any singles groups. I would tell him to get off the singles groups or you are going to divorce him. Put your foot down, because right now he does not respect you. Take care, Troy Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-27 14:48:02 +0000	I personally think he's using your pregnancy as an excuse in this situation. First of all, he did admit to going on there and didn't deny it (good sign)!! However, it would make me feel uncomfortable too. You need to talk to him and ask him to delete the account. Don't hassle him too much about it b/c then he'll get angry but if he loves you he'll delete the account. Then gradually take steps to talk to him about what's going on and if things are ok. If you bombard him, it'll scare him off. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-27 14:52:04 +0000	OOh dear! Yes being pregnant, it do affects you however he had no right to say that you were being "insecure". He shouldn't have logged in "single.com" at the first place, instead of focus on your needs and your family. He knows better than that. Wondered why he did it... check on him every once a while and see if he continues. There is a choice has to be made. Wish you the best of luck! Hey... be strong for your next child. You are awesome! My 2nd husband, we decided to log in computer together when we need to, it builds our trust for each other more than ever. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-27 14:43:33 +0000	You are being emotional for nothing... he's not gonna leave you especially with his kid on the way.. don't be silly, he does that cause he is maybe a bit bored while the bun is in the oven.... and don't ask too many questions cause your not gonna like the answers...so get off of Y!A untill the baby is born. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-27 14:45:02 +0000	i can't believe he did this. he already cheated by doing this. Get professional counseling or else your marriage is doomed. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-27 14:47:28 +0000	A lot of men with children feel tied down and not attractive anymore. He was probably on there looking to see if other women still find him attractive. I'm sure he didnt go on looking to cheat. Tell him your hormones are fine and you would appreciate him not visiting that or any other site like that ever again. Unfortunatly there's no way to check how often he goes on there. If you really want to know. Go on, make a fake profile and dont add a picture. Look for his profile again and send a message or something and see if he responds then you'll know for sure what his intentions are. But I would talk to him first and find out why he went on there in the first place. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-27 15:17:07 +0000	There are a million other ways to have fun on the internet (playing games). If that is what he calls fun, I can only imagine what he may call cheating. I would be very careful. And keep your eyes open. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-27 15:00:08 +0000	You are not being insecure. He has no right to be on that site whats so ever. He is a husband and a father, theres no need. Men are immature but its still no excuse. I dunno what u can do u called him out and told him how ya feel, thats about all ya can do, maybe check up on him more often but then its like you have 3 children. I would warn him not to do it again and if he does then go from there. Hopefully he'll be smart enough to respect your wishes and grow up!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-27 14:55:21 +0000	this has nothing to do with you being emotional. he is the one thats VERY immature and wrong, signing up for single sites for fun? whats fun about that? worst thing is, he is trying to feed you with that nonsense that you are insecure. thats a typical thing men do when they are doing wrong. this type of behaviour pisses me off in a way i cant even express it. dont let him fool you, stand your ground as this may only be the beginning, he signed up for a page like that and makes it look like you are paranoid...seems like he has plans to continue. good luck, take care of yourself. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-27 14:46:23 +0000	Yes you should be worried to be point blank honest with you. Thats not something a happily married man should do. He is open to the possibilities of meeting someone else should the opportunity arise. You are not being insecure, he's being a total azz. You obviously cannot trust him, you need to ignore him and let him know that he has lost your trust. If my husband did something like that, oh my goodness not sure what I would do but I would not tolerate that type of behavior. It's basically the intent to cheat without having done so. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-27 14:42:36 +0000	Tell him how uncomfortable you are with it and ask him to stop doing it. If he doesn't get your own profile on Singles and see how he likes that. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-27 15:01:26 +0000	Okay, I am all for guys not getting yelled at for looking at porn, but dating sites are a bit much. I am not sure if he is cheating (no proof either way) but he is on a site where you can meet REAL people. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-27 14:43:42 +0000	there's nothing for you to do. if he says its a bit of fun drop it(and keep a sneaky eye on his internet use) but does sound like your being a little insecure. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-27 14:43:53 +0000	I wouldn't like that either....there must be other things he can be doing for fun besides going on a single site. I guess all you can do is ask him to remove his profile from that site and hope that it was just a curiosity thing on his part and something he won't be doing again. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-27 14:51:12 +0000	u r simply bothered for nothing but still talk to him and tell him that u feel insecure Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-27 15:03:51 +0000	"If you Love someone set him free! If he comes back to you he was always yours; if he does not he never was" So if he is always yours why bother, and if never was why bother? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-27 15:13:41 +0000	Obviously there are a lot of variables in a relationship that only you know of but in general most men including married men probably look around occasionally at popular interaction sites like "my space" and even these singles sites that pop up like a insidious rash on the web. It is another temptation for couples that has piggy backed on the back of cutting edge technology. Bottom line though is if your relationship is good, it will endure and these forays of web connections will dissipate as the fun factor diminishes. One thing is for certain though and that is that most men will always be interested in other women on some level but for happy husbands it is always transient and trivial compared to their love for their wife and the mother of their children. I've been faithfully married for 40 years and that's my view." Good luck~ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-27 14:46:26 +0000	My husband would be wearing the computer for doing that and then acting like it is nothing. What does he think you are? Stupid???? The answer to that is that you are not and you are not going to let him get away with this. Try putting his bags on the front porch and locking him out today....I would scare the devil out of him, stop this crazy behavior and make him apologize. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No