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its my birthday and my husband did nothing again this year. am i just expecting too much?
he's never done anything for me on my bday (present, dinner, movie, etc.). he blamed his lack of imagaination so i gave him tons of ideas and he ended up doing nothing again. he says he loves me but what's the problem here? for his birthday i go all out and plan it for a month. this is the last birthday before the baby comes and i was hoping to have it b something special



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nikki
Due March 7th
You married him knowing how he was, so why does it bother you now?
You cannot expect a person to change just because you hope they will or because they love you or because you give them hints.
He's doing it because he can and he hasn't found any personal enjoyment out of pleasing you in these ways.
You have 2 choices:
1) Except that your life will be filled with dissappointments because you are a silent complainer. You settle for less because you don't get that you deserve more.
2) You'll let your husband know that he needs to step up and treat you the way you deserve. Let him know that marriage takes effort and work that is shared to have a mutually beneficial relationship. Tell him this is unacceptable and that it will not be tolerated. He will be shocked because you obviously have allowed this to go on.

You sell you AND your husband short with this type of behavior. He will be happier when you are happier. The purpose of marriage is to enjoy your lives together, not to just exist under the same roof. You should enhance the quality of each other's lives and learn to be better people because of your courtship. That's BS. You need to be emotionally available to him and pushy about your needs and the needs of your marriage. Your child deserves a better example. Start working on it now. You'll be sorry later if you don't.

Don't give him gifts because you want some in return. Give because you want to please him. You might need to see a therapist.

Your husband doesn't take you serious. I'm sure he loves you and means well, but you need to make sure you change your behavior 1st and then he'll change his if he is truly invested in this relationship. Don't be a pushover.

What did you agree to in your vows?

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inkyblack11
Abosolutely not. He's your partner, and if you do stuff for him, and you get nothing in return? VERY unfair, unless he does stuff like giving you gifts when you don't expect them. Ask him if he would like no gifts for his birthday. Incredibly obnoxious or forgetful, becuase you got a baby on the way!

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tom4bucs
I am so sorry - you are such a catch!

Just serve him hot dogs and a can of beans for supper every night of the week - because you have no imagination -

nope- that probably wouldn 't move him - he would prolly love it

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REALMAN
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NEVER MIND, IT ALL DEPENDS ON INDIVIDUAL.HE MAY NEVER ATTACH SO MUCH IMPORTANCE TO BIRTHDAYS.WHY NOT HAVE A OPEN BOX TALK WITH HIM ON HOW HE IS MAKING YOU FEEL AND HOW MUCH IMPORTANT YOU ATTACHED TO YOUR BIRTHDAYS.U CAN STILL REMIND HIM OF YOUR BE-LA TED BIRTHDAY PRESENT BEFORE THE BABY COMES...TRUST ME HE GONNA YIELD TO YOUR REQUEST.

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googleh20
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thats messed up he doenst try to make u feel special on your brithday i know if i missed my girls b-day or didnt try to make it special for her she would kick my butt n make me sleep on the couch...................have u tryed to tell him how much that hurts...........

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lend322
I would think it would be good he does something. He doesn't have to go all out. If its a lack of imagination then going all out like you do for him might be too much to ask for.

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casinodog
THEN DON'T BUY HIM ANYTHING FOR HIS
NOT EVEN CHRISTMAS
**** HIM

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Something is wrong here. My wife is the same way too. Maybe, he has the same problem narrow minded and selfish.

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finaldx
Join the club. For my 50th, I planned and held my own birthday party. You can either have your feelings hurt every birthday for the rest of your life, or make sure you have the birthday you want. My husband has so many other nice features, this is one I am willing to overlook.

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~*~Tessa~*~
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Happy Birthday to you :-) That's sad about your hubby...I guess that's just the way some guys are. Next year go out with your friends and have a good time.

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kkahn9dodge
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if your birthday is so easy to forget for him,,,maybe you should lose your memory of his birthday

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?
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NOT EVEN A CARD? STOP MAKING A FUSS OVER HIS. STOP SHOWING YOUR AFFECTION TOWARD HIM AND HE MAY GET THE HINT.

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butterfly
Well, i was married for 17 years and went through the same thing. I think you are making to big a deal over it. maybe the money isnt there for him to do what he really wanted to do? I think personaly it is a "man" thing. anyway, dont make to much of it, but let him know you are disappointed and do it in a nice way. maybe he will surprise you with a late bday present!

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Sultan Of Egypt
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Simply your Hunsband loves you
but it is not a problem for not caring about your birthday
Take it easy and love him and donot make a trape for him,donot look to his bad little part,look to the good one,he may forget your birth day,,did you asked your self why he did? may be becoz of work,he works for you and for making a good rich family,so please my advise is just remind him but donot blame him if he really loves you,Just prepare a red night for him and wish him a happy new year for your self"he will feel shy of you I am sure of that"but he will or may rethink about it.BUT i did not forget to say happy birth day for you ;)

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Raylin
Talk to him. Ask him why he never does anything for you when you always go all out for him. Tell him that you really wanted this birthday to be special because it's the last birthday you'll have just the 2 of you.

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☮BJ☮
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next time for hid birthday do nothing
do the things he does for u and c how he likes being treated on hi special day
or tell him

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StephanieM.
Unfortunately, you have to take the bull by the horns and plan your own day. It really can be fun, then you know you'll like what you get. Make dinner reservations where you want to go, go to the mall and pick out some clothes, or something, with him right there. Pick out many things and let him choose on the spot, what to buy as you wait outside the store. Then chose the movie or whatever else you want to do. I know many women who need to do this for one reason or another (cruel hubbys, hubbys w/bad taste), you just have one of those guys who needs a lot of help.

Plan your belated birthday right now! You'll start to like it right around the time he finally gets the hang of it......

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Vovó (Grandma)
I´m married for 37 years. I love my husband dearly and he loves me very much, I´m sure. So, I understand you problem.
There are five different "love languages". If a couple doesn´t speak the same love idiom they will not understand one other. Like a couple where the wife speaks Portuguese and the husband Japanese. His "love idiom" is different from yours. It has to do with his family (mother, father, etc.) and your family. I can see that yours is "giving and receiving gifts". I don´t know his, but it may be "providing for you", or "saying words of love".
So, help him learn your love language and learn his. For this one, prepare yourself something special, tell him and I´m sure that he will gladly pay for it.
Don´t let misunderstandings stand between you and your husband. The baby feels it, even before he is born.
If you learn a second language in life, it will open the world for you!
If you learn a second "love language" it will open for you a world of wonderful emotions.
In any case, read the marvellous book by Dr. Gary Chapman: "The Five Love Languages".
Happy birthday! Tomorrow is mine too! God bless you, your husband and your baby.
Love!

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shortyd
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Give him a taste of his own medicine don't buy him anything see how he feels because he expects a birthday every year.

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jen
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Men are weird. Maybe because you gave him tons of much ideas, he didn't want to do any of your ideas because then it's not his OWN. Not an excuse, just trying to explain the way men think.

I don't think you're expecting too much. But expecting him to do go as far as you do for his birthday wouldn't be reasonable. It's not tit-for-tat.

Tell him you were really disappointed. Don't go on about it, and don't try to pry out of him what he was thinking. But if he doesn't open up in the next couple days, tell him again that you were really disappointed and then ask him why?

He probably won't be honest with you about why, because he's not even honest with himself about why. But men are just weird. You give them an idea, they refuse to take it. You don't give them an idea, they use that as an excuse not to do anything. Either way, it's a cop-out.

Try not to be too disappointed. If you can understand the reason it might be easier. You can't control other people, you can only control your own response/reaction. But you're pregnant! You deserve to be treated with extra care right now! Maybe your husband didn't want to get you anything big because he thought you'd react badly to him spending money on you when you both should be saving for the baby? Who knows. He was wrong, and you know it. That's what matters. Not making him know that he was wrong (that's futile).

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delia
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what a crap head. well happy birthday.
I think guys get into a rut sometimes. my husband won't do anything for me unless he can do something huge. but I would really appreciate a card and a semi-thoughtful gift. he thinks if he can't spend lots of money and two months working on it, well, just screw it.
i don't think you're expecting too much. obviously you will have to stop bothering with his birthday. as much as it will pain you. you probably like doing nice things for him.

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somewherein72
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I don't think you're really expecting too much. It's normal that us fellas don't go as overboard as the ladies do about birthdays and special occasions, but many of us do mark those occasions with some sort of celebration.

He should've in the least gotten you some flowers and taken you out to a nice dinner. That hardly takes any imagination.

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Big Daddy
This guys a loser girl. He should always be the first to be there for you. He should hold you higher than anyone else and be the first in line to celebrate any of your milestones. Sorry to sound harsh but he needs to appreciate you for who you are and what you mean to him.

BTW.....HAPPY BIRTHDAY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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mr.truth
some men are like this, it's hard for them to be romantic or to treat a lady,nvm, maybe one day he will under stand for himslef without oyu haveing to tell him anything

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T Time
He is selfish and insensitive. Get used to it.

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poltiman1
Sorry to hear this. You will "forget" his birthday so he can learn.

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PeachPie
sounds to me like he's just being cheap and lazy. it doesn't take imagination to take you out to dinner or bake you a cake. why are you still with him?

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E B
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Try "forgetting" his birthday and Christmas, etc.

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Jerry Garcia
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He should SHOW you how much he loves you without having to be asked, told, or reminded.

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heartcore
divorce your husband

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justwonderingwhatever
Thats just how some are honey...Believe me yours isn't the only inconsiderate, ungrateful ba&!trd out there. They just take it for granted....THATS FOR SURE....try showing him how it feels..next birthday that comes along for him.

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