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how do you get your husband to confess or come clean?
My husband had an emotionally affair via online x1yr. I feel as though he has not come completely clean. How can I get him to come clean with me? He tells me a little here and there. He does not volunteer any answers unless I ask. "I don't know why" is his favorite answer. It's been 4 months and I still know very little. It's like a secret. I can't move on til he comes clean.
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He sent her thousands of $ and hid it from me because we have separate account. He's only seen her through webcam.



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2008-09-04 21:53:31 +0000
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tell him you cheated, maby he'll talk then.

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2008-09-04 22:01:06 +0000
You just need to sit down and explain to him that he needs to come clean about everything. Tell him you want to know everything from start to finish, as well as what he was feeling during these moments. If he still does not answer or give the answers you need to hear, there may be a reason for that. For instance he may be too embarrassed to talk about it, or he may not want to hurt you anymore than he already has, or get in more trouble than he already has. If you feel as though he doesn't disclose everything to you, then you honestly should seek out a professional. It will only help you both. You will learn to deal with the pain and feel as though maybe you can begin to move on, and he may eventually be more comfortable in coming completely clean, including his reasons for his actions. Good luck, i know from experience how hard an affair can be on a marriage.

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2008-09-04 21:56:12 +0000
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Tell him that the only way you can leave that alone is by knowing everything, and that you will not get mad at him but that you want to know the entire truth. Most guys are afraid to come clean because we think that we can make things even worse. I also suggest you do not get mad and listen to what he has to say, this way you both will be able to leave the online affair in the past and move on.

Good luck

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2008-09-04 21:53:52 +0000
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Just remind him that your "relationship is an honest and truthful bond, and I'll love you even more if I know you're being real with me." Then maybe offer up a silly secret of yours.

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2008-09-04 21:58:39 +0000
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Why burden yourself with his screw up. What good will it do for you to know the details? It'll keep you hostage. Either you have forgiven him or you haven't. Details won't change the crime. Focus on positive reinforcement methods; if you want the marriage to work you have to move forward. If you were told you had cancer and that it was terminal, would it really make a difference looking at the test results?

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2008-09-04 21:58:43 +0000
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Stop hounding him. He told you all he wants you to know. That's his story and he's sticking to it....Now Get over it or move on or you will lose him. You know men lie and they will NEVER tell you the complete truth, so let it alone and forgive him or leave him . It's up to you now.
What is an emotional affair? Did he commit adultry> If not then get over it Geese!!!

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2008-09-04 21:58:16 +0000
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perhaps he thinks if you knew the whole truth you would leave? or maybe he wants to move past it? maybe knowing everything is NOT a good idea..........

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2008-09-04 21:55:37 +0000
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You say you can "move on" when he comes clean but do you really think you can? It is still painful weather you know all the details or not, in fact it may become even more painful once you DO know all the details.

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2008-09-04 21:56:40 +0000
move out, then make him want you, make him want to tell you, have amazing sex with him first then be out till you and him can move on with your relationship. it worked for me, but i was in a totally different situation. wish you the best, and f u c k all disrespectful s k a n k s..

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2008-09-04 21:54:41 +0000
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Not real sure what you mean by affair via online. Did he have an affair with someone he met in a chat room? My first question would be did he ever meet the person in public or in person. Are you sure ? Maybe you can threaten to divorce him if he doesn't come clean or tell him you want to go to marriage counseling.

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2008-09-04 22:19:09 +0000
Communication!.. Tell your husband there are things on your mind that are eating at you every day and making you upset and that you really need to talk to him about it in order for you to become happy again. Tell him that you feel that the communication/trust between you 2 is dying which it clearly is, and you NEED to take these steps if you want to save the relationship.. you can even write it on paper, if it's too hard for you to say anything.. If it were me, i would want to see the conversations they are having together, and if he deny's you to see the convo then you know something is definitely up, and if he lets you freely see then it's peace of mind for you...and you can see what kind of convo's their having...

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2008-09-04 21:53:32 +0000
i would divorce him!

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2008-09-04 21:56:31 +0000
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What exactly do you want him to come clean about? The gory details of his emotional affair? It doesn't sound like he is denying the emotional affair...only not wanting to be forthcoming about the details....what more does he need to confess?

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2008-09-04 21:54:32 +0000
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If my husband acted like that than I would tell him that I am leaving him until he does come clean.

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2008-09-04 21:56:12 +0000
Coming clean will be part of the healing process for you,if he refuses to acknowledge that then maybe you should leave for a while to let him rethink what is and what isn't important to him.

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2008-09-04 21:57:07 +0000
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well if you know everything about what is going on but havent told him that you know, i would pull the sneaky hints, let off info. that you know like if youve seen him at a restaraunt with another girl tell him you havent been there in a while and would like to go. Then ask him how long its been since hes been there. Stuff like that. Hope this help!

signed
a friend

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2008-09-04 21:54:21 +0000
It's quite possible he's unsure as to why he did it. Or maybe he is so ashamed of himself, that he feels horrible just answering your questions. I think the best idea would be to go for marriage counselling, even if he just goes alone first, then you join him.

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2008-09-04 22:07:36 +0000
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Leave him and tell him when he is ready to come clean, then to give you a call.

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2008-09-04 21:55:21 +0000
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You may need to bring in a third party to help clear the air.

I suggest going to see someone like a marriage counsellor or priest.

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2008-09-04 21:57:45 +0000
You can't move on whether he comes clean or not.

You moving on has nothing to do with him. You either decide whether or not it is going to be an issue or not. Bottom line, if you don't believe him then it doesn't matter what he says or doesn't say, you still won't believe him.

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2008-09-04 21:56:06 +0000
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He's ashamed and scared of what will happen if he tells you the full truth. You need to tell him exactly what you said...you can't move on until you come clean. You deserve to know everything. What I told my husband was...its easier to forgive you when you're honest w/me about everything upfront, rather than me finding out a week from now. This sounds crazy but tell him that whatever it is that he is forgiven as long as he's learned from it. The sooner you get all the dirty laundry out, the sooner you can start healing. My guess is it wasn't just an emotional affair. You can get through this but it will take time.

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