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2008-03-27 20:17:12 +0000	This is what he's like after only 3 months??? Sheesh, I'd hate to see what he'll be like after 3 years. Do not pass Go, do not collect 200 Dollars, do not have a child with him. Get out NOW!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-03-27 20:44:16 +0000	You are definitely being controlled. My advice is to get out and away from him as soon as you can. I've been through all that you've described and more. It will get worse. My ex eavesdropped on me all the time, (and I never hid anything from him!) He told lies to try to "trip me up" when he asked me questions. He was mentally and verbally abusive, he had to feel he was in control of me or he made me sorry. It's a living hell. Don't live like that. I did for 15 years. You'll get nothing out of it, believe me, because he will not change. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-03-27 20:49:08 +0000	Controlling, manipulative and abusive bastard... Yup you need to get yourself as far away from him as you possibly can because this situation can escalate fast. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-03-27 20:17:26 +0000	"Controlled" does not explain the half of it. You need to leave him, no man should ever think about placing his hands on you. The minute he did was the minute he should put his hands on the doorknob to leave. And he has no right to tell you where YOUR future child can and cannot go around your family--he's a jerk. You can do better. This is only 3 months in, imagine 3...30...years from now. Not a pretty picture. Please be careful with him, do not allow this man to control your life. For the sake of you (and any future children), you need to seek an annulment. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-03-27 20:17:15 +0000	My goodness, you need to get out of there straight away before you dig yourself in deeper as time goes by. I can't understand why you even married him - he must have been like this before your contemplated marriage. He is a control freak and will only get worse - not better. GET OUT NOW and save your sanity. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-03-27 21:55:20 +0000	You need to leave, you don't need a man like that in your life. There a MILLIONS of nice men out there you should really find one and leave this loser in the dust. It can only get worse from this point because if you do stand up for yourself he will get violent.... please get help and leave him...... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-03-27 20:27:16 +0000	End this relationship immediately. He is the one with the problem. Women should not be submissive, but are equal. He deserves respect as the man of the house only if he is acting like a man. He should never talk to you, but with you. And anyone who feels it is necessary to try to control another person with threats and forcefulness is not mature enough or emotionally able to be in a loving, stable adult relationship. If he needs to feel superior to someone else, tell him to get a fish. It can never leave, it will rely on him for everything, he will have complete control of it's entire world and if he is bored with it, he can flush it down the toilet. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-03-27 20:22:53 +0000	This is classis abuse. You need to get out and hope he doesn't follow you. Have you filed poice reports? Is this how you really want to live? Your safety is the first priority. You mentioned future child....I hope you are not pregnant..a real unhealhthy envirionment for a child. If this is happening after only 3 months of marriage, I dread thinking what is ahead for you. Look at yourself and ask why you are still there. You are not getting love in return. GEt help..GET OUT! You are in my prayers. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-03-27 20:19:30 +0000	Get out!!! HE IS A CONTROL FREAK!!!!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-03-27 20:18:35 +0000	All I can say is this, my man is truly the Head of our house and he doesn't act anything like your husband is acting. Your husband isn't respecting you, he is not honoring you, he is not cherishing you....he is not fulfilling his wedding vows AT ALL. He is controlling, and hurting you. If I were you, I would not tolerate this. As Always, CindyLu is a voice of experience and reason, heed her advise. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-03-27 20:22:10 +0000	Did you even read your query after composing it? It amazes me that you even have to ask or maybe you were brought up in a household under similar circumstances. Get out of there ASAP!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-03-27 20:20:52 +0000	He sounds like a pain in the *** to me, to put it mildly. As wonderful as he may have seemed to be, I don't see how this kind of treatment could be worth it. I say get out before you have the kid, and soak him for support. If you feel bad about it, give him a chance to discuss it, over the phone, after you're gone. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-03-27 20:16:46 +0000	was he like this before you were married? He is definately trying to control you...watch Dr. Phil Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-03-27 20:27:00 +0000	How long did you know this jerk before you married him? Did you move in before you were married to this slim? If you did big mistake and a lot of people do it. Whatever you do do not get pregnant by this psycho. You need to move out asap and with family or if you don't have family just out of that town pronto. Sounds like he has a lot of issues. I believe you have seen this in him before you were married to him but made excuses for his behavior. Your friends and family probably even warned you about this guy didn't they. Well if that is the case even more reason to leave his ***. He has nobody and he is afraid that if you leave him he will die a lonely loser and that's not what he wants so he is try to manipulate you anyway he can. Just leave one day when he is at work. Don't tell him you are going to leave just do it or he will try to stop you or even worse. Make sure to have a guy friend or relative there to help you move in case he catches you trying to leave him. Whatever you do don't ever come back and never ever pick up his phone calls. Change all your numbers and addresses. Hope everything works out for you. You need to dump this loser pronto and I mean now. Who knows what he is capable of doing. You don't want to be around to found out girlfriend. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-03-27 20:15:26 +0000	Leave him before he physically hurts you. Go live with your parents or a shelter but get out. These are the beginning signs of abuse. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-03-27 20:21:39 +0000	Yes. Go to counseling.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-03-27 20:18:06 +0000	Yes you are being controlled and manipulated and this is only the beginning. He is already working on isolating you from family and friends and he has further trapped you with his child. Next step is full blown abuse for you and your baby. There is more than a little something wrong with this man and you had better get the puck outta Dodge before things really get worse, and trust me they will get worse, much worse, real fast. Instead of not seeing your family, you need to grab what you can and go there now and I do not mean take a nice walk I mean grab some stuff and run for your life and the life of your child because you and the baby are in serious, life threatening danger. NO JOKE GIRL, RUN. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-03-27 20:20:44 +0000	ooo! dang girl. if he uses the thing about he will leave then just let him. If you guys are already going through this it will only get worse. I know you may love him, but you do see the problem. I think you should leave the house and live w/ your parents or some one and tell him he needs to change or you will divorse him. If you have any friends who you can stay w/ that may b better so he won't know where you are. or some aunts or uncles that he doesn't know where they live. if he threatens you or gets physical put a restraining order out on him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-03-27 20:19:07 +0000	Divorce him; get it annulled. I've been in an abusive relationship before and it will get worse. His beatings will get more frequent and severe. Please, ask him once to get help (counseling). If he refuses, be gone with the wind. You are definitely being controlled and a real man wouldn't have to hit you to persuade you; he would use his mind. But you should use yours; think about how inconsiderate he is and how much he's hurt you. Use this as fuel as you pack your things. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-03-27 20:18:45 +0000	Run for the hills. You are not only being controlled ...you are being abused. Be very careful with this man. You don't want to end up dead. Not to scare you but it happens everyday...look at Lacy Peterson. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-03-27 20:14:44 +0000	You are definitely being controlled! Get out of there!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No