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 I often find my husband browsing profiles of women on myspace. When I come in the room he changes the page.?
A girl at my work showed me a message that he sent her stating " I don't mean any harm, but you are so beautiful". He doesn't know that the person he sent a message to is a friend ...


 I had pre marital sex already, we're still 2gether, should we wait till marriage or not?
is it worth it to stop havin sex or, should we just continue since we already broke the rules? help please?????...


 What should I do??? My husband just spanked me???
I'm 20 yrs old and just got married about 6 monthes ago. My husband is not super old compared to me but he is somewhat older (29 yrs old) Last night he went to go put gas in my car for me since ...


 Should I give her another chance?
My wife of 8 years. We seperated about 5 months ago. She had been cheating on me since February last year. Off and on. I tried to fix things with her. She just kept saying she didn't know what ...


 Would you date a man with no money, house or decent job?
Would you date a man with no money ,house decent job, 40 years old looking even older with a huge debts and house in a repossessing process?...


 Women: in your opinion...why are men disappointing?
It seems that guys either dont, wont or cant live up to the simplest expectations. And this seems silly....

For some men, it seems to be a point of cant. They dont know what we want...and ...


 Do you believe that for most marriages to last, the wife must be submissive and obedient to her husband?
Part of God's plan is the husband being head of the house and the wife submitting to his authority....


 Help please! My 13 year old SON just started his period!!?
I got a call from the school nurse this afternoon. They wanted me to pick my son up from school because he had started his period and had quite a big stain on his pants.
When the nurse first ...


 Is He Cheating? He immediately showers and washes his boxers when he comes home.?
When he comes home from work... he rinses out his boxers, puts them in the hamper and then takes a shower right away
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I asked him and he got furious at me for asking a ...


 Take your husband's last name?
My boyfriend mentioned to me that when we get married he didn't expect me to take his last name because he felt that we were a modern couple and didn't need to follow those traditions of ...


 What the hell is wrong with her?
My girlfriend constantly naggs me over everything I do. I cant do anything right. Even when i'm really trying she still finds fault with something.
She nagged at me for not using a plate ...


 my husbands ex-wife wont leave me alone,she's 35 and i m 22,she keeps coling me nasty names?shud i tlk 2 her?
she calls me nasty names and telling me that im a w*&$@ and that my husband picked me up in the street, she also tell their kids togetehr that im apick up girl, i am so excited to tell her ...


 what would you do?
i'm married & want a job. my husband doesnt want me to work he wants me too stay home and be home when he gets home from work. would you other wifes stay at home if you could? or would you ...


 been with guy 5 years no mention of marriage should i bring up the question, both mid 40s?
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 what do you do when you realise your husband is cheating on you?
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 My Husband is cheating, I can Forgive, But.....?
My Husband is having an affair with another married woman. I have been in a living hell. I want so much for him to be with me. He says he is confused. The other woman wants to leave her husband, to ...


 Do you like getting a bit drunk with your spouse?
My husband and I got drunk a week ago together at home. This is RARE - first time in a few years. We had a funny, clumsy, but terribly honest 3-hour conversation with each other about things. We ...


 My husband and I are having serious marriage problems.?
We both love each other very much and want to work it out.
Where do we start?...


 I feel sad today and everything is fine. Why?
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 How old were you when you got married?

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jake
Why won't my husband file for divorce?
He moved out. I later found out that he had met someone(s?) else. I saw a lawyer. He said that it is cheaper if he files and I answer. I told my husband that he could go ahead and file, the kids and I will be fine. He says that he does not want a divorce? What?
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He is effectively paying support now. He pays tuition for the kids, the mortgage for where I am living and the utility bills.



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verony
He probably doesn't want to pay the money either!!! Get a lawyer, file for child support/allimony.....He's moved out... and more than likely has someone else....Even if he hasn't found someone else, he's not in the house with you and trying to work things out.

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whataboutme
Pay the money! He's making a fool out of you. He is trying to control you too!!! And don't forget child support. You don't want HIM BACK!!!

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Andrew
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It could be financial, that he doesn't want to be legally oblgated to support you pursuant to a court order. Or he could just be a prick. You know him better than I do.

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I'm In Love With Delicious
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Sounds like he really does not want a divorce because he knows that once it is final he will lose you forever.

I was in the same boat a few years ago, I moved out, then realised what I had lost. We ended up sorting things out and I can honestly say we can not be any happier. I love my wife more now then I have ever loved her and it grows everyday.

Speak to him to see what he really wants and take it from there. I regret the drama my wife and I went through, but I beleive it made us stronger then we would have ever been. I hope it works out happy for you and you have a great life ahead.

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jdlifsey2030
He wants options. He also doesn't want to realize that he screwed up.

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BadAssGirlINWV
Go ahead an file instead of waiting around for him to file for divorce. Many people get what you call a no fault divorce. But He's already met someone. So now its time for you to meet someone thats going to be good to you and your children. Don't waste your time on this guy. Go have fun & enjoy life! Good luck!

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Shannon T
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Maybe he stills loves you.

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Wizzard2
Are you getting enough child support? You can file for support/
-and the cost if you file wont be that much more and your attoreny can ask for fees as well as part of the property resolution/

MAny your hubby wants an excuse not to marry the other woman. Get it behind you

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christinaz22
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he still either loves you or really cares for you. or maybe he is afraid that once he's detached from you that he won't find anyone else as great as you.

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JStar14
He may just be going through a period. He probably still loves you but some issue is tearing you guys apart. He needs to be man enough to deal with it however. The other person is just a interesting destraction. His real issues are with you.

Ok, the guy is weasel for not dealing with the problem straight up but many of us are weak on that issue. Meanwhile, you get your head together. Don't fall into his sickness. If you ran to another man, would that really solve anything? You need time to do some thinking and not stressing. Get involved in stress free activities, get in touch with yourself mentally and spiritually. Good luck!

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ridingthestorm_out
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I think he looks at you as a safety net.

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island3girl
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he doesn't want to be the one that gets the blame for the divorce. it's time to move on.

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breaker_1020
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if he's still maried to you, than he always has someone to fall back on...in his mind anyway. you should sue his new girlfriend for alienation of affection and pay for the divorce anyway.

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Iron Rider
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as long as he don't want to file then milk him for every dime you can get

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☆Asian♡star☆
supporting your kids and giving you what you need is great but being unfaithful and still want to be married with you is a no no. It's wrong and how would you know if he won't do this again. Basically, tell him you are not happy with him and that is final.however don't piss him off. :)

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lily
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If he files first he will have to pay for your lawyer. Besides it is cheaper to do it this way. He is not coming back.

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sevenofus
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I would consult another lawyer. It shouldn't matter who files for divorce. If he has moved out and is involved with another woman, you have legitimate grounds for divorce. He probably doesn't want the divorce because he knows he'll have to pay child support and possibly spousal support depending on the circumstances of your financial situation and the laws of your state. Get a second opinion. You shouldn't have to live your life married to a man who has left you for someone else.

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ihave5katz
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1. as long as you are married, there is no child or spousal support to pay and no custody issues 2. he really doesn't want a divorce 3. he wants you to file so YOU are the bad guy

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david k
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Could be anything form tax reasons and child support reasons to hes not sure he wants to leave. MY advice is to file for a separation not divorce until the last possible second

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dawncs
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It could be one of two things. Either he does not want to look like the bad guy by initiating the divorce, or he wants it as an excuse why he can't marry the new girlfriend/other woman. Another reason is that he still wants to keep you as back up if things do not work out with the new girlfriend. I recommend interviewing other family law or divorce attorneys in the area for the best fit and price for the divorce. I doubt he will be filing for divorce any time soon by his words.

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Diane (PFLAG)
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Why are you waiting over money??? Why are you waiting at all???

Your husband has not files so file and be sure your lawyer puts in a claim for your legal fees in the paperwork... Lawyers are really good at getting thier fee and are more than happy to try and get it from the other party in a law suit...

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More Lies & More Smoke Screens
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Tell him flat out that YOU CAN'T HAVE YOUR CAKE & EAT IT TOO!!!!!
If he won't, then you should. DUH!!!

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Aries G
He's already made his desision, now it's time you made yours and look out for numero uno and the kids.

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sophieb
Fine, then do YOU want a divorce? If so then YOU file for the divorce and have your attorney hire an investigator for you and prove your husband was unfaithful, that's good grounds for divorce. If your state is a "no fault" then you don't need a reason. Talk with an attorney. Remember that you have to be serious about wanting a divorce (and remove your money before he gets to it so you have something to work with) because as soon as you go to an attorney the attorney will start asking questions and your husband will hear that you have seen the attorney without you telling him.

Some people stay married until they are sure the new person wants them, or stay married because they think they can still certain deductions if they are still married and by that they will still be getting a good refund back. Could also be his status that's keeping him from being divorced. Or, maybe he's just a controlling person, in that case be very careful.

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MONA H
maybe he thinks if things doesn't work out that he can come back.dont let him the next time he will be worse.

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Sonia Jo
I had the exact problem, only my ex never wanted to move out. At this point it doesn't really matter what he wants, it's about you and your children. Do you want a divorce? Either way, I don't know how much cheaper it is if he files. I filed and he answered but he still had to get a lawyer and because of his very bad behavior, had to pay all the court costs. You might ask your attorney about having the ex pay court costs and his fees. It may be worth filing on your part. I know it was for me, I got everything!!

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mollyzowiepink
Oh I`ve been in this before my x wanted to stay maried yet have his girlfriend too, oh girl please girl go file, he is only afraid that if this new affair doesn`t work that he will always have you. Really he won`t you and him will never be the same. Let him take that grass that he thought was greener and choke on it, you need to live your life for you and your children. There is a new life out there for you go after it. Good Luck!!! Wait a minute I went back and see you added that he pays for it all you can still have that get a lawyer he`s the one who did the deed and left make him still pay for the kids the house there are lawyers out there that would be glad to have this case. Good Luck!

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Ibdreamin099
The same thing happened to me only we did not have kids together..
I was not in a hurry to get together with anyone so it didn't matter to me if we were married or not.. but.. then i started to think.. here in WI all of his bills would be mine if something happened to him.. (car wreck or something) and.. if he took out loans or something i could be made to pay for half or all of it if he didn't pay the loans..
He didn't want to pay for the paper work is why he never filed.. I ended up filing 2 years after the fact and he still acted like he didn't want to get a divorce even after 2 years had passed..
I figure he might have been hoping something would happen to me and he would end up with everything he left behind when he left...
Just do it.. get the papers and do it your self.. there are people to help you do it and sights on line..

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Just Me
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yeah it may be cheaper if he files, but do you really want to wait around for that to happen while he is out having flings all over. You should go ahead a file, and make sure that he has to pay for it. Get him for child support, and let him know that you will not put up with him crap. Cheating on you is wrong, and you can find someone out there that loves you, and will not cheat on you..

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timjim
Sounds like he wabts to have his cake and "edith" too.

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effintired
sounds like money is an issue. Good luck. If you can afford a lawyer, get a different one. You might want a female. He can't hold you as his marraige hostage. Is he Catholic or just a Jerk?

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