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 In the big picture, does this really matter?
I know that with all the news outlets today it is getting harder and harder to get a handle on an individual spin regarding the days events, but,

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 is our marriage valid? what should i do?
we are married for almost 5yrs and we have a baby..me and my baby live here in asia and my husband is working there in usa..he works there ever since before we met..we live in a different country ...


 Who loves the USA?
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 Men....tattoos and piercings on a woman, sexy or not?
I don't mean anything outrageous when it comes to tattoos, I am talking about tastefully done, and when it comes to piercings I am only talking about 5 or 6 places (belly, ears, va-jay-jay, ...


 where could i meet older women?
alright, im a 28 year old guy. Im giving up on trying to meet women aged from 21-29. All they seem to care about is good looks on guys and how much money he makes. Plus they are all very confused ...


 women that have a hubby at home?
have you ever faked an orgasm and why?


I never have and I been with the same guy for 13years and never had to fake ...


 Do I have anything to lose by doing this?
We were together 6 years and she dumped me in September, no-one else involved, the relationship was amazing but got stale. She's 23 I'm 31. We we're each other first real loves. (I had ...


 How often are you married people having sex?
Is it a lot? a little? rarely? All the time?

I can see the first couple of years being good sex years, but what about after say, year 5?...


 What to do when your ex keeps 'messing' with the childrens heads.?
I am at my wits end. Every time the children visit with my ex he will continue to talk about me in a degrading way. He keeps telling the children that I cheated on him, that I took all his money etc ...


 Should I tell my wife I have a man-crush on her brother?
It's not that I want to kiss him or anything like that.....I'm straight and have been married for 12 years. I just like the way I feel when I'm around him. We hang out, drink some ...


 why do women feel the need to apologize for there bf/husband?
i find this very disrespectful! and i just don't see why it is needed!


i was rude to this guy at the store yesterday, (he deserved it) and my wife started to say she was sorry ...


 Should Pre-Nuptial agreements be a mandatory part of obtaining a marriage license? Why and why not?
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 If sex is not that important then why ...?
If a woman decides sex is not that important in her marriage, then why should she get upset if her husband finds someone to have sex with?
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 Anyone experienced in dealing with verbally & physically abusive alcoholics...?
my fiance, whom i've been with for 6 years now, is verbally & physically abusive to me. half the time he is apologetic and sad and tells me he'll stop drinking and the other half of ...


 What are women really looking for in a mate???(Women only,please)?
What are we really looking for in a mate? Be honest here.This could really help some guys out there.We all know we have different needs then men.we are emotional creatures.We want to be heard.Women ...


 How to cheat without getting caught?
Cheating bf/gf.Can you people get creative please....


 How many of you fell in love with someone you would have never expected to fall in love with?
Are you in love with someone and did you marry someone that you would have thought (on paper) you wouldn't have necessarily chosen?
But you fell in love anyway?
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 What is the best one year anniversary present for a wife to get?
be gentle..:)...


 Is there some protocol on remarriages about choosing the same wedding date as the first one?
Just curious if there's someone with any experience about this, and no, I am NOT getting married. lol
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Well, if this helps: It was a Valentine's Day wedding ...


 How old were you when you got married?
how about your first kid?
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I was 18, i didn't know so many people got married that young! lol, most are divorced but thats crazy....



BOOOOOO
Why don't cheaters admit that they're cheating to their partner?
I'd really like to know....
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Let me add then- WHY DO THEY CHEAT WHEN THEY KNOW THAT THE OTHER WOULDN'T AND DOESN'T DESERVE IT?



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TRUTH HURTS OOO K
Because the divorce laws are not fair to men and we don't want to visit our children once a week or we would dump your miserable *asses so fast your head would spin!!!

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Badass
Because they want the best of both worlds! A nice loving home and nice un entertaining sex, and 'porn sex' and no holds barred with their 'bit of fluff'!

I gather that's what it would be like!

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Flagger
You cannot be serious.

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hsmeilop
what she doesn't know wont hurt her. :D

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Pineapple Octopus
why would they?
why should they?
there's no law against cheating, some people go outside the relationship to get something that they cannot get at home.
i don;t condone cheating, i all for making sure both partners are completely satisfied with each other.

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Jon S
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The word cheat, has always been a word to describe someone one with low morals. No one wants to be known to have low morals, even though they do. Also the cheater may still love the one they are cheating on, and don't want to loose or hurt that person. Cheaters don't want people looking down on them. People cheat mostly because they are unhappy, with the present situation. They may have been happy before, and may be happy after the affair. Mostly there is a problem with the marriage before someone cheats, that is why a spouse needs to keep close attention on their spouse's mood and feelings, and try to fix it before it goes that far.

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Married and hanging on
for me it is purely to not hurt my wife further and my children
had the affair, other woman ended it because I failed to leave my wife fast enough, separated from wife, other woman would not give me time of day, back with my wife
kids doing better, wife is still very selfish and not into me, but being here for my kids 100% of the time is what I want at this point in my life.

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timbalita
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Because they have too much pride to admit it. Cheating is degrading, disrespectful, shameful, and embarrasing. No one wants to admit it until they get caught and some people even when they are caught can admit it!! it is too embarrasing for other people to see you as "the guy/girl who cheat on their spouse"...As soon as I find out that someone (friend, acquatance, any person) has cheated it is a turn off and automatically can't trust him.

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taljalea
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Because people do not know how to respect others anymore..../.

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olderbutwiser
In their minds if they admit their guilt, they stand to lose too much...home, wife, kids, and both the cars. What they don't realize is, they WILL lose these things when they get caught...and they almost always get caught. I'm not a cheater, and never have been, but this is why cheaters don't admit it.

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Danu
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because they're selfish, sneaky cowards

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Brutus
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Because they are trying to convince them selves that they don't lie or cheat.

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livinhapi
they like to avoid confrontation and its more convenient than being admonished for such an act and it is most of the time human nature to cheat in any way we can just to give in to the call of the flesh or any other things that is easy and the reward is plentiful.

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Jennie
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They dont wanna tell you so they can keep doing it and not hurt you.

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missy
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becuz they know it would hurt their partner ...
becuz they are cornfused ... lol

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Bobby M
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If they tell their partner it is not "cheating" they would be just committing adultery......
The excitement element would be gone if they new you new.. unless of course they figure you have a shotgun somewhere to up the ante....
BTW, when they finally come clean it is to burden you not just to clear their conscience, Do you really want to know that they slept with your best friend while yoou were preggars or what ever the story would be.....IF you want to forgive and forget, limit how much you let them dump on you to have to forget......

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vis
i have no idea.. my current bf asked me if i ever cheated.. and i did.. and told him the reason behind it..but it was not to with him a different partner that i was with

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Stellaluna
Because even though it happens every single day, probably at this very moment in fact, it is considered socially unacceptable.

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diva102288
Because in their mind they are not cheating because they felt that the relationship with the person they cheated on was over any way....Or they feel guilty ( but dont count on that)....

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Andy K
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Hmmm, great question! I'd really like to know too. Have a star ... that way, maybe my soon-to-be ex-wife will see it and finally tell me why she never admitted to me that she was cheating -- I suspected long beforehand (a few months), but only found out for sure after she left. My guess would be that the admission is a fault, that they did something horribly wrong, & they don't want to face the facts/reality/the music. Someone else said it on here about cheaters being afraid of what they have to lose, I think, about losing the wife the kids, & the two cars ... pretty darn close in my wife's case, she lost me (the husband), the 3 kids, 3 vehicles, the house, & now she has to pay child support.

Which leads me to the second part of your question. My ex-wife would say I deserved it, of course, to help justify her cheating on me in her mind/heart/eyes. I don't think anyone ever truly deserves to be cheated on, & most assuredly don't believe I ever deserved it. My bad behavior (if you can classify it as such) didn't happen until I finally agreed to get a divorce after 16-plus years of marriage & that was only in response to her trying to make it so unbearable for me to live there, trying to force me to leave. I responded to her ill will, either in kind (word-for-word)/in kindness/ignoring her/or simply saying "yes dear!" until she finally decided to leave.

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mekka0125
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They don't want to admit it because they want to continue doing it behind your back. If they admit it then there busted and would be forced to make some changes.

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Cyndi Storm
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Different people have different ideas of what cheating actually is, or how a relationship should work. Some of them are fair to their partners and let them know before they get involved that they want open relationships, others don't. I guess whether or not you say they're cheating depends on your view of things, but maybe to them they really are not. (Other ppl are just in denial i guess)

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~Carolina Beach Girl~
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They aren't getting what they need at home and they may have a self esteem problem. Then when they are caught they have to face the truth and that isn't who they are.

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dragonfire
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cheater will dent becuase they do not want to admit to themselves that they are a flawed person, and a flawed person is often single and lonely since no one wants them
keep in mind cheater live in lies
so they person they are cheating with often has a skewed perspective of who the person is, they often think more of them and think the cheater a victim of a nagging or abusive spouse. this brings in empathy into play and is a manipulative mechanism to keep the other person who they are cheating with off balance and always wondering. the omission of truth is a powerful thing, so are lies.
as for your second question..
no they do not think on those emotional terms
cheaters are all about themselves
which is why confrontation ( especially when it gets emotional ) usually does not work. the cheater by definition is flawed on the conscience plane and disconnect from whom they are, that's how they cheat guilt free for the most part. the first time they cheat they very well may be racked with guilt, but once over that pain, it becomes second nature to keep cheating guilt free. the fallacy is that cheater often come back to say but i love you, not the other person. that is a lie. once you cheat, you have disconnected your emotions and love is not involved anymore, cheating is a selfish act and is solely about the self, never about the other person, be it you spouse or lover.

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Reba
Because then it wouldn't be cheating, it would be swinging! Maybe they love the danger of getting caught and the thrill of sneaking around. Or most likely they are afraid of confrontation and are really wimps! Either way they suck!

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Pink Rain
Maybe they still love their partners and if scared they will lose them. I know..if they where scared they are going to lose them then why didn't they think of that before they cheated? I don't know but I think that's why

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Butterfly Princess
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Probably b/c they don't want to hurt the person. I also think that cheaters are kinda living a double life in a way. Especially if it's someone who would be ashamed for other people to find out. To tell their partners would mean that they would have to add that fantasy relationship to their real lives and that would be horrific.

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jude
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they don't admit it because they aren't yet sure of the one they are seeing, and don't want to burn bridges until they are sure. they want to be able to continue using u, knowing they can come home when they want, but if they were honest chances are it would mean the end of the marriage. they don't want to look bad in the eyes of their family, they don't really want to admit that they are this way and this is who they are. they will only tell if they are for sure done with the marriage or relationship. they may feel guilt and not want to hurt the innocent party, they also are cowards, and don't want to be confronted by what they have done.

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