Why does my wife past sex lift bother me so much.?

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2007-11-17 01:27:21 +0000	Call it quits. If you cant handle the terrain, don't go down that road. btw. why did you marry her, knowing this? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:27:39 +0000	Your married to her. Your telling me you have never been with any other? Cause I am sure she doesn't look at you that way. You should let it go and move on....geesh you will never be able to get married again cause virgins are far and few.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:34:47 +0000	Because you have insecurities....her past is part of what has made her the person she is today....relationships, sex and all. IT IS THE PAST and you are being ridiculous. Get over your insecurities and jealousies. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:37:08 +0000	The focus here is not her past life, but her present. She has chosen to be with you. Her honesty, is her depth of love for you. She wanted to be straight up, no secrets, nothing between you. If you have done things in the past, would you want it held against you? Of course not, neither does she. Don't trouble yourself with who HAD her, be proud that you've GOT her. Honey,,,,,she chose you and loved you so much she even sold out her heart to you. Don't be afraid to love her. You've got a good thing going! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:41:04 +0000	You should put your love for your wife first in your relationship and put sex last. Now you have her and if she wanted the others she'd be with them right? You will ruin your relationship if you keep thinking about these ugly things. The devil is putting this into your mind to split you two apart. God is love and love comes from God and if you love your wife you will turn to God and let Him help you not to have these thoughts. Just pray as soon as the thoughts enter your mind. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:36:15 +0000	My dear leave the past where it belongs in the past...You can't keep beating yourself up over this. Do you want to be alone all your life because every women you meet will have had sex sometime in their life....Or do you want to hold dear this beautiful lady that accepted you for the rest of her life...Think about it Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:37:25 +0000	Because you have a smaller penis than all her ex's. You also fear that your wife's ex's out-performed you sexually (and they did). You're also frustrated, angry and upset over her having so many men and you so few women (if any at all). That's why. You want to get over it? Then leave her and don't marry a s!ut. Simple as that. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 13:08:30 +0000	Because you allow it too! Forget it, she told you in advance so you accepted it then, so accept it now! Otherwise yu shall ruin a good thing. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:51:47 +0000	Was she a lesbo or something? Get over it and love her unconditionaly!! Be glad you have someone that loves you and stop getting stuck in the past. Live in the future and be happy. Make it what you want. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:30:08 +0000	So you're going to break up a marriage because your wife was honest with you? That's the most selfish thing I've ever heard of! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 02:09:54 +0000	Call it quits? Every relationship has its issues. Don't give up on your marriage without trying to see a counselor first. This is an insecurity you have that can be worked through. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:31:05 +0000	honey why did you ask her? these types of questions are better left unsaid...seriously...we are all curious of who are partners have been with but the mind can manipulate it and end up hurting us as you..........maybe if you try to make new sexual experiences with her...new things she hasnt done...new things you havent done....if you can mentally open yourself and your sexuality and allow the physical chemistry to take place it may help with forgetting the picture of the old man......also try not to compare yourself with him....itll make you think about it more....dont quit...this is something you can conquer you are mentally stronger if you allow it...good luck and make sure you have some new crazy sex!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:27:03 +0000	If she doesn't have a disease consider yourself a winner nowadays!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:27:20 +0000	She should have kept it in the past. It will haunt you now. Leave. Period. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:29:23 +0000	This is indeed very difficult to struggle. If you don't mind her past, just forget about it. It will not do good for both party. After all, marry is a long life process. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:29:59 +0000	Apparently her past sex life did'nt bother you to much ,you married her, so whats the big deal now? Just do what you do! it was good enough for her to marry you! STOP TRIPPING!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:41:23 +0000	Um are you gay?? I think your using your WIFE's past as an excuse for some deeper reason. Why would you marry someone if you can't handle their past? If your not gay. Maybe you should get some counseling. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 02:10:37 +0000	cheat on her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:41:22 +0000	Oh boy now you really got me goin..... When my x and I split he said It was becasue I had more experience than him because I was honest with him. He lied to me and later I learned he was only with one woman in viet nam. She gave him the clap. He got it fixed and then went to see her again. and got it again. but he felt I was more experienced becasue I had several unbelieveable experiences which were disease free. Give me a break........ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:39:35 +0000	dude...if you think about them...then you are trying to compete against them...and if you do that you will lose each time.. she's with you ,not them...your the one she wants not them..and if you can not get past that...then you have a problem...I know my wife had sex with other men in her past...but she is with me...she wants me..nobody else...and that makes me feel good...So that makes me the winner... If you leave your wife because of her past...that's wrong.. you are judging her...what about your past...would you like people to judge you from your choice's in life...You need to quit thinking about the past..and move forward...If I thought about what people ,hurt me in the past..I would be in a bad mood all the time..It's not what happen back then...it's all about what's happen now... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:33:37 +0000	You can't "un-ring" a bell. Everyone has a past. Including you. Just STOP it. Don't dwell on it. Don't allow yourself to even think on it. You can do this. It's your choice. Let it go! Forget the words she used to tell you of her past. You will have to MAKE yourself do this .. but it IS possible. Only YOU .. can make it happen for yourself. If you don't make yourself stop it .. then you will be miserable for ever more. The choice is yours ... to stop ... or continue on. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:36:52 +0000	Then you are pathetic. When you look at your wife you should only see the woman you love. Not her past. besides, were you a virgin when you got married? I don't think so! If not then you are a damned hypocrit as well! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:32:41 +0000	You are being very immature here. Were YOU a virgin when you married? I'm guessing not. But does that bother HER? again, probably not--because she is being mature. What happened before the 2 of you were together might as well be ancient GREECE as far as its relevance to you as a couple goes. If you call it quits, you're gonna bang into that same wall with the NEXT woman, because the fact is that NOBODY is saving themself just for you. If necessary, you might need some counseling to help you get over this craziness. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:36:22 +0000	well she didnt know you existed so you cant be mad at her. look ahead and not behind and appreciate her honesty. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 03:03:37 +0000	I didn't know much about my wife's sexual past until after we got married. She had kept a journal of some of her experiences that I found and the details were very detailed. My wife always tried to downplay her sexual history, but I found out she wasn't as innocent as I thought she was. She always said her past experiences were bad, but I think she just tells me that to make me feel better. I've been with her for 10 years and it's still hard to forget. I know what you're going through and it does indeed hurt at times. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2007-11-17 01:27:40 +0000	You shouldnt have let her tell you. Males are evolved not to want sexually experienced women because males who had women who were pregnant by another guy spent their time and resources but did not pass on their genes and thus were weeded out of the gene pool. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No