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Why do some women wish to keep their married names after divorce?
If Mr. Blacksmith<(example) has treated you like a dog or beat the hell out of you, Why would you want to be called Ms. Blacksmith after you've divorced him?



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ABC
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Because theres still feelings and hope that he will change.

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TBobb
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Just a man who cheats on his woman for another and act surprise when they get caught. Because they want to.

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JOHN
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Equality, honor

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Roland&#39;sMommy
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It's easier. Think about it - you have to change ALL legal papers, get a new license and SS card, your work e-mail address would likely change, you'd have to get new checks, there's all kinds of hassle and cost involved in changing your name.

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~NIKKI~
Though you have a valid question and i have never been divorced, here are some of the reasons i think women choose to keep it

-it is a pain in the butt to get a name change
-they want to have the same last name of there kids
-they have gotten used to having the name (a name change is a huge adjustment)

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karenlanea2
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Good point but some divorced women keep their married names because it is easier and there is not always a lot of anger between ex-spouses. When i got divorced my ex and i were on friendly terms we just married too young and the love went away. After 5 years of trying to find some common ground we decided the best thing we could do was just let each other be free. We are still friends and I kept that name until i had remarried.

I don't think men understand how many things and how much work is involved in changing one's name.

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Missy
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That is a really good point. If I were ever divorced I would not want to keep my ex husbands last name. No way. I can tell you why my Mom kept my Dad's. She wanted to have the same last name as me. I thought that was nice of her. Considering my Dad was such a jerk to her. I think if I was divorced I would just change my last name altogether to something I liked. Start fresh!

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amnesty sucks
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If you have kids it might be appropriate. Personally I would use my maiden name.

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cookie
less hassle: don't have to change bills or d.l. back to maiden name and also if there are kids involved..........most woman would prefer to keep the kids last name and keep it all simple & have it all match and "look" good.

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greeneyes_bjb
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Do you have any idea how much of a pain it is to change your name? I've been married for nine months, and my maiden name is still on one of my student loans, my passport, and our cable bill. It's a huge hassle. After having gone through a name change once, most women don't particularly feel like doing it all over again.

Plus, if the couple has kids, she might want to still have the same last name as her children.

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sunbun
because you have children with that name

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jon jon&#39;s girl
I know. I have always found that strange. That is the only thing I asked for in my divorce. I want my name back! I think my brothers ex wife did it for spite!

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kat
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Sometime that is a hard choce my ex had remarried, they made it so hard on me that I used my maiden name,.I even had two boys,he divorced her for being mean to me,later he died, I then resumed my prior name,Because of Grandchildren I wanted to be Grandmother Kat!

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sweetums1949
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Most women do so because there are children involved and they don't want to have to constantly be explaining the difference in their name and that of their children all the time and usually to perfect strangers.

But do you know what the really STUPID part is? Taking the man's name to begin with. If men had to go through the hassle of changing their names to that of their wives, there would soon be a law against changing names!!!

I elected to keep my ex's name because I was convinced that he would come to his senses and we would be remarried eventually. Had I taken back my maiden name it would have been included in the cost of the divorce $364) and would have been done at the divorce hearing. However, about a year and a half after our divorce I discovered I no longer loved him and wouldn't have had him back on a dare, so I had to pay $256 to get back my maiden name. But guess what the downside of THAT was? When I married him 22 years before I had to change my name in about 6 places. Changing back to my maiden name has so far involved 61 changes!!! Nowadays it's not just driver's licenses and credit cards, it's also a myriad of things to do with computers! Don't forget video rental places, libraries, etc., etc., etc.

I know one thing for sure and certain: If I'm ever stupid enough to get married again, I will NOT be changing MY name again!!! The one I was born with is plenty good enough and I won't mess with it again I don't care if I marry Bill Gates or Ted Turner. My name is MY name and it's going to stay that way.

I hope this explains things clearly for you.

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Nancy M
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The reason why I kept my ex's name was because I had the name for 25 years so why change it back? It's too much of a hassle getting everything changed over to my former name.

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letterstoheather
sometimes women keep married names because their children have the same name.. less confusion

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MissE
Have you ever been through the ordeal of having to change your name when you get married and then when you get divorced again.
Good enough reason to keep your own name when you marry.
Men will never understand this

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kitttkat2001
i always said before i got married i would keep the hubbys last name if we got divorced and we had kids. im still married and have kids...lol but i would keep the name now cause its been mine for almost 18yrs

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knowguy
Some women keep their married name after a divorce because they don't want to go through the hassle of legally changing their name back. Also, married women have used their new last name in all sorts of ways in their married life -- legal ways, financial ways, major purchases and so on. Not many divorced women want to explain their marital status and situation over and over and over again for years to come.

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oldsoftee2001
usually they do it because the kids have that name too.

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sixftrd
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It depends a lot on circumstances of your job. If you have been known as "Mrs. Blacksmith" at your job for years, it causes a lot of confusion to start using another name. It could also be that the choice of going back to your previous or maiden name might be a less desirable choice if the name is strange. (Such as Ms. Hogswart!)

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gysgt.wife
It is sometime easier not to have to change everything. SS card, bank accounts, credit cards, utilities, everything. For some women, if they have children, they want to keep the last name that their children have.

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franj
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Some people do it for the children. Some do it because they feel that they will have more clout in society as a mrs..

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aurea b
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The only reason i can think of is because they dont want to go through the hassle of changing their name again. You need to inform alot of people when changing your name, like credit cards, social security, id, passport..etc....thats the only logical reason. But other than that i dont know why someone would want to keep their ex's last name.

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♥bigmamma♥
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So the mom has the same last name as the kids.

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Devan E
Some women are married longer than they were single.... Like my mother has been an Ehster (married name) longer than she was a Williams (maiden name). But if her and my dad ever got married she would keep Ehster because that IS her last name

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Signilda
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I don't get that either, but perhaps it would cost more money and more hassle to change everything back into their maiden names. Some women use their married name professionally and are known by that name in their career (like the actress Susan Sarandon...she kept her husbands last name because she became famous with it).

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coach
most of the time it is so the children are not confused

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Tommy&#39;s_Sweet_Girl
less hassle of changing everything back over to your maiden name, like checking accounts, credit cards, driver's license's etc.

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Spring
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Because I had a daughter that had the same name.

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JRS
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A lot of women do it for the kids ... so they have the same last names ... !

It is a pain to change everything ( credit cards, bank accounts, DMV - now that sucks, Social Security ... etc ... )

My mom got married when she was 16 - divorced when she was 40 ... so she had her married last name longer than her maiden name ... so she felt like that was her name ... !

Some do it for their career ... it's all about who you know and what you represent ... !

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