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ANNA
When do you know enough is enough?
we have had a lot of issues in our marriage, not long ago he cheated on me. I told him i forgave him, but i have not forgotten. I really dont think i have forgave him for what he had done. I have been trying really hard to make this work. But, it seems endless. Hes constantly yelling and getting upset, Telling me its all my fault for everything. Lately , he's been wanting it all the time, if i tell him no, not in the mood, especially after he yells at me for some reason or other, he get angrier. I dont understand him anymore. Its like he just wants me to cook and clean and be his booty call. I think he been doing it again/affair. Hes acting like he did before. He got upset the other day because i had to go the doctor because i was sick, i had to pay a 20. copay. I never heard the end of it. That made me feel like he didnt care. Am I imaging things, or is this going south faster than i can run. I'm tired of being put down all the time, and walked on. Im thinking about telling him we should go our seperate ways. Right now from where im sitting, that the only choice i have. Honsestly, I'm afraid to be intimate with him, because i dont know who he has been with. I would like to hear your answers and opinions.



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2008-09-12 15:49:32 +0000
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First of all I'm sorry that all of this is happening, I definately know first hand about what you're going through. My husband used to be like that, we have had our fair share of troubles too, but nobody can tell you when you've had enough. Only you will know, and when you know, then it'll be over. But until then, nobody can make that decision for you. For my husband & I, it took him filing for a divorce and me telling him that I do love him and pretty much kissing his *** so to speak for him to treat me descent! All people have a different love language, I'm not trying to be a psychologist talking or anything, but if he's asking you to have sex with him, it may mean that he needs your physical touch and if you're not giving that to him, then he has to get it somewhere. Or if you do things for him such as cook, clean, etc, he may be a person who likes services. Not saying that it's your fault! Because in no way is it your fault, he shouldn't cheat, but I guess I'd talk to him and if things start looking like an argument, then schedule another time to talk after you guys will have cooled down. I know it doesn't sound like it's going to work, but my husband & I have been to marriage counseling before and I didn't believe them either when they told me, but if both parties are willing to work at it, then it will. I wish you the best of luck and if you want to talk anytime, you can email me, I check it regularly, but we can talk if you need it. Good Luck

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2008-09-12 15:45:53 +0000
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you are always going to feel this way about him ..it does not go away and it will never work..u no this..and i do to..and we still stay..i do not even no why it so hard to leave.i am going though the same thing..good luck..

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2008-09-12 15:58:29 +0000
"When do you know enough is enough?"

For me, it was when I just didn't care any more. I wasn't angry, or hurt, or afraid. I just didn't care. Nothing. No emotion whatsoever.

I don't know about you, or your situation (other than what you have written). You are the only one who can look at your relationship and ask yourself "Is it worth it? What am I getting out of this?"

I don't advocate divorce. I think people should try harder to work things out. However, it takes two people working on the relationship. One can't do it all alone.

And I do believe that cheating can be a deal-breaker. Sometimes couples can overcome an infidelity, but more often than not, it's the final nail in the relationship's coffin.

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2008-09-12 15:44:34 +0000
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I could never forgive anyone if they cheated on me. They always say once a cheater always a cheater. He probably feels "well she forgave me once". I think you need to find happiness in yourself, with that being said I would tell him that you want to go your separate ways so you can go find happiness because someone yelling at you all the time for no reasons at all is very unhealthy.

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2008-09-12 15:55:04 +0000
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Run like hell. He's a self centered bastard and thinks a women is only good for one thing. That's bullshit and if you don't do something now it's going to get worse. It takes two to make a marriage. your feelings are just as important as his are. I don't care if he's the bread winner or not. You guys are partners in this path of life that means equally so stand up and make him accountable. He's not to good to good to help out around the house in fact he should want to.

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2008-09-12 15:47:27 +0000
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Living in fear is not healthy. You know the best thing to do is to move away from this guy before he turn verbally into physical.

Most of the time when I read these stories I have never heard the women say "I tried to fight back but failed". Maybe you need to open a can of whoop @ss and make him thinks twice before he cheats or yells at you again for not ironing his socks.

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2008-09-12 15:45:19 +0000
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speaking of dejavue.i have a step mother in law like this, says its forgiven but can't forget stupid part is there was never anything to forget other than her bad manners, and to her I wish every happiness, so to you the same.

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2008-09-12 15:43:27 +0000
It seems like you already know you had enough. If he treats you like this and you are scared to be intimate with him, there is absolutely no hope for both of you as a couple. GO your separate ways and be happy with no stress attached. good luck:)

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2008-09-12 15:45:19 +0000
If what you are saying is true, then I would say a separation is in order.

Only if he will go to counseling and you see significant change would I consider reconciliation.

And DO NOT have sex with him until he's tested clean for STDs.

God bless! <><

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2008-09-12 15:46:24 +0000
You don't need to be treated that way. Your not his slave or booty call your supposed to be his wife! If you feel in your heart that your no longer happy and want to move on then mabye you should? He can find some other woman and make her life miserable...while you focus on you and find yourself a MAN that will treat you with the respect and appreciation you deserve.
You should not be getting yelled at for going to the doctor and paying a co-pay NOR if you do not feel like being intimate. Listen to yourself and do what feels right. Good luck

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2008-09-12 15:47:22 +0000
omg. It sounds like you are living my life!

Try talking to him without getting angy or else he might get angry and close up. I did this and found out a lot of information but had to bite my tounge hard while he talked.

contact me if you want to chat: SomeoneSoCute@gmail.com
Good Luck!

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2008-09-12 15:46:00 +0000
RUN, GIRL, RUN! I was married to a cheater...very much the same situation that you've described. Tried everything that I could to save that marriage...it was fruitless. Either get him into couple's counceling or get out as fast as you can.

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2008-09-12 16:03:03 +0000
Well Anna....you just said it all.

You know what to do!

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2008-09-12 15:55:19 +0000
Enough will be enough for you when you know without a shadow of a doubt that you are truly tired and you do what needs to be done to end it. Right now it does not seem as if you are truly tired because you are asking. When you get to the point were it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks you are ready to leave then enough would be enough for you.

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2008-09-12 15:44:53 +0000
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You're afraid to have sex with your husband and that is understandable but that should be enough to move on. If you can't get over what he did to you and you refuse to be intimate with him you should leave him alone. Don't live your life in misery because he decided to cheat.

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2008-09-12 15:44:17 +0000
Reread what you wrote...You answered your own question. You shouldn't live in fear with someone who claims to love you. There is no love in fear.

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2008-09-12 15:55:20 +0000
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You know enough is enough.. when you asked this question!.. Leave this chump.. The only reason he gets really angry is because he wants to make it seem like you were the reason he went out to cheat in the first place. It just makes him feel good to have a reason to cheat. Leave him NOW!!... PLEASE TAKE MY ADVICE!!!

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2008-09-12 15:44:11 +0000
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i think enough is enough when youre questioning it on YA

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