What should I do with my husband?

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2008-01-08 21:21:37 +0000	perhaps you should consider leaving him. Marriage ( at least in my book) is about sharing and supporting and loving each other. You have absolutelly every right to be happy . Why not pursue it? I wish you all the luck and may Angels guard your path . Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-01-08 21:16:30 +0000	Please leave him before it get worse Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-01-08 21:12:24 +0000	I think that it's time to get out.. There are a million people out there who will treat you bad, your husband should not be one of them.. Sorry that you have to deal with that... Good luck, :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-01-08 21:25:01 +0000	It sounds like this marriage is broken. Get divorced or talk to Dr. Phil...... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-01-08 21:14:25 +0000	Doesn't sound like there is much to stick around for, other than a chance his rage will get even more violent. Have you tried counseling? Maybe marriage counseling will shed some light on the underlying issues. Don't stick around to be abused, it's not worth risking your life over. Be strong, reach out to friends and family. You deserve better. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-01-09 00:00:55 +0000	try to find him these are family matters and find it common Nothing to worry change your mood of attitude and find way why he get anger he may be nice gentleman if you change your attitude in a new way all the best for your happiness Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-01-08 21:21:17 +0000	Why are you there? Divorce him! Get a life for yourself that is happy! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-01-08 21:17:17 +0000	Why in the world do you punish yourself? What is it you do not forgive about yourself that you have to live your life in bondage and need to get punished for? You did not get married, you gave yourself a "death penalty" life sentence. But you can go on parole and get free any time you decide. Your sins cannot be so bad that you have to live in hell. Get yourself together and out of that penitenciary. Life awaits you Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-01-08 21:10:29 +0000	U need to leave him before he hurts u Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-01-08 21:15:28 +0000	Why did you get married if you knew you were not going to be happy??? If you knew he was violent towards you, why did you marry him??? Again, did you not notice all of his habits and who he is before you married him??? Marriage is not at all dear, what we "expect" it to be, but if you love your partner and are willing to communicate with him, then you can try to make it work. I think the best thing for you both would be a divorce, you just can't get along. I think you both married for the wrong reasons. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-01-08 21:24:20 +0000	I cannot find it in myself to be sympathetic toward your plight. Are YOU not the one who was not happy from DAY ONE? Don't you think a husband becomes a bit vengeful when he is saddled with a wife who decides from the get go that HE is the problem for her unhappiness? All of your talk of patience and love is BULL CRAP coming from a person who probably has been complaining from day 1. I have to ask why he would try to anything to make you happy now as it is apparent that you will not be no matter what. I will point out now that you are responsible for much of your own happiness. Another very large part of happiness is voluntary. What is truly sad is that you have not realized this. I can't tell you to stay or go but I can conjecture that you will never be happy no matter what you are doing. It may be time to cut the crap and stop blaming your bad attitude on him. Very frequently we reap what we sow in a relationship. It sounds a lot like you have been sowing unhappiness for some time. Is it any wonder why he is very angry with you. YOU are the one who declared he does not love you and asked for his wedding ring back. I would have thrown it at you as well. Then my next step would have been to pack your clothes in a garbage bag throw them to the curb and show you the door. I guess I'm the only one here that might understand how he has come to feel about your unhappiness. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-01-08 21:14:26 +0000	You screwed up. Leave him before you waste anymore time and perhaps bring a baby into this mess. Your hubby is a control freak. He hates to lose because that is his main behavior, did you not see this before you got married? Are you blind or did you ignore it because you wanted to be married? I blame you both equally in this because you should have made sure you knew who he was before you said I do. You cannot change a dominate and controlling person, it is just their nature to be this way, so if you do not like it, leave. It doesn't sound like he would be upset if you did. And next time, take your blinders off and really get to know someone before you take the jump. Yoda out Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-01-08 21:17:41 +0000	Deary, if he's being violent, it's time to leave. You've been unhappy for so long and it's time to stand up for yourself. We all would like to think that in time people will change, and things would get better but he clearly isn't respecting you. Do you really want to stick around until it gets so bad to find out if he truly wants to change??? It never is. I suggest you look into some women's support groups, talk to your family doctor as they are a good source and keep everything confidential. Look into moving out on your own (if financially possible) or living with a relative until you can stand on your own two feet. Do you have kids? If so, I would high tail it out 10 times faster. This isn't a healthy situation and you need to take action before it gets worse. Please look at the links below as they can get you started on the right foot. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-01-08 21:16:26 +0000	It sounds like you are trying to get a rise out of him. You don't say that kind of thing to a person and not expect them to do something. Threats will always produce a reaction and it is usually a reaction that the threatener does not want. I can see that you are looking for a change in your marraige though. One thing you need to look at is if you are putting too much faith in him to make you happy. You can produce happiness in yourself without him. Go find a hobby or some friends to do things with. When there is a ballgame on that he wants to watch you go have fun. Don't push him to give up his hobby but live in your own. He may want to join you or just stay a hermit. Either way, you will be having a great time and living life to the fullest. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-01-08 21:17:04 +0000	Wasn't he like this when you were dating? Why did you marry him in the first place? And for the record, lots of people spend their weekends hanging out at home. But all that said, if there is violence, you have every right to get out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-01-08 21:17:59 +0000	I just can't imagine that poof..you got married and all the problems began. You knew that he was like this to some extent, and just because you marry someone the little light doesn't go off because you say "I do". If you're not happy, then make plans to get out especially if he doesn't want to change and is comfortable being who he is. You deserve better, I'm sure you've heard this before. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-01-08 21:41:36 +0000	Leave Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-01-08 21:22:51 +0000	i think you need leave him. he can be more and more agressive to you and can hurt you... i understand you loves him, but if he is not what you thought you need leave him Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-01-08 21:20:41 +0000	very sad for the childrens sake for sure. He needs counceling or something for sure, but don't take any chances of you or the kids getting hurt you should leave now Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-01-08 21:12:52 +0000	u need to leave him becuase he will only get worse and u will only get more miserable. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-01-08 21:22:55 +0000	If your husband is abusive, you should leave. But honestly, you say you haven't been happy since day one, and this comes as a surprise to you? Did you think that if you got married, fairy tale magic would cure him of his violent emotional outbursts, and everything would be ok? You need to leave him, and I am all for counseling and trying to work things out. Violence in inexcusable, and you need to leave before he hurts you. I hope you've learned a lesson, though: marriage will not change a person. They will be the same person you dated, and you can't change them either. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No