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WHY won't this girl stop texting/calling my husband?
I am maybe overly jealous about this.. she is a co-worker of his, and has been calling him outside of work for non realated work reasons. she will send him little text messages like "miss you cutie pie! you looked hot today! see you at work tomorrow" and "your the best! i love working with you...xoxo" I looked through his phone after I realized she had been calling. His text msgs he sent to her seemed as if he is slighty annoyed and just trying to be nice, but he also deleted alot of them too..
Do you think there is something going on here? Am I overreacting? Why won't he tell her that she shouldnt be texting him period or calling him when its not work related? Would i look like a psycho wife if i called her myself?
I talked to my husband about it and i don't know if he's being completely honest or not. He says that he's aware of what she's doing but for me not to be worried because there's nothing going on and for me to ignore it like he does.
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2008-12-15 05:56:51 +0000
Because she's in heat

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2008-12-15 05:57:29 +0000
Yes I think something else is going on. Women don't send messages saying, "You looked hot today" unless they are either being encouraged to, or they're a psycho. Either way, you have to get the upper hand in this.

Ignoring the messages is, clearly, not working.

Put your foot down. You won't look like a psycho wife. You will look like a woman who is taking care of business and protecting her marriage from more harm than has already been done.

Tell him, "Change your number, or else you look will like you're having an affair with this girl. If you want me to trust you, then do the right thing and STOP THIS BS!" He needs to take care of this, and also report it to Human Resources as harrassment at his place of work.

Then, sit him down and make him tell you the truth. How it started, how much they've "done" away from work ... eeeeeeeverything. Be prepared to hear stuff you don't want to hear, but remember: Happy husbands don't look twice at other women. I am not excusing him and his behavior, however ... if the 2 of you were having troubles and that's why he let things happen with this girl, how did you contribute to the troubles in the first place?

This isn't ALL about the girl ... ok ? She is a symptom of a bigger problem.

Best of luck !!

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2008-12-15 05:49:39 +0000
Please! if there's not nothing going on there will be.She got the hots for your man.She has no reason to be texting your husband anyway.Put a stop to it before it to dam late.

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2008-12-15 05:59:44 +0000
the question should be "Why wont my husband respect me enough to let this stop IMMEDIATELY"
since u talked to your husband already, it shows how much of a moron he is. sorry to tell you this.
maybe he loves the attn of two girls. maybe he does this to get you jealous.
the point is dont be dumb enough to fall for this. respect yourself and DEMAND this stop immediately otherwise DIVORCE.
the other woman is a moron also, but the biggest moron of all is the married dude who accepts these kinds of texts. dont be married to a moron. i know you can do better.

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2008-12-15 05:47:30 +0000
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Tell him your going to call his boss and turn her in for sexual harassment and see what his reaction is. Becasue thats what she is doing to him. If hes being honest and he doesnt want her to do this then he will agree with you. But I think hes cheating.

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2008-12-15 05:50:46 +0000
if there is nothing going on he wouldn't be getting those kinds of texts. obviously, there is something going on. You should get to the bottom of this. The only way to do that is hear her side of the story.

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2008-12-15 05:45:44 +0000
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I would be very worried...I talk/text to guys that are not my husband and I would NEVER say anything like that....ESPECIALLY if they had a wife...I would not want to upset her.

Also...your husband may not be saying YES...but he sure as hell isn't saying NO....

I would talk to your husband and HE needs to clear this up or YOU will.

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2008-12-15 05:46:56 +0000
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I would advise you to for now take his word on this. If he were having an affair I doubt he would send texts that sounded like he were annoyed. Maybe he is having problems with dealing with this because of the conflict it could potentially cause at work. Maybe they are doing a project together and he doesn't want to upset anyone. Or maybe he just doesn't see it as that big of a deal. If it keeps up have a serious talk with him about either changing his number or putting his foot down.

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2008-12-15 06:16:06 +0000
"you looked hot today"

ummmm totally inappropriate...especially from a 'co worker'
the text need to stop. Yes you will seem like the psycho wife if u call her--- tell your husband to tell her that he'd prefer she not call him or text unless its work related..he's married, faithful and not interested in pursuing any type of friendship/relationship with a co worker outside of work

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2008-12-15 05:52:32 +0000
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he is a liar and i know this cause i did it in my previous "life". Problem is he sends the annoying msgs and keeps them in the sent but deletes the other ones. If he didn't pay any attention to her then she'd stop. You should call her yourself. It is the only way to call him on his BS. She might lie too, but ask people he works with then.

Don't be naive. That's what sneaky people rely on.

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2008-12-15 05:48:47 +0000
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I am SORRY...but youtube Beyonce right now with to the left tooo the left..pack his **** and move it ova to the LEft..bc this is completely shady Buisness and you dont need be getting all worked up over this mofo..how unprofessional of her regardless a co worker is just that, tellin him he s all HOT well Mister Saucy likes his ego STROKED nice dont he..
YOU are not Psycho dont call yourself that this situation is wrong..this Manchild better set it straight with this woman..for if he put his boundaries straight up this b s would not persist him..

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2008-12-15 07:52:47 +0000
call and confront the girl.... tell her whatever is on your mind.. make your point that you are the wife and she is the flirty co worker. good luck!

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2008-12-15 05:53:26 +0000
You should let your husband know that while you understand there is nothing going on, you are NOT comfortable with this other woman sending these texts to your husband and that you want it to stop. I don't think you'd be a psycho wife if you called her. I would probably call her if I was in your situation. Maybe she doesn't know he's married.

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2008-12-15 05:45:52 +0000
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I would love this to happen to me! And, my wife should be very worried because I am.

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2008-12-15 05:54:18 +0000
Ok hun...call this CHICK!!! You are wifey! And no matter what, if ANY woman is making YOU uncomfortable in YOUR marriage well she needs to know first hand from you AND your husband. So yes I'd call the chick and lay it down!. Sounds pre bad that she is comfortable enough with texting him those things anyway. We as women do not like blatant rejection so if your husband was clear about his rejection to her she would NOT be texting still. Your husband has not done this....either he doesnt want to or he feels bad....but if he sees its really affecting his marriage he'd set her straight and she'd stop. I really think that you calling her and voicing your concern may make her try harder...if she's the skanky competitive type. So I think it will take you and your husband to get it thru to her. You 2 should call her together....that would send her running. Tell the mister to step up on this one.

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2008-12-15 06:36:58 +0000
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Your husband may be honest about the fact that the text messages don't mean anything, but, he shouldn't be receiving the text messages in the first place. If there's anything to talk about that's work related, they can walk over to each other's work place, or call each other on the work phone. Or use the work email. A personal phone is a personal phone and she shouldn't even have his #. He has to get his # changed. Now let's see if he does it. If she doesn't mean anything to him, he'll get it changed. Or, he can block her calls. It's really that simple, isn't it!??

He's already saying there's nothing going on. Well most men would delete a message from another woman. But even if what he says is true, the woman is desperate and wants your husband. Do not call her. This is up to him to take care of. He has to do whatever it takes to get the text/messages to stop because obviously she won't do it on her own.

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2008-12-15 05:53:17 +0000
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I think he should make it clear to that woman to stop calling/texting. She is being disrespectful of you and he is allowing it. If he is a quiet non confrontational person then this is not going to be easy and you would just have to follow your husbands lead.
If you do confront her and he never says anything to her, you would look like a jealous wife. She would then feel happy at how much power she has over you.

I would feel the same way! I DO think he should put a stop to it though.

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2008-12-15 05:51:54 +0000
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She's a *****! spoiling the peace, try taking a call with her and tell u dislike her behaviour/activities and try to put a stop.

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2008-12-15 06:10:22 +0000
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Get in her face and ask her wtf she think she's doing...tell her you are his wife and DO NOT contact YOUR husband after 5. Get in his face and tell him wtf has he been hiding. All thisshit stops here. Helllyeah somethings going on, and he's lousy at playing dumb. He's messing with her and she doesn't care if you find out or not! He's a real SOB to tell you to ignore it. He opened a can of worms and he needed to fix it, but since he WON'T, and if you still want him, then you fix it...I'd leave his A$$$.

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2008-12-15 10:27:46 +0000
If your husband is honest about not being interested in this girl throwing herself at him, he needs to do better than "ignore it like I do, there is nothing for you to worry about". He needs to tell this girl in no uncertain terms that the lovey-dovey messages will stop immediately, or he will file a sexual harassment complaint with their employer. If he is not willing to do that, you'll know he's hiding something. What that something might be, I'm sure I don't have to spell out to you in detail.

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