Should i tell his wife his secrets? to tell or not to tell?

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2009-04-12 21:44:35 +0000	Definitely don't tell his wife. Run away from him. Easier then all the drama that will follow it you tell. ** I AM IN THE PLAYPEN WITH MILDRED* Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 21:43:40 +0000	You should stop being friends with the man. He should not have told you anything about his past life. Put his dirty little secrets in the past and put him in the past. You don't need friends like that. I don't much like users also. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 21:45:15 +0000	As painful as it might be, if I were her I would want to know. You need to tell her. Would you want to be in her shoes? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 21:47:05 +0000	I think you just answered your own question. Your quote: "I feel as thought to get rid of him completely that includes his secrets." Move on! Leave him..... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 21:40:50 +0000	Tell her. Think about if it was your husband and you didn't know.. Maybe they can work things out or she'll leave him if he's that bad. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 21:43:33 +0000	No. If you really wanted to get rid of this guy why would you put yourself in the middle of his marriage? And why would these secrets burden your life? You will have nothing to do with him or his wife so why would you be affected? I think your being spiteful and are trying to seek revenge which is unfair to his wife because she has never harmed you in anyway so don't use her in your sick ploy for vengeance. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 21:56:06 +0000	Yes, you should tell his wife about the affair but don't be shocked if she is not surprised. This mans wife knows him well. Most wives do. She probably doesn't care about your little affair. Mistresses come and go but the wifey is there to stay..... anyways, yeah, go ahead and humor her...call her and tell her what she already knows so you can hear his wife giggle at you before she hangs the phone up on you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 21:44:10 +0000	You should mind your own business and stay out of their marriage. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 21:41:59 +0000	Write it all down, then you can decide whether you actually to send it or burn it. Keep in mind that he could become enraged and become a loony stalker. My guess is that she chooses not to acknowledge his betrayals. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 21:49:20 +0000	She should know but its not necessarily your place to tell her. Even though the guy may be total crap, give him warning and tell him that you are going to tell her (in case he wants to 'fess up - if he wants any chance at saving his marriage.) Marriage is a big deal. Maybe he needs to hear a "threat/ultimatum" to realize his mistake and try to save it. Otherwise, put his wife out of her misery and tell her!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 21:54:22 +0000	he shud be able to tell his wife himself... but seeing as he is a 'ratbag'... u cud tell but wud the wife believe you? and make sure the guy aint got nothing on u.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 21:43:47 +0000	I think, it's none of your business to get involved to his private affairs. I wouldn't talk to his wife, it's sure. You can not be sure that their marriage is happy, I think, you would just ruin their life better. Though, I can't understand why that man told you about his secret. I heard a story, when the man cheated his wife, and a common friend of them informed the wife about that, and the result was: the couple quarrelled a lot after it, they have no more in contact with that common friend, and the man changed workplace, and he still lives together with his wife. & I guess that he found another lover, or he still has the same. So, all in all, I don't think you could solve their problem. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 21:45:00 +0000	tell the secret to someone else, a counsellor, priest, someone who can listen. That way you get it out in the open and its not your dirty secret any more. dont know if there would be any benefit of his wife knowing now, in fact she probably already knows. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 21:39:31 +0000	the best thing to do would be to tell her i know i would want to know. wouldnt u want someone to tell u? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 21:57:55 +0000	she wont thank you for giving her bad news, no1 ever does. chances are she already knows he's a rat but if she is a close friend then you need to tell her Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 21:47:53 +0000	Yes you definitely tell her. She deserves not to live in a fake reality. She needs to make decisions in her life based on what is actually going on. She has to know, or she's going to make decisions that will just make her life worse down the road. I think you have a moral obligation. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 22:59:04 +0000	You say he used you... did you do something with him and now you're feeling guilty? He obviously plays around when she's not home, and he feels not guilt for what he's doing. YOU feel guilty for your part in his secrets. You have to know something before you think about telling her... You are going to lose her friendship forever. Whether or not you're playing with her toy, the saying "Shoot the messenger" comes into play here. She is going to be devastated, and lashing out at you is going to be her natuaral instinct. Now, put yourself in her situation. Would you want someone like YOU telling you your husband's secrets? Telling her is the right thing to do, in my opinion. Just understand that you're going to lose her as a friend. I hope my advice has helped, and I wish you luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 21:54:08 +0000	Don't get involved on somebody else marriage. You are not the first or the last one he is involved with. Stay away. Move forward not backwords. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 21:55:22 +0000	You ever here the term don't shoot the messenger? Be care full sweetie. That woman may want to hurt you in the worst way just because you knew before her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 21:53:39 +0000	You are only contemplating telling her to get back at this man.. So save us the BS of having the burden and baggage to carry around and just go tell her you know you want too just so it makes him miserable blah blah blah Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 21:42:43 +0000	You should only tell his wife if you are truly doing it for her benefit, not for your own redemption.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-04-12 21:41:05 +0000	I think your desire to tell him is more for you feeling better because he used you. That said, she does have a right to know, but realize, you will probably bear the brunt of her wrath, people usually blame the one that is easiest for them and in this case it will be easier to blame you than the man she has built a life with. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No