Should i file for divorce?

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Vinay Sharma	He is right, you need to give life to him. So get divorced for sure. Also remember, divorces will keep happening to you till this over-possessiveness and ultra-jealousies lasts in you. Regards Vinay Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥♥JB♥♥	i completelu understand i felt the same as you once, but a male can have a female best friend and vise versa, try asking her over for a meal or go out with her and your husband and see for yourself if you think anything is going on. get to know her first, divorce is very final if your wrong. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dee	Bickering non stop doesn't sound like a fun marriage. You have female instincts and there's probably a reason you haven't shared with us WHY you don't trust him around her. Maybe it's her looks that make you feel insecure or even worse, it's him flirting with her in your presence. You have shared your feelings with him and if he loves you, he should respect you enough to listen to your heart, which he is refusing to do. I can't help but wonder why this female is so important to him. If you don't have trust to build a marriage on, you have nothing. Before filing for a divorce, seek counseling, even if you have to do it alone. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Toonces	This is my take on this matter: You married and therefore you shouldn't have opposite sex friends. I don't mean like hanging out in groups ,of course that's fine. If a married man or woman hangs out with an opposite sex friend and its just the two of them, I consider this a date. This is cheating to me. I don't buy the"we are just friends" thing either. The issue of sex is always there, If your husband cannot respect this, save yourself a world of pain and dump him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ferg400	I don't blame you for feeling this way at all. Your husband's response to your request is absurd. Even if he disagrees with you he should be trying to make you feel comfortable. At best he is selfish and putting his friendship with this woman above his marriage, at worst he is cheating. If it were me, I would definitely divorce. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lilly l	I think it would be better if you are not with him . Thier relationship was built without you . If boundaries must be drawn then he needs to draw them on his own . How much do you really trust him? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Daniela	As hard as it might seem I agree with you. By him not taking your side he shows he doesn't have any loyalty towards you. And perhaps he isnt cheatin but emotionally he might be becuase he is choosing the lady friend over his own wife. Tell him how you feel that you feel insignificant over her and that you dont like her and simply that you respect his decision but that it will mean that you will leave him. If he doesnt change his mind by you saying that then I think your much better off. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Computer Tech Mike	If you are that insecure you never should have got married. You are totally overreacting. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Chealse	relationships are based on trust. so,if u realy luv ur husband u should trust him. but whatever u do think before taking such a huge decision abt getting divorced. cause if u do u might never get him back even if u want to. So,now its all up to u,but whatever u do first think abt it! (and from my point of veiw i don't think u should get diverced) GOOD LUCK! I WISH UR RELATIONSHIP ALL THE BEST! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

RobbieJ	Do what you feel you must but realize, it will not settle your trust issue. You will be running away from your own insecurities. Like you said, it's not him you don't trust, it's her. So, I think trusting in your husband would be your best bet. However, I would have a problem with my wife meeting a guy I don't trust for lunch or something if she's choosing him over me or just leaving me at home. If they can't hang out with me then they don't need to hang out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mark	i don't blame you for thinking this way because i have been in the same situation and i can tell you i never intended to be more than just friends with the woman i knew but she had other idea's and when a woman makes up her mind to get what she wants we men are powerless and i fall head first into the trap i just wish i had told my ex wife before things got too far out of hand as it cost me everything in the end and the woman in question was gone like a shot once she had done what she set out to do Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mike	married men should not have female friends....end of story. it makes for a very poor relationship and a big ? for the woman. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bob f	hi i work with lots of women as i am a male nurse /like you my wife worries i may stray .i have a few close female friends whom my wife has met .she now knows were just friends .but if you dont have trust you really dont have anything hun Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kady bug	I completely agree with u. You are his wife and he should respect your feelings. Yes men and women are allowed to have friends of the opposite sex, but if you are that uncomfortable with the friendship, well, he should do something about it. after all he marries you and your feelings should matter more than hers. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Adam H	Well first off you have to ask some of his friends about his personality. If his personality is trustable he's probably not lying. If his friends say he can be trusted i think you should give it a shot. Not all guys are liers. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

littleelttilmik	1) He hasn't done anything wrong yet or wronged you ? 2) If the girl is in his workplacwe he probably can't avoid her 3) Your instincts about her motives might be right but at the same time he has to do something wrong to divorce him...you'd have to wait for an affair and for you to find out 4) You've made your feelings clear..from his point of view he's got the message about her...maybe he can't avoid her and fulfill your wish 100% but he sure as hell knows not to have more than a professional relationship with her. Leave it at that and rest your mind 5) Leave it at that...what you've said about + arguments already had and start afresh with him 6 ) I'm a guy Fear about being cheated on happens and you're not mad to worry but you've said all you can to your husband and he knows not to fall prey to her ....he's gotta decide how to handle her in his own style. Meanwhile don't ruin your life thinking 2 steps ahead.....his infidelity may just never happen and if it does go ahead and divorce him cos you gave him fair warning. But in the meantime don't hit the self destruct button:) Keep your powder dry Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

David G	Some time it is good for a guy to have a female friend I have several it doesn't mean I am screwing them. It helps me see the female side of things that I don't understand. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sugarplum	If this was me, first I would want to know who this person is and what role she plays in his life and how much communications they have... If at any point I felt uncomfortable, hurt, insecure or anything else one might want to call it then I would ask for it to stop and if it didn't then that would tell me this person meant more than I did.... If you two can't work this out where both people are happy then divorce probably will be the best choice.... You don't make him choose but you express how you feel and that you would like for him to stop all communications with her and if he say no or says nothing and still communicates with her then you need to make your choice because he would have made his.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Linux Mint 8	Question is : Do you have any male friends which he may feel the same way about you seeing. Marriage is based on trust, if he trusts you then, I am afraid you have a problem that is not of his making. LUg. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kitteekatt	personally i think that people of the opposite sex cannot be friends and i can understand how how u feel, i would not like my husband to have a female friend. i can not understand why your husband, who is surposed to worship the ground u walk on, does not respect your wishes, he can see how upset u are about the situation but still turns it around that its ur problem ie, insecurities. you should be the only female he wants in his life, u are suposed to be each others best friend so why should be want another? i know all men aint the same but at the end of the day, if he can see that u r this upset about the situation and he still does nothin about it, it makes u think.... who is the most important woman in his life? u need to ask him this and make ur decision on what u are goin to do with ur life after his answer. i really feel for u hun and i hope everythin turns out ok for u xx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dezy	I completely understand .... you should get to know her friend.. hang out with her... it might be hard at first but...then you could see for yourself if anything is going down with them. Have him compromise ... im sure you dont go out with your guy friends ....im also sure that he might not like that. Anyway i hope all goes well! :-) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Zenthae	Compermise. And tell him he can hang around with her, if your always invited as well. Jealousy and insecurity is really hard to get over. Its been a constant battle with me for 5 years in my marriage. I am alot better now. But I still have my moments. And its most important to have a supporting husband. If he knows your insecure, then he should be wiling to help you through it, and compermise. Maybe by calling a few times and telling you he loves you when hes with her, or bring you along until you feel more comfortable with the situation. But he should never just tell you to deal with it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nellie	Ask your husband how he would feel if you were friends with a guy he didn't trust, and you refused to end the friendship. Most guys don't like having to think about the shoe being on the other foot. Now, your insecurity can be a damaging thing to a man's ego, especially if they are faithful. I think that one way for you to deal with how you feel about this woman is to face it head on. Hang out with her WITH your husband. Show your husband that you're making an effort to accept her presence in his life. If he's a good man, he'll see how difficult it is for you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sunshine	I agree with you 100%. I would feel the same way. "get over my feelings about her" = get over my feelings = get over yourself... This is how I see this, simply black or white. If you leave him, then he might understand... and it will then be up to you. He doesnt respect your feelings, so what is the point...? it is not companionship anyways, you said you feel lonely... so I guess you know yourself what to do, I am afraid. EDIT: To Mark, this is a load of BS that men are poweress when a woman sets out to do something. That would have been nice... :) Maybe you should have told that woman politely to f*** off, instead you are hiding from the responsibility of your selfish actions. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No