2008-11-14 17:59:06 +0000
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Well, I am not sure exactly what you are asking. I would say there is something definitely wrong if she is not in the mood. Maybe she does not feel sexy anymore. Have you tried to make her feel beautiful? I do not have children but I have been told by some of my friends that sometimes you might lose your sex drive (does not mean you won't get it back). I have read before that it is normal to lose your sex drive and this feeling can last for months. The only thing you can do right now is be supportive.
If you would like to read up on this.. here you go.
http://www.babycenter.com/404_is-it-normal-not-to-want-sex-after-having-a-baby_11804.bc
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2008-11-14 17:57:46 +0000
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Shes probably feeling embarrased cause of the body changes during pregnancy.
I mean you saw her swell up like a balloon (No offence) was there for the birth saw all the blood and gore ands maybe shes a bit insecure and embarrased about what you might think of her body,
I mean after pregnancy people end up with stretch marks and there bodies aint what it used to be, so maybe its that.
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2008-11-14 17:57:09 +0000
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box of rain you are too damn much!
LOL!
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2008-11-14 18:01:39 +0000
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omg are you my bofriend lol when i read your question im like omg thats whats exactly wrong in my relationship idk what to tell you since im in the same position i can tel you this though i dont like having sex because it seems like work for me the whole year ive tooken care of my daughter by myself im exhausted i never get a break and i clean and do all the other stuff so at the end of the night im way too tired and want to do the stuff i cant when my daughter is awake but i have like no sex drive at all anymore maybe she should go get her hormone levels checked i think i should follow my own advice also lol and its driving my fiance crazyy i feel bad
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2008-11-14 17:57:04 +0000
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A lot of women lose their sex drive after having a baby. BUT she needs to do some thing. You really need to talk to her. I am not really sure what to suggest, but this isn't ok. Tell her this. Tell her sex less then twice a week just isn't going to work..I mean, you aren't even married yet. If you can't change her mind, then ask yourself if you can live without sex for a while.
You really need to have a talk with her.
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2008-11-14 17:56:25 +0000
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give her time, how much? i don't know seems like you love her, seek counseling that should help out
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2008-11-14 17:59:12 +0000
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Ask her if she would consider making a doctor's appointment. During and after a pregnancy a woman's hormones get all out of whack. She may have some levels that are too low or high and that can be checked with a simple blood test. Women are usually more emotionally connected when they have sex. They need to have a good day, no arguments, get attention from you in a non sexual way before they can be in the mood. Guys work alot differently. I know being tired sounds more like an excuse, but really after you have a baby- especially if it's a long labor- it can take a really long time to feel back to normal. Maybe you can tell her how much you love her and you want to be close to her. Offer to get up with the baby sometimes in the morning. Get her off by herself shopping or something while you watch the baby so she has some alone time. Arrange for a date and someone to watch the baby. If you can't do that, wait until the baby is asleep and then pop in a movie and have a glass of wine with her cuddled up on the couch. If her hormone levels are really in check, you may have to "woo" her again to get her feeling better. After a pregnancy, a woman's body shape changes as well. She may not feel sexy any longer if she still has some pregnancy weight. Maybe she is feeling really self conscious about her body.
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2008-11-14 17:59:58 +0000
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dang i feel sad for you..just give her some time..my gf had the same problem...she was like the for 1 until i started to watch porn..then she changed
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2008-11-14 18:03:20 +0000
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This is very common after having a baby (yes it can go on for a year).
Since it has been a year I would say maybe she should talk to her doctor about it, maybe there is some way to help her and the doctor can advise her. Make sure you have talked to her first and it is not something you are doing wrong.
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2008-11-14 17:56:36 +0000
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You need to make it fun for her. Hugging and kissing is what she wants not a quickie.
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2008-11-14 17:57:29 +0000
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A lot of women after giving birth tend to reject the father of the child based on the fact that they now have a lifetime connection with them. Esp. if the guy didn't treat her right during her pregnancy. She sounds like she is revenging you for something.
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2008-11-14 17:57:11 +0000
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Have her go to the Dr and have her hormone levels checked, that may be the problem.
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2008-11-14 17:56:08 +0000
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Welcome to Yahoo Answers!
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2008-11-14 17:57:54 +0000
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Believe it or not, she is probably not lying. Women loose a lot of self esteem after giving birth. Their bodies change ALOT and they simply don't feel attractive anymore. The best thing that you can do, is always reassure her how beautiful that she is and how good she looks after having your child. It may or may not help with the "sack" situation but it can't hurt you relationship.
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2008-11-14 17:58:05 +0000
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If her sex drive is low have her go to her GYN there are medications she can take to bring that up. But I've heard that happening to a lot of women and for some reason they can't help but feel this way. Bt if you really want to fight for your sex life, research this online there are natural ways to go by upping the sex drive. Go to a counselor or a sex specialist maybe there are other ways to have sex that your fiance will enjoy more than before.
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