I would love to get out of this marriage made in hell of 8 long years.?

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Misty H	the only thing i can tell you is that if you keep living this way and not doing something about it, it will be your own fault if something happens to you or your children. I would seriously divorce him and if need be the next time he hits you or you are really banged up go to the hospital for medical help they will call the police and put a restraining order on him so he cant come within so many feet of you or the kids and then you will be able to file for divorce. Remove his name off your cards and everything else such as checking accounts and etc. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

country_girl	i am very touched by what you said! i know it can be rough getting out of relationship especially if you are scared of the them.. If you dont want to face him.. see if you get the most important stuff that you need out of the house while he is gone.. and stay at a friends or something! I really dont know all of your situatution but I can tell you this you do need to get of the relationship.. if he is like this and your are not happy that aint no place to be cuz one day it could get worse.. life is too short to be wasteing it on somebody that is like that! do something about and make your self happier.. I hope you take my advice.. and I hope everything gets better.. good luck girl Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cindra D	pack your things and leave. get a divorce and get yourself far away from this guy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

KellyR	Well first off alot of traits that you mentioned should have been a key not to marry him. if he's been married twice before you theres a key, also knowing he wont let his own children see their mother there's another one. but anyways i wont go into that because i'm sure you already see some of the mistakes you made and probably beat yourself up daily for getting yourself in this mess. don't be scared of leaving your husband because it will be worse in the long run if you stay with him. the debt you have aquired in your marriage will be split up between the two of you. no matter if its in your name only or not. also you need to start taking pictures of your bruises and marks he gives you and keep them somewhere he wont be able to find them. possibly get a lock box at the bank. you need to write full descriptions of the incident including your faults too. if you only write his faults and you make yourself to look perfect it will be very unbelievable. also you need to start calling the police when he hurts you, but most importantly you need to get our of the house and get a restraining order from him. maybe you can start taking small amounts of money and put them into a secret account so when you have enough you can put money down on an apartment. but you need to make sure he will never find out where you live, where you work, etc. no one can help you but yourself and i would think you would brave the world alone with your child rather than put yourself and your child through this. but your going to have to get higher authorities invovled. police and woman's shelters. you can do it but only if you choose to. also after you get out of the house and away from him call his exwive's and see if they had similiar lives with him as you do. if so they might testify for you in court. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Douglas B	No, it's not easier or smarter to stay in the marriage. You have to get a restraining order against him. Then you have to file for divorce. If you don't you will be dragged down lower than his level. You have an abusive husband, towards women it seems, althouh he has taken it out on his kids. And yours will be next on the block if you remain where you are. Do you want your son to turn out like one of his other kids? He hasn't done anything for them except break them down to be controlled by him. JUST GET OUT. If you don't you'll end up dying a slow death anyway, which you know other wise you wouldn't have written. But the restraining order first. Against him and his son. good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Arthur W	Contact your local legal aid asocation for the names of pro-bono lawyers in your area that do divorces for free, immediately. They can be found in the yellow pages. Then sue him for divorce and everything youre legally entitled to. Good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Love Perseveres! A&C mommy	I couldn't bare to live with this. Think about your safety and your child's safety. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Marie_(Canada)	Being in a relationship. Excuse me let me say being in a bad and unhealthy relationship is not admirable. Being in your shoes, I would prefer being single and happy that being in a relationship that is going nowhere. Girl wake up ! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

KingAndrew	Sure you can roll over and hide in the corner of your life, or you can do something for your own personal wellness. If you fear for yourself, then take the precautions before hand, get some money set back, make arrangements to have a place to go to, then file for divorce. You may have to file for a protective order but in the long run, you will be in a better place than you are now. So get up, get yourself ready, you can do this. You deserve to be happy and you will as soon as you get rid of this S.O.B. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

"Arkie Mom"	Get out, take your child with you, change your name and move to the other side of the earth. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

say it all...	You are scary...he is scary...why did you marry him again? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hi!...you suck.	RUN!! get away from that psycho Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

DC Maximus	Divorce him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SGT. Dillers Wifey	Anytime you are afraid of your husband it is time to get out. It will be hard going through a divorce with a man of this nature, and im usually very anti divorce. In your situation i think for you to keep your sanity and remained unharmed you need to get out.I suggest packing your things when he isnt home and elaving, if he is there it will cause conflict and you have no idea what he will do or how he will react. Go to a womens shelter and ask for help or see if a friend will let you stay with them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No