I caught my 8 year old son licking the crotch of my panties. He does not know. How should I confront him.?

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TryingToLearn	First pray about this situation. Then probably do nothing for now and watch him in general. I'm not sure if you should confront him or not. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dmonique86	First you need to let your son know that he mad a bad mistake and not to do it again Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jennymustafa	Kids do not just do things like that unless they have seen something similar. First, before confronting him, think hard about this. Has he caught you in the act before? Or do you know if it is possible that he's been around someone who may have done something he saw? Maybe that's how you could talk to him. Don't tell him what you saw, just talk to him about sex. I know it sounds crazy at his age, but I had to talk to my children about it at that age, because the babysitters' son was telling them things. I actually think I did the right thing. I felt like it was better for them to hear the truth about sex from me, then to hear crazy things from someone else. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cail_baby	yes definatlly tell him that id not ok to do Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

harry_2143	sorry i really don't know wat to say Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cosmo	The most difficult part of parenting is when NOT to say/do anything. Although close, I think this falls in this category. Don't make a big deal out of this and it won't be a big deal. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

valveman	TRY TO FIND OUT WHERE HE GOT THIS IDEA. AND DON'T MAKE A HUGE DEAL OUT OF IT. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rancher05	It is a bit different that such a young prepubescent boy would have such a sexual desire. I would do nothing at this time. Watch his behavior over a longer period and verify if the behavior continues. Do not confront the child about the issue. You do not want to shame him or create anxiety about sex. Be wise, be patient, be vigilant and loving...Later on you can consult with a therapist quietly about the matter .....if you see that it continues. Good luck.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

April TX	You need to take him to a child therapist. It sounds like he has been sexually abused. If you do not get him help , he could become a predator himself. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jamesdraven	were you wearing them? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

CocoChance_	Tell him that its not a good thing to do. But don't ask people on here what to do, you won't get good answers except from the people who literally think before they answer the questions . Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

odandme	Easier said than done... just sit down with him and have a heart to heart. Ask him why, how does it make you feel when you do it, etc. It's possible he just likes the feel of the material and it's not a sexual thing at all. If you feel he needs professional help please don't hesitate to get him some! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hayleyt05	if i was you i would talk to your son about it and ask him why he did he Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TheGr8st	Please don't underestimate the intellect of your eight year old son. Even though you may not be ready to confront your sons behavior it may be time to address these issues. You don't know what you son is learning from his peers etc. Be very patient and ready to answer any questions your son might have and don't chastise him for his behavior. This way you'll develop an open relationship about sensitive topic that you son won't be to embarrassed to come to you and the future and talk with you about these issues. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Fallen	Professional help now!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jacquelinebrns	You need to sit him down and gently talk to him. That is not a good behavioral sign. Maybe he needs some attention. Sometimes if a child has been mistreated (molested) he/she will act out in different ways. Good luck and you are in my prayers. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jrmygray	It is most likely that he got it from somewhere, whether he was watching TV or he happened to catch someone else do it. He could have also have been hyper which I believe is unlikely. And also at that age he doesn't know what that action symbolizes. So don't confront him, merely acknowledge him and tell that what he is doing is very bad and pay more attention to his company and what he watches Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

havanadig	was he wearing them at the time ,seriously it nothing to worry about forget it and put washables out of reach of CURIOUS hands Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Hard Luck	GET HIM TO COUNSELING BEFORE HE BECOMES THE NEXT SERIAL KILLER OR SOMETHING AND HOW DID HE GET YOUR PANTYS ANYWAY YOU NEED A LICENSE TO DRIVE A CAR BUT ANY IDIOT IN THE WORLD CAN HAVE A CHILD Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tata	HAVE HE SEEN ANYONE DOING THAT? SOMETIME YOU HAVE TO WATCH CHILDREN THAT CAN BE VERY SNEAKY AT PEEPING AND WATCHING THINGS ON T.V. GO TALK TO HIM, AND ASK WHY HE DONE THAT. AND IF HE SEEN SOMEONE DOING THAT AND JUST GO FROM THERE. I WOULD SUGGEST ALSO NOT PUTTING YOUR PANTIES WHERE HE CAN GET THEM NEXT TIME.HE COULD GO TO SOMEONE ELSE'S HOME AND IT MAY NOT BE GOOD IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

defbizkit99	Do what they used to do back in the day when you're caught smoking. Lock him in the out-house with a whole pack of cigaretts and make him smoke the whole pack. He'll get so sick that he'll never smoke again. Of course you're gonna have to change this to fit your situation. Like, throw him in the hamper. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

vc.	dont say anything and buy a laundry hamper for your dirty clothes and use it!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

thylawyer	You must be a weird cop. I have to assume you were not wearing them at the time, so the only remaining questions are, Were they in the laundry to be washed or in a drawer? And where did he learn this behavior> Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fizban_mccloud	I would just put them out of reach like others say here, so he can't get to them anymore. But most likely it is something he will do from now on. Don't confront him, it will embarrass him and he will hide any sexually related activity from you from that point on. Nothing worse than being caught by your mom doing something sexual. I bet he just loves smelling your scent and wants to taste you. Heck, if you are ever feeling lonely and he is around when he gets a little older, maybe he'd like to lick the real thing instead of just your panties. So why burn a bridge when you don't have to right now? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Neodiogenes	Why not consult a professional child development psychologist instead of the various unschooled morons in this place? So your kid is developing what seems to be a healthy attraction to the female scent? This is hardly abnormal, and perhaps there's nothing drastic you need to do about it. Yeah sure -- confront him, embarass him. Heck why not invite all his friends over so they can point fingers at him and laugh. Gee, that'll help him with his healthy sexual development. See what I mean about unschooled morons? There are millions of people who spend years in school learning how to deal with children's developmental issues. It would be wiser to ask their advice, not mine -- and certainly not anyone else on here, judging from the kind of responses you're getting. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pooh	why was your pantys around?you should have confronted him right then, why wait you are his mother Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

she7_wolf	Ask him what does he thinks about girls then move on to panties. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nc97	I would suggest you reserve action. I know it might seem kinda icky, but kids do some pretty bizzare things as they discover thier sexuality. Just keep an eye on him, nuture and love him (in a healthy way). If you see a lot of behavior that is cause for concern, talk to a professional before acting. More than likely, he will grow into a normal healthy young man with normal healthy desires and tastes (no pun intended). I remember my 15 y/o daugters best friend trying to climb into the shower with me (and she was a gorgeous young lady). Stark nekked and ready to go. I was carefull and gentle about stopping things from going any further (even though her effect on me was obvious). After that we had a rule in our home, no young ladies unless mom was home. I think about how that experience could have scarred her had I acted differently and what it might have done to her for the rest of her life (and for that matter, mine). Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nikkymos2000	so funny Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

blessedonengod	Being a parent, you face alot of weird times with kids. Like this one. In this situation a parent must sit the child down and tell them what you saw and why it's inappropriate. At his age he doesn't know right from wrong yet. He's still learning. So don't get upset. Once you talk to him in a calm, loving manner then he will understand. I've had to talk to one about something they did weird. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mad_dog_dave2003	He has seen it on tv... ask him why he did it and how did he feel... hes growing up and learning Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No