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How can I tell if my husband is brainwashing me?
I trust my husband but there are a few things that dont add up.
He explains when I ask about gifts, and many text/phone calls to another woman. I think I am being a good wife to try to get to the bottom of this situation I am uncomfortable with. He says "It is better to be wrong than suspicious" Am I being brainwashed and how do i get away?



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2008-07-23 18:47:05 +0000
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You see, when a man says things like "it is better to be wrong than suspicious" and won't answer your questions, he is either stealing the "gifts" (i.e. shoplifting) or he is definately cheating. Of course, if he is mormon or muslim, he probably believes it is his right as a man to have more than one wife at a time.

Just make a decision and stick with it.

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2008-07-23 18:47:38 +0000
I think the best way to know if your being manipulated is by the way you feel about yourself when you are with him. If whatever he says makes you feel bad then he is probably manipulating you in some way. No one should ever make you feel like you are being "suspicious" or "jealous" or whatever. Someone who loves you will understand and try to resolve any questions that are lingering in your mind. If you want to get away...Pack your stuff and go to a close friend or relatives. Good Luck :)

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2008-07-23 18:48:00 +0000
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Sounds like he controls you. It also sounds like whatever he says you listen to and obey. He is trying to get your mind off of things. You dang right he is cheating. It is right there in your face. Open up your eyes.

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2008-07-23 18:46:29 +0000
Cheaters will say anything. Stop asking him about it. Try to catch him with the help of friends or a good PI. Get good hard evidence (videotapes, incriminating photos or documents). Use this evidence in divorce court.

Edit: And I heartily side with "k" above. Amen to that.

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2008-07-23 18:49:23 +0000
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I could be wrong but based on what you are saying it sounds like he is hiding something. Sounds like he is seeing someone else. Do what is needed to find out and if he is seeing someone else weight the situation for yourself and decide what to do as far as leaving him, couples counseling or talking it out.

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2008-07-23 18:45:30 +0000
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He's blowing smoke up your azz... that doesn't even make any freakin' sense. Just smack the sh*t out of him the next time he says it.

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2008-07-23 18:45:04 +0000
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If soap suds start coming out of your ears.

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2008-07-23 18:53:42 +0000
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sounds like you already know he is playing you.... so what is the question?

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2008-07-23 18:49:28 +0000
HIS A PUNK TAKE IT ALL AND MOVE ON YOU DESERVE BETTER...

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2008-07-23 18:49:47 +0000
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Well, my soon to be ex might have thought the same thing, but I was suspicious and right. I didn't want to falsely accuse either, but I didn't, and you really should look into things. Its not brain washing, he just doesn't want to be caught cheating and he's manipulating you into thinking you'd be so wrong to falsely accuse him. If he was innocent (I guarantee by his answer that he's not!), then he would just deny it, not give you some bs about better to be wrong than suspicious. How about its better to be faithful than cheat? Try that on him, after you hire a p.i. Good luck!

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2008-07-23 18:52:00 +0000
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hes not brain washing you, he just know how gullible you are. If your reading text messages from other woman and hes trying to make you feel your doing something wrong, its because he does not want to get caught. Men first try to make the woman feel she has done something. Hes just trying to redirect your focus, looks like its working, now your more worried about being a good wife than the real issue, your husband is having an affair!!!!

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2008-07-23 18:53:26 +0000
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If you mean he is buying gifts for & texting another woman, then you need to divorce him. He is cheating on your marriage & you don't need a man like that.

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2008-07-23 18:49:11 +0000
I don't think I understand where the brainwashing part comes in.

You are right to ask him questions, better to ask than to make assumptions. He is right to answer your questions. If he tells you it's none of your business then you've got a problem.

I think "It's better to be wrong than suspicious" just means the same as what I said above. Better for you to ask and be wrong than to remain silently suspicious. If you don't talk about it, your imagination will likely create a worse situation than actually exists.

P.S. There are MANY perfectly innocent reasons for phone calls and texts to another woman, but I don't understand gifts.

Good luck.

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2008-07-23 18:49:30 +0000
"It is better to be wrong than suspicious"...sounds like bullsh1+ to me. I can't even fully understand what he means by that.

Maybe he's saying that it's better for him to be wrong (as in cheating), than for you to be suspicious of him. If that's true, then he's twisting the moral compass and acting a fool by saying anything to justify his actions.

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2008-07-23 19:09:08 +0000
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"it's better to be wrong than suspicious"? what on earth? that's idiotic. it's better for you to be wrong and believe he's honest and not cheating than to be susupicious of behavior that clearly states he's at least attempting to cheat on you and isn't even trying to really hide it? It would seem he doesn't love you, or even care, your just there so he looks good.
I'd say it's better to be suspicious and find out you were wrong than to be "wrong" and find out he's cheating on you. You should probably hire a private eye, or perhaps get in touch with the tv show cheaters, and have them see if he's cheating, then you'll know for sure.
If you accept what he's saying, then yes, you have been brainwashed. If you can think on your own, and figure out that he isn't treating you right and is probably cheating on you, then you'll be ok as long as you get out.

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2008-07-23 18:45:16 +0000
He is cheating and he's brainwashing you?

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2008-07-23 18:50:05 +0000
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I think that if you look for something, you will always find what you're looking for, eventually, in some way or another.. Unfortunetaly, you do not have control of his every move (not assuming anything), neither does he of your actions; which is why trust is so important in a relationship. It IS better to be wrong that suspicious. Suspicion leads to much greater and uglier fights and doubts and ruins that essential trust that must be there. Have a serious, calm, respectful, loving, talk to him about how you feel...again, trust is what your builing the marriage upon, right?

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2008-07-23 18:48:37 +0000
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wake the f uppppp. u have asked how many questions today?????? he is cheatinggg on u.....yes he isssss, he isss, he issss, he issssss.....now what are u going to do?? sit and take it orrrrr stay on yahooo asking the same question and over!!! leave him ur better then that..u look like a fool beliving his lies and staying!

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2008-07-23 18:51:32 +0000
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First things first, the appropriate way to phrase this question would be "how do I know if I'm being cheated on" brainwashing is an entirely different situation and you're more worried about wether or not your husband is being truthful.

My advice is to sit down and talk with him. Explain that you're not accusing him of anything, just that the situation makes you uncomfortable. You need to open up communications between yourself and your husband not shut them down by snooping and comming to false conclusions. Believe me, the longer you let these feelings fester, the stronger they will become and the insueing arguements could be detramental to your marrage.

Expressing your feelings in terms of 'I' helps to make the situation a lot less threatening as well. For instance you could say things like "I feel unconfortable with this.." "I am worried..." "I want to communicate better..." instead of "YOU are cheating on me..." "YOU are behaving suspiciously..." "YOU need to chance..." etc. T

ry visiting marrage cousuling if it gets very bad. Remember: don't be acusatory in your conversations, they will only shut him down and you will get nowhere.

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2008-07-23 18:50:57 +0000
Ooooh..."It is better to be wrong than suspicious." That would annoy me beyond belief. Sounds a little defensive to me.

I don't think that brainwashed is the right word...maybe bamboozled?

Has he ever given you reason to suspect him before? Is your questioning based on a pattern of behavior?

There's nothing wrong with your spouse having female friends and giving "appropriate" gifts (birthday, holiday, etc.) and making phone calls. But I would think that he would be concerned about your well being and level of comfort.

I would also like to state: I am NOT a therapist or psychologist or specialist, but I think common sense is always a good way to go. This is my opinion, and only an opinion - not fact.

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2008-07-23 18:46:38 +0000
u just asked

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2008-07-23 18:53:39 +0000
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If you have doubts like that I would recommend leaving him.
Also I would recommend that you seek psychiatric help.

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2008-07-23 18:46:59 +0000
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I think you have every right to ask, and being that the two of you are married, I would hope that he would be honest with you about the answer. Suspicion sucks, and it feels even worse to wonder what is going on. I wouldn't call it brainwashing, but as partners, he shouldn't make you feel that your wrong. If he's up to nothing, he will reaffirm you and help you feel secure again. If he's trying to make you feel like the bad guy, then I think it's his way of pinning guilt on you because of his wrong doing.

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2008-07-23 18:48:09 +0000
You're not being brainwashed; you suffer from a very common malady known as stupidity.

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2008-07-23 18:52:30 +0000
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Tell him, F U and leave him... He is obviously cheating on you and he will continue to brain wash you as long as you allow it.....

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2008-07-23 18:44:51 +0000
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wtf?

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2008-07-23 18:54:25 +0000
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call this woman and tell her to stop calling the homeworker and look at him and say a lier is a lier and a cheat is a cheat and you are right to look into this divorce this bum he is a cheating husband dont let him convince you otherwise hes doing something wrong and he is telling you its alright for him to do what he wants

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2008-07-23 18:46:48 +0000
First of all, your husband shouldn't be giving gifts and sending suspicious text messages to other women. And he seems to be "brainwashing" you to make himself look like he's not doing anything wrong. But, he is and you should not put up with it. Show him that you are more than upset about it and then tell him that he needs to grow up or give you a divorce.

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2008-07-23 18:45:51 +0000
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What the heck?

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2008-07-23 18:46:26 +0000
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I'd say "it's better to be divorced than to be chumped".

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