He doesn't want to talk about our relationship?

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2008-07-11 13:45:04 +0000	well hun its not just you and yours its a lot of men. my x was the same. we could talk about stuff that wasnt really important but when it came to talking about serious stuff he would ignore me or get all crappy acting bc of it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-07-11 13:40:33 +0000	So, you want him to talk. But when he says something, you get upset and tell him to stop... Seek couples counseling. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-07-11 14:15:41 +0000	it kinda sounds like he is cheating or is just really immature and doesnt like conversation Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-07-11 13:41:16 +0000	You should go see a counselor. That's what they are there for.. The way you go about telling him.. is your decision. But some ideas would be to come out and say it, or say you are taking him somewhere that he will like as a surprise, because in the long run, he will like it. It will make him realize a lot. Hope I helped =] Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-07-11 13:40:45 +0000	Why force yourself to deal with him at all? Its your life; you decide what to do. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-07-11 13:41:19 +0000	Some men for some reason get uncomfortable talking about relationships, or just think its 'stupid' to express their feelings by talking. If it is really bothering you, confront him about it, just sit him down and explain that you want him to start communicating about the relationship and explain that him giving you the cold shoulder is really upsetting you. I really do hope this helps hunn. Best of luck. -aliciaaadawnnn :] Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-07-11 13:43:48 +0000	Writing him a letter would be a good idea, if that doest work maybe speak to one of his relatives if you are on talking terms with them and see if they can get through to him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-07-11 13:43:01 +0000	Hit the gym, work out, and give him a ********. (Guys have feelings, but at the end of the day we are a lot simpler than most woman think we are.) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-07-11 13:45:44 +0000	Sometimes they just don't get it, do they? He needs a reality check. When you feel the time is appropriate, just put it to him bluntly. Just say something like, "Look, this isn't working for me. We are having some serious problems with our relationship. Either we talk about it and come up with a plan on how to fix it or I'm out of here. I'm just letting you know that I'm not going to continue staying in a marriage with no communication. " Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-07-11 13:47:00 +0000	Find ways to compromise...compromise...compromise! If he starts saying things...just listen. Don't gripe...just listen! Maybe it's the only way he knows how to communicate! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-07-11 13:39:45 +0000	dump him, move on. good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-07-11 13:43:35 +0000	It will take a lot of time. I am in the same situation right now. But once i concentrated on myself things got a little better and I am planning on taking him somewhere once a month. Out to eat, a sports game, waterpark, amusement park. Maybe even a trip sometime. After him doing everything for me for about 4 years i can defanitely start doing some things for him--he has needs and wants too. we have been together for 6 years in september. Not only that but maybe you will get something in return. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-07-11 13:50:06 +0000	Sounds like he is trying through action which could be the way he is, and you are pushing those efforts away as not good enough. Most men don't want to sit and talk about relationships and feelings, if something is wrong they want to fix it with action not words. And if you are complaining about housework, he sees that as the problem so he is trying to fix it. They say communication is the best thing for a relationship, and us women we get that and are good at most of the time. But men don't so the key is finding out how to best communicate with our husband so that they will understand the true problem only then can they fix it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-07-11 13:45:59 +0000	You can't have a relationship with someone that doesn't tell you how they truely fell .It will never go anywhere ... Move on........... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-07-11 13:54:29 +0000	In my experience, most men do not come out and say what's wrong. As annoying as it is, they think we are mind readers. And I think most women probably are, at least as far as their significant other is concerned. When I can tell something is bothering my husband, I ask what is wrong and if he's not ready to talk, he won't. I do what you do, go about my business. When it's time for him to unload, he will. They grow as the relationship grows, even though we go in full force at the beginning. If you love him, stick by him. He'll open up as time goes on. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-07-11 13:39:45 +0000	Perhaps find an activity that you both enjoy that you can do together. If you spend all your time with him asking about the relationship, he's going to get annoyed because that's not fun. Instead of worrying about it, make it fun and enjoy yourselves. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-07-11 13:39:34 +0000	Your husband is immature Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-07-11 13:40:53 +0000	Men dont like to share feelings ..most anyways..Im married too and my husband is the same way and when i ask him why he says cause thats just how guys are, Men are programed differently than us woman. We like to be open and discuss feelings. Men dont. I wouldnt worry too much. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-07-11 13:40:47 +0000	ya he is immature and if he doesnt want to talk about your relationship you dont have one, sorry! =( Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-07-11 13:46:26 +0000	I would go see a marriage counselor....even if he doesnt come along, I would go alone & they can help you through this. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2008-07-11 13:48:39 +0000	Join the club, most men avoid talking about problems, why? They think this is the solution to avoiding arguments. We women want to talk about it because it is the only way we know how to sort our our feelings that is causing the problems. Men avoid, women talk. Frustrating it is! Solution? Is to find ways to approach a subject of concern without attacking him or criticising him. Difficult to do? Not really. What is difficult is the the image his avoidance is bringing to you, and that is that he does not care. If you can keep in mind that he does care, but it is just not in him to feel comfortable to talk about feelings, he is more comfortable in finding a solution. Funny huh? If he only knew the real solution would be if he showed interest in talking about it. So what you do is ask him for a solution. For example, if the problems has been that he refuses to take out the trash and it has been an ongoing problem, then instead of saying to him, "I want to talk about why it is you do not feel you have to do your part around here", you say, " Honey, sometimes when the trash can is full it begins to cause a foul order by the end of the day, can you tell me what can be done to ensure this does not happen"?...this is just an example intended to give you the idea of what I mean. Good luck to you! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No