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 Is there something wrong with me..about sex?
I think about sex all the time, seriously. I am at work and almost every guy I see.. I imagine him doing naughty things to me. What the hell is going on?
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Fiance is looking at porn, what do I do?
My fiance is the type that he tells what he thinks and doesn't care what people say. He looks at porn in the internet behind my back and then deletes the history. I downloaded a program that tracks where people have been and everytime I am not around or sleeping he goes to these sites and when I ask about it he says it is not him or he doesn't know what I am talking about. What should I do. I know it is him because it's not me and it's not our 19 month old son. please help, him denying it is pushing us apart. he thinks I don't trust him which is not true I do I just want him to admit that he looks at it.



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Jackanater
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Tell him to choose between the porn or you. Chances are he is addicted to it. He probably cheats too.

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alwayswvgirl
Watch it WITH him! He will get the visual affect he needs, and you will be hot and bothered too - it's a win/win situation.

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pogiguy05
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well all guys watch porn. just because your married does not change that. as long as he is only watching porn. it could be worse he could be actually trying to find someone to cheat with on you. You say you trust him but you track him on the computer. that shows you do not trust him somewhat.

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KO the Con's
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Stop being getting your panties in a bunch and just let him do it

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Proud wife
While I understand your concern, you have to realize that you are invading his privacy. Do you tell him everything that you do when he isn't around? Do you tell him if you had a bowel movement that day or if you cleaned your female area? All men look at porn, there's no stopping that. Be happy that he isn't going to another female and cheating on you. Perhaps you could try to join him with the porn?

In any event, you need to put a stop to invading his privacy like that, or you will end up losing him.

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dude0116
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Leave the issue alone the more you harp on it the more he is going to do it..Accept the fact that ALL MEN or I should say MOST MEN look at porn..Why don't you get a porn movie and watch it with him maybe that will cure his addiction or sneakiness...IF its not you thing then just accept that your husband looks at it and stop nagging him Your correct it will and it is driving you apart..Even your spy ware on your pc is wrong If my wife tried that on me I would smash the pc!! You dont trust me I dont trust you!!

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<3 Mmm's <3
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your husband to be is a jerk.
DONT LET ANYONE tell you "its normal, " it is NOT, and hes a jerk, for doing something that bothers you, intentionally, he has no respect for you or women in general.
it is not " a guy thing", ........Your relationship is lacking something?? if its not, then he is simply a jerk.
Porn is for people who's relationships are not satisfying within themselves, and again, not all men are into such nonsense,...there are many men with morals in the world, and respect and your husband is far from that. Leave the jerk,

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Bernie D
Offer to watch porn with him. Watching porn together can be a good way to explore and come up with new ideas to implement in the bedroom. I doubt he'll hide it if he knows you approve. You might have more fun together.

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Wiser1
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If you don't mind, let it go. If you do mind, you either have to get used to it or break the engagement. (I'd break the engagement myself.)

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ouragon
Many women on here have been convinced that porn is great by their porn addicted or otherwise partners, until they post questions about why he won't have sex with them anymore. I decided to skip that. I told my husband it's not ok if he wants to be married to me. Instead, we have sex with each other. This is a problem because your fiancé is lying to you, and you were smart enough to get to the bottom of it. Why should you trust him? He's LYING! I wouldn't marry a man I had to spy on. Period. Either I would trust him to be honest (which he's not) or I wouldn't marry him. Also, I wouldn't marry a man who was sneaking around to watch porn, because this is an indication that porn is a BIG problem in his life. Check out this website:


http://www.pornaddicthubby.com/

Porn isn't an innocent thing that all men do, that's just a line of crap that men use to make their wives shut up. They use it because it works! They also tell women that if they don't approve of porn they have body image problems (I LOVE to go to nude beaches) and they are uncomfortable with sex (I'm probably more interested in sex than my husband is...that's why I don't want him wasting his sexuality on porn...I want it ALL). Many of these answers reflect these attitudes, but the fact is, it's a problem if it's a problem for you. Good luck.

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bootsontheroad
Another, porn is evil and I am going to change them. You don't trust him, then do not marry him. Move out and move on.

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you dont marry him, find yourself a real man, who respects you and his love for you and women in general....
porn is not a "normal" thing, ..its pathetic.

I am also a male, who has never been into porn, maybe softcore , when i was an immaute 12 yr old. geesus, grow the fk up people.

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forever love
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I don't see the problem other than he is lying about it. Just tell him that you're fine with it and then he won't have to hide it. Also porn isn't as bad as some of the people on here will lead you to believe. I never used to watch porn but found a stash that my husband had and was like when did you get these? And when were you gonna ask me to watch with you? He said he didn't think I would approve of it so he kept them a secret. Now we watch all porn movies together - and you know what some of them have some great ideas.

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Army Wife
Cancel the engagement and start looking for child support arrangements. He will not stop, you won't change him ... better put an end to this whole thing before you start policing every move. What do you want from a guy who refuses to be honest?

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riddlemethis
I'm having a similar problem, except I'm married to my guy and instead of porn, he goes on dating websites.
I've confronted him before, he denies it, and we get into big arguments.
I wish he would look at porn, admit it, and I'd probably watch it with him, even buy him porn. But dating websites??? Just wanting you to know you are not alone with having to deal with men that can't be honest.
Good Luck and if you figure out how to fix this problem, let me know!

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youcancallmesandizzle
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what do you mean what do you do? you accept the fact that he's a man, and he's going to look at porn. just because he looks at it doesnt mean he doesnt find you extremely attractive and do-able...its just a guy thing...and he isnt going to fess up because you're nagging him...and he more than likely thinks that by admitting it, a huge fight is going to break out...
not that its any of my business, but is he looking at it obsessively because maybe things arent as good in the bedroom as they used to be? think about things like that...but all in all, you arent going to find a man that doesnt look at porn...so you are going to have to accept it, or you're going to be hung up on this forever and ever...

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Breeze
Clearly you don't trust him or you wouldn't be installing spyware on your computer to track what websites he goes to. Alot of people look at porn on the internet. Even people who have healthy relationships. He is probably only lying about it because 1) you are making accusations to him instead of talking to him reasonably and 2) he is probably embarrassed. There is nothing wrong with what he is doing as long as it is not affected your intimate life w/ him. If the problem you have is not with his looking at porn, but with him lying about it then you need to make it a comfortable topic for him to discuss with you. Go out and buy or rent a porn movie and ask him to watch it with you. It will make him feel less self conscious so that he will talk to you about it instead of lying to you. Also, it will add a whole new level of excitement for the two of you in the bedroom.

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heimikkat
here's what to do
let him look at the porn
enjoy it with him
unless you think its somehow degrading to watch porn..in which case..still give it a try & see if you change your mind

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333
...i feel bad for ya,...i also agree with michael and me, ...NOT ALL MEN watch porn, ...anyone who thinks so is a just stupid.
I AM A 29 YR OLD MALE who has never been into that sh*t, ..my girl gives me what i need, and i her so all these morons out there that think all men watch porn...are definitely very uneducated.
Watching a bunch of wh*res on a screen doenst do it for me, i'll take the real thing any day.

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love&kindness
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why does he have to admit it to you when u already know the answer. just let him know that he does not have to lie to u about it, and express ho it bothers u that he looks at it. if he can not respect ur wishes, then maybe it is time to reevaluate ur relationship.

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Spindrift
The more you nag him the worse it will get; ALL men look at porn, ALL of them and if you can't handle it then you need to stay single because very man out there looks at porn and you need to be aware of that and accept it and not spy on your fiance. That is far worse than watching porn.

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saini praveen
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you are sure no one else use the pc.
then tell him that it is possible to downloaded a program that tracks where people have been .
I hope he will admit
he must admit it with his wife .

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adrie_nicole69
My husband was the same way. LOL he said it makes him feel like a teenage boy when watching it that was why he tries to hide it. Well I told him I wasn't his mother and maybe I do to much for him to make him feel I was mothering him. I stopped doing things and told him maybe he should call mommy. Then Eventually after many long conversations I got him to start watching it with me. I told him i don't care if he watches it and jerks off heck he aint the only one in the house that plays alone sometimes. I just hated the fact he felt he needed to hide it and lie. Once he stopped and realized how open and honest I was about myself he got the hint. I'd be watching tv and just get my toy out and go to town. He would see me doing it. So he doesnt hide it now. Now he ask me if i need any him to help.

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sheloves_dablues
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But you DON'T trust him.. You proved it when you set up a program to spy on him.

He denies it because you're so opposed to it. He doesn't want to hurt you. And if he'd looking at it when you're not home or are sleeping, what's the issue? It would be a problem is he was doing it when you were awake, trying to get laid...

Why do you want so badly for him to admit it? He does it. He knows it. You know it. Leave it alone.

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Sabine É
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get rid of the computer. ...or keep monitoring him and fighting over it. your choice

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owise1
he will only admit to it if you push the issue and tell him how you know, this will in turn prove to him that you DON'T trust him....porn seems to be a huge issue with many people and unfortunately for you he likes it and you don't want him looking at it. If you feel the need to have absolute truth with him about this then you would need to open up in how you know about it and if that's the course you take be aware of how he might react in the end. I wish you the best of luck because it always seems that the men and women that need porn will always need it and no matter how many times they deny it they always go back....good luck

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sweetpicker
If you really trusted him you wouldn't have put that software tracking on the computer. He probably doesn't know why he watches porn. Most men do. The issue is honesty. Tell him (he already knows) you are tracking him so show him the proof and then you need a discussion about honesty - get counseling.

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Jan Stolz
In my book anyone who'd rather look at pictures than experience the actual thing, is just a little off. Nothing can be done, however, until he admits he has a problem.

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Not the likely suspect
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Watch it with him and stop spying on him. What is your problem?

How can he get you to stop being nosy rosy?

I watch with my guy and you should too.

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Gee
"My fiance is the type that he tells what he thinks and doesn't care what people say" - He must care what YOU think otherwise he would admit he is looking at porn. That he isn't telling you the truth is that he realizes YOU don't like it, YOU will hold it over his head, and YOU will make his life a living hell for looking at it.

"he thinks I don't trust him which is not true" - Than why did you put Spyware on your computer to track his porn habits?

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Upper Class White Trash©
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Stop feeling self conscious about his love and want for you. He is a guy and even if he isn't horny he is going to look at porn, he doesn't love you any less. Sometimes it can seem almost an addiction but unless it is impeding on his work and social and sex life with you leave him alone and let him be a guy

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