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Nemo
Everytime I see a pretty lady I immediately look at my husbands face to see if he stares at her?
Please help me, my life is becoming a nightmare I can't go anywhere now without having an argument with my husband. whenever a pretty lady walks past I immediately stare at my husband to see if he looks over at her and if he does we end up having a blazing row, I just can't help myself, it started since I found a porno mag in his car 2 years ago and now I feel so paronoid, he sometimes gazes over at women at will look them up and down, I've never caugh him cheating but I just cant help but to keep looking at his face when we got out. It's made my life so miserable. I dont like going out anymore and if I do go out I don't enjoy myself. I'm suffer from deppression at the moment anyway and when he looks over at women it makes me want to die. The problem is sometimes he doesn't even look at women, but if a pretty lady walks past him and I even think he saw her it makes me feel so down. Please can you help me get a grip because I feel like i'm going mad. Thank you for reading this.



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Magster
Men do this all the time - I was sitting in the park one day just people watching and there was a girl layed out on the grass with a bikini on and every man that walked passed her had a good look including this married couple that went by and his wife was stunning (unlike the girl layed out on the grass) but he still had a look. I can see your point if he really is having a real up and down look at every thing in a skirt but next time you are out just watch others you will see that I am right.

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Cruz
strange you seem to spot the pretty girls about 5 seconds before your husband does! no its normal every woman does it you'll spot a potential threat about a minute before you bloke does. just don't get hung up on it he's with you and a porno is just fantasy not reality.

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Ken
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Please don't feel this way. Most men, even the lesser human ones, do look at women but it doesn't mean they will act and cheat on you. Just like men admire cars, it doesn't mean they yearn for one and will buy one. I know all men would at least have a porno mag but that is a natural thing. I think you are worried too much and feel insecure. My spouse also gets cranky but I don't go out looking or be unfaithful. Don't worry. Men can't help being men.

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*izzybum*
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God, I feel for you thats so hard. I do the exact seme thing with my fiancee and did the same with my ex.
When you say you dont go out, do you mean becoz of your husband? If thats the case then go out with a friend, you wont have the worry of keeping an eye on him to satisfy your paranoia, and you can just relax and enjoy being you. The more often you do it, the better you feel, til' eventually you'll start to rely less and less on your husband for feeling secure, which is what youre doing.
You'll be more independant and hopefully, one day you can say to yourself 'If he cheats, my life wont end'
Try relying on yourself for happiness and not your husband. Men always let you down, in many ways.
I'd suggest finding an evening class you might enjoy.
It feels like your brain is gonna explode with worry sometimes, its a vicious circle. It'll get better. good luck ;-)

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earthaintdying
Firstly, do you look at attractive guys if you see one? It's just natural and human to look at pretty things, whether it's a sunset, a tree or a human, it's normal! Don't feel jealous or insecure, he's by your side! At the end of the day men have much higher sex drives then women (on average) so reading porn mags or watch porn on tv is just a way of them venting this. You should look at this this way, it's better to glance at women and read porn that to cheat on you. I think most women get jealous of these things at some point but it can eat us up inside which isn't healthy. You just need to reprogram your brain into thinking a different way. If you see him looking at a woman then just shrug it off and have a giggle to yourself that he's so predictable! Obviously your depression is magnifying things like this so maybe you should see a shrink so you can talk through your problems.

Don't worry though, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you :)

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ateez9
1st can you honestly tell me you never look at a guy??? 2nd if he hasn't acted on anything he has looked at..........you only need to worry if he starts looking at the guys!!

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Master
your absolutly horrible treating this man like you do...Hes a MAN let him look...Hes not cheating Hes not trying to pick them up Hes not even flirting..come on lady get a grip..why dont you be HIS wife, and respect him for being a man, why dont you be the good wife and stop bytching at Him thats not your place, your to be submissive and obedient to him He is YOUR King treat Him like one or He will start cheating and then He will leave once He finds a gal that knows how to be HIS female...

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Here&#39;s your change
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Just because he's looking at other women doesn't mean those women want him in return. You know what I'm saying?

He's in your bed every night. You married the guy.
Would you really wish that upon another woman?

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jacg
I think you have seen the porn mag which has stirred up some feelings of inadequacy in you and this has led to you subconsciously wondering whether your husband has or woll cheat on you. It seems that the finding of the mag has made you see a different side to your husband that you never knew he had.

Firstly, console yourself that there are different reasons for why men find porn interesting/exciting and they are not all to do with not being satisfied in their relationship. Some see it as a fantasy that they could never have. You must have had occasions in the past when you've seen something and wondered what it would be like to have it. It's the age old problem that men can disassociate love and sex whereas for women it is all part of the same thing. Just because he's looked at a magazine doesn't mean he's going to dash out and ravish the first woman he sees.

It is not the lusting after a pretty woman that will lure him away. It is the paranoia and the false accusations that will drive him away. Why do you feel like this? Did some previous boyfriend treat you badly? If so, it's time to dump the baggage before it ruins a perfectly good marriage. Not all men are the same.

Are you trying to compare yourself to the women in the magazine? Don't. They look as good as they do because of airbrushing, good photography and careful lighting. After the photoshoot, they got dressed, waited at the bus stop, went home, had a microwave dinner in front of Eastenders whilst dressed in their fleece pyjamas, fluffy slippers and dressing gown - it's a job for them, nothing more.

If you spend all your time looking around you thinking that each woman you see is prettier and more attractive than you, you are wrong. What makes someone beautiful is not their outward appearance but their personality and attitude. You don't know that they are any more happy and fulfilled in life than you are, pretty face or not. Try to think about what it was that first attracted your husband to you and then try to regain that. By becoming this obssessive, jealous type is a sure fire way to achieve what you want least - for him to leave you because he's had anough.

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Babycat
Honey - looking is not cheating. We all look. That's normal. Don't do this to yourself because you are going to drive yourself crazy. Next time you walk by a pretty woman don't give into the urge to say something it is not worth making an issue out of it, this is your problem, not his. And if you continue it will be a major problem. Talk to him - tell him you don't mean to be like this - you just get a little insecure when you think you may lose his love. If he is a good man, he will help you by making you feel more secure. But don't fight if he is only looking- or- you think he is. It is silly.

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Lola G
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You really have to sort out your feelings about things. It is perfectly natural for men to look at pretty women & women to look at handsome men - it doesn't mean anything further will happen. You need to work out why you feel insecure, after all the man married you so he must love you! It's probably as you are suffering from depression that you feel more anxious, but there is little that he will be able to do (other than blindfold himself) to help you to stop being so paranoid about this. Rather than let it turn into a big row, take a breath in, count to ten & try to relax yourself, even if you feel tense. Never bring the situation up when it has happened, if you wait until you get home by then it shouldn't seem like such a big deal anymore.

The only one who can really help you is you.

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Mossespa
Honey, he ain't gonna stop doing it so you better make your peace with it or blow him away. Guys are like that, i got that very same problem with my bf, after two years of relationship, he just can't help looking at other women on the street, at first i was hysterical and we'd fight every day, but now i tell him, look, a great a ss over there, and he'd say nah, i don't think so. Get over it. i can become a real big problem, and you don't want it to.

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Elizabeth H
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I'm sorry this is making you feel so crap. I have suffered with depression and went through the same thing. It causes your self esteem to be low and you feel inferior to other women. It's not you, it's the depression. Once you feel better it will pass. In the meantime make yourself look and feel as attractive as you can to enhance your self esteem. Talk to your husband and give him suggestions about how to respond when you when you have a go at him. Thats all it takes for men to reassure their wife. Then it wouldn't turn into a blazing row. IAlso tell him that it's part of your illness like if you had the flu a symptom would be headache.I know some people on here have been rather unplesant in their answers and the last thing you need is that. You need people to try and be understanding and patient with you which is what I am doing. If you could stop it then you would but I know what a horrible feeling it is and how it makes you react. It will go away once the depression eases. All it takes is a little understanding from people close to you.

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undone
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Ok. dont freak out or take this wrong. But men LOOK at women all the time. It is normal for people to look at other people. I look at women myself. I look at men too. People are social creatures. Looking doesnt mean he will do anything else. ( or even want to). If he has never cheated, then the problem is not with him, but with your insecurity. I think lots of women think that they themselves have to be porn-star-beauty queen hot for their men to be attracted to them, and if they arent( and who is) then the become insecure. Bottom line, he is WITH YOU. Unless he is being disrespectful or rude about his looking, then let him look. You look. Everyone looks. Looking is looking. Dont attach any more meaning to it.

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AshleyMC
Okay I have to say I do know where your coming from cause myself had this problem and then I realized that he did marry me and yeah there are a lot of pretty and beautiful people out there but hey you are too if your man wanted you and no one else. It is normal for a man to look at a woman and a woman to check out a man.And it does get so aggravating when the thought of your man wanting someone else but if your relationship is great and your love life is rockin then I wouldn't worry about it cause why would he want anyone else when he has a woman that pleases and does for him the way you do.
Good luck and I hope this helps some.

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beeeee
You must learn to relax, how long have you been married for, not very long i suppose, Question to you, dont you look at attractive men when they pass you and dont lie to yourself? All men look so do woman and there is nothing wrong with looking you have a problem when the hubby sees a woman let go of your hand to go and chat to her now thats a problem, if he sees a woman and he looks dont fight with him, discuss the girl with him if he says she got a nice butt you tell him the opposite for excample her boobs are uneven join in. So what about the porn mag. Did you find a girls telephone number in there or some marks, dont stress. If you answered yes to your question then why are you questioning him

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babygirl
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attractive people are easily noticed whether a man or woman. i suggest you stop giving yourself high bp unless you dont trust you man/woman

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frogs are cute
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Hey hun, dont worry about it honestly i feel the same but i look at my fiancees eyes. The thing is we just joke about it when a pretty girl comes by as i have spoken to him and explained how i have been feeling. I can never stop him i know that now but he make a good atempt at not looking after my brothers birthday party and he spent the night staring at my older sisters friend over the table, he didnt even realise me next to him it hurt tho. But thats when we did talk as honestly i can i have never found another guy attractive since we got engaged weird i know but thats me. I say talk to him he wont stop but at least he could to help prevent the feelings you are having.

The porno thing well i can honestly say i hate that stuff i always feel inadiquate, but my fiance isn't a big fan person he only really looks at it on his computer and when i am gone for a long time mainly when i work nights. Dont worry about it it doesn't sound like he looks at it often or he would have a lot more mags. Again talk to him and tell him how you feel it always helps for me and my fiance.

Goodluck hun.........

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AnOrdinaryGuy
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Looking ain't doing. Do you think men or women lose all interest in the other sex just because they get married? No way. Sexual feelings are always there, married or not. But it doesn't mean he would be unfaithful.

If you give him a hard time, you may ruin the relationship and drive him away from you just because you're making him miserable for being normal even though he hasn't been unfaithful. And then he may, as a result, really get interested in someone else.

I think you're insecure and waaaaaaaaaaaaay too possessive.

If I were your husband, the way I'd want you to deal with it, if you thought I were checking out some babe, is just to look at me, smile, and say "she's cute, isn't she?", and let it go at that. This way, I'd know you noticed but I also wouldn't feel you were harassing me. Then maybe also you could make a sexual overture to me to take advantage of any sexual arousal I might have had.

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tanzabob
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Have u ever heard the saying just because I'm on a diet doesn't mean i cant look at the menu.but seriously this is bad for a relationship what you are doing will drive him into the arms of another woman, god gave us eyes to look you need to stop before its to late

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fafandloo
My husband has a little saying THERE IS NO HARM IN LOOKING AT THE MENU AS LONG AS YOU DONT SAMPLE IT , that goes for the both of us

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gypsy
You need medical help, I feel so sorry for your husband - you are paranoid. ALL men look at women ( and remember one persons idea of attractive is not anothers ). What is wrong with window shopping ? What's wrong with your husband looking at porn magazines ? The problem there is that he has to hide them from you - why not buy him a magazine and look at it together ? You are certainly driving your husband away - would you want to live with someone like you ? Get help and chill out . Best wishes.

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lsxcamaroz
your just like my gf. insecure and immature. soon she will be gone. you may also be gone if you dont watch it

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MOM to megan eli jaiden and ryan
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see i used to be the same way .. but u have to put faith and trust into him ... just remember he comes home to u every night and sleeps with u right .. good luck hunny .. and god bless

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**Bobbinz**
so do i he tries to being sly about it but i see him doing it.
I just moan about it to him

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JB
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Why are you so insecure? It is your insecurities creating the problem here.

Men look. It doesn't mean they are cheating. It means they look. It isn't an insult to you if a man notices an attractive woman.

Ogling, drooling, jaw dropping to the floor is a completely different story. But you don't mention he does that. He just looks.

You said yourself that everytime you notice an attractive lady you look at him to gage his response. Well, if you're noticing then why wouldn't he.

Look at how your relationship is unraveling because of this.

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Everyone notices attractive people. You should trust him, he hasn't gave you any reason not to.

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H
You need to get over yourself. He married you. He is with you. Stop being so insecure.

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Schwinn
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So, let me get this straight...you notice pretty women, but you expect your husband to not notice pretty women. Everyone notices attractive people...even you!

You have some serious insecurity problems. Your husband is doing nothing wrong. You will drive him away with your insecurity. Please seek counseling for your depression and self-worth issues.

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g.m
think about it .....if you think she is pretty and look , so is he , and anyone else for that matter , its human nature to look and admire

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melisa
Finding your husband looking at porno doesn't mean that he does not love you. I'm married to my husband for 8 years and our relationship has been good all this while. I thought he was the perfect husband until one day I accidentally caught him masturbating in toilet watching porno film. I was shocked and devastated. I also felt cheated and unloved. I was same as you becoming depressed and feeling insecure. I tried to talk to him but he is not a good talker and refused to talk. Instead he ask me never to mention it. Because of him not willing to talk, I started to loose trust and always think that he is doing it over and over again. This makes me feel even more depressed. I even thought of leaving him but I had 3 lovely children. I was always looking for answers why he treat me this way. How could he do it behind my back? One day I finally found the answer. Bottom line is I still love my husband a lot and cannot bear the pain of leaving him. Alhough he did what he did , it does not mean that he does not love me. If I go on feeling insecure and don't trust him, it will only end up hurting both of us. Take note that I am a career woman and beautiful. I am not dependent on my husband. But I forgive my husband and want to make it work wth him. I changed and make myself trust him and we are very happy now. If I had continued to be stubborn and never forgiven him, our relationship would have ended. I'm glad that I did not do it as I'm happier now as ever. Leaving him will not make me any much happier. I believe you are the same as me feeling very insercure. You always think he is looking at women because you caught him with porno. Try to trust him and focus more on how to be happy with your husband instead of focusing all your energy to catch him doing wrong. Loving is giving and not demanding. You are your husband wife and you have this advantage over any other women. You have already shared your life with your husband . No other women can replace you. You must have this confidence. Try to be more intimate with your husband. Make him turn on. It's nothing wrong to be sexy with him during your intimate times. Right now you yourself is your barrier. You must overcome this barrier. Life is short. Live happily. Learn to forgive and forget. The past is past. Believe me. You can have a very happy life with your husband. I was once like you but I took time to recover becos I have no one to talk to. I am glad to recover and I also would encourage all other women like me to recover and be happy. It's not easy to meet a man, to fall in love together and end up in marriage. You have already gone thru so much with your husband. Why not make the best out of your marriage? I am sure your husband knows you are now unhappy. If he does not talk to you, this is his weakness of being egoism just like my husband. In fact most men are egoistic and this is their weaknesses. I hope you understand my advise and I wish you a happy marriage life with your husband.

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