Home | Links | Contact Us | Bookmark
Legal Forum Search :
   Homepage      News     Legal Directories      Legal Forum      Dictionary  
Legal Forum    Marriage & Divorce
Legal Discussion Forum

 How long after my wife leaves me do I gotta wait to bring chicks home?
She left me today but I was thinking about heading up to the bar to pick up chicks. Should I wait a couple of days before I pick up chicks or does it not matter since she left me?...


 In the sack, is your spouse the best you've ever known?
...


 Having an affair?
Hi,
Just need some advice really, are there any tell tale signs that someone may be having an affair ? I have just spent the best part of an hour on the phone with a close friend who seems to ...


 What do you do when your husband accuses you...?
of using him only for sex?
Additional Details
see Ali, you get it!!!...


 Help me! My wife hits me, tells me she hates me, and threatens to leave me. What should I do?
My wife has always been very loving. We met about 8 years ago, she moved to be near me about 2 weeks after we met. We fell in love the first time we met and have been together since that day. ...


 For the men that cheat and flirt with others while you are married? Why do you do it?
I cannot understand why men cheat and flirt with other women while they are married! My friend's husband is one of those and he even has tested me!!...


 I want to get married, but my boyfriend of four years isn't ready. How long should I give him?
...


 What would you do.....if you found out that you husband.......?
was already married after he married you?

so just say u got married & 2 months later u found out that he has a wife & a kid from previous marriage?

what would u do? I...


 I cheated on my wife. Now I feel guilty?
My wife waited until marriage to have sex. We were all good for a couple years, but then I got tempted by a slutty girl at work and I slept with her about a month ago. I just got a text message from ...


 what to do?
i know it happens-our 18 year old son is wanting move out -on one hand i feel like i just won the lottery (1 boy=15 friends over) on the other im confused-its not like he doesn't have a lot of ...


 The love of my life is unwilling to have kids. What should I do?
I didn't believe in soulmates until I met mine. We are so right for each other on so many levels. However, she's 14 years older at 44. She has a 12 year old and isn't going to ...


 do you have to pay for a child if she is not mine as my ex wife is saying i do by law?
i have been married for 18 month and my wife left me in feb and now she is saying that i have to pay for the child and i didnt adoped her and now i am just getting to ee the child few days a week ...


 Love or Money?
Given the chance would you marry for love over money or vice versa? Why?...


 Was husband right to spank me in front of others?
Ok. Let me first say that my husband and I are extremely old fashioned and believe wives should obey and submit and husbands can discipline and spank thier wives when they feel they need it. So no ABU...


 for young married women only??
heres the scoop. me and my wife have been married going on 4 yrs now in dec. we both are 22yrs old. yeah kinda young to be married that long, right. but i wanna know if it is natural for a young ...


 How do you know if a man really loves you?
...


 If a married man is not having the frequency of sexual relations with his wife that he would like, is it ok...
to seek out other women that are in the similar miserable situation... Before you start suggesting that I am not a good lover, let me tell you this... Our love life was fantastic for like 10 years, ...


 How faithful is your man?
Yesterday I came across a question... I created a new email address just to catch my husband. (yeah, I tried it) . I started writing to him. Telling him I want to go out with him and I want to ...


 husband still attached by the umbilical.....?
what the *#@* do i do? anymore i'm not so sure that i even love him like i use to. his mom wants to be a part of our marriage cause all of her marriages have ended. she literally makes me sick ...


 My husband goes out drinking at least once a week and stays out all night.?
I know the hotel he checked into last night and I suspect he has an escort. Should I go to the hotel and confront him?
Additional Details
He just called and says he's on his way ...



mommyof2twinsand1single
Cheating mother in law should I tell my father in law?
My mother in law left her husband of 30 years and moved upstate where my husband and I are living (not with us of couse). She is cheating on my husbands father. He is in the dark about it because we are 350 miles away from him. Her husband thinks that if he spends all his money on her that she will come back, she even mentioned to him that he should take her to Florida. This is killing me to see him treated like this should I tell him that she has a boyfriend and she even spent the night at his house??? I just cannot see this going on any longer it is not fair to him, but I don't want to ruin the relationship with the grandchildren also. Please help!!!
Additional Details
I have talked to my husband about it. He will be the one to talk to him. The man is draining his little 401k in hopes that she will come back when she has told us that she is not and cannot get a divorce because she wants his money. I am sure that eventually even if we dont tell him he will find out that we knew and he would also be mad at us.



Show all answers
Post your answer

mable3691214
Rating
You know nothing. Dont even go near that messy business

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



Tim S
Rating
Take pictures of the two of them together, create a fake yahoo account and email the pictures to him. That way it is anonymous, for at least a short period of time.

It really isn't fair to him though, and if you have any loyalty to him, you will let him know somehow. It is your business if somebody you care about is being hurt, and if your husband isn't man enough to stop his father from being taken advantage of, somebody has to do it.

I can't help thinking that he shoud ahve some kind of idea though, if she moved so far away from him...

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



3boys4me
Rating
You need to ask your husband how he feels about the issue. If he has the same feelings, then both of you together should approach dad and talk to him about.

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



Courtney
Stay out of it. As much as you care about these people, it's not up to you to fix or solve anyone else's relationship problems. And honestly, you may not know the whole situation. It's very easy to judge and make assumptions about other people's relationships, but until you're actually IN that relationship, you can't possibly truly understand.

Talk to your husband about how you feel, but don't let your in-laws' issues drive a wedge between you & your husband, or your husband and his parents.

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



beautiful
Rating
IF THEY ARE NOT TOGETHER THEN SHE IS NOT CHEATING. IF HE WANT TO SPEND HIS MONEY THAT IS HIS PROBLEM. DOES YOU HUSBAND KNOW THIS? I THINK YOU SHOULD NOT TELL HIM. IT IS ONLY GOING TO CAUSE PROBLEMS AND THEY ARE NOT TOGETHER ANY MORE. OR WE NEED MORE INFO.

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



needstoknow
Rating
You're right, it's not fair and that's very kind of you to want to ease your father-in-law's pain and let him in on the adultery. But it seems like it's more of an issue for your husband to decide if he wants to approach since they are his parents. Talk to him about it and encourage him to be honest with his father. That's a tricky subject. Best of luck.

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



jesicka
Rating
no way, its none of your business really. he knows who he married and you telling would just open his eyes to stuff he mite not want to see. and somehow if you told him and it back fired? then all the sudden your the b#@!h causing problems.

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



mab5096
Rating
I believe he SHOULD know and your husband, not you, should be the one to tell him. He owes that to his father. Wrong is wrong and his mother is just plain wrong.

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



chip t
Ahh, go for it!!

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



jude
u should stay out of it, let your husband make the decision to tell dad or not to.

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



sunflowergal
STAY OUT OF IT. If you feel you have to mention something, let your hubby do the deed. Its his parents. It'll all come out sooner or later, and you'll be involved someway after that i'm sure. Save your energy, be there for the support after all this goes down.... Good luck!

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



Monchichi
Rating
Poor guy, but if you have to- let your husband do it. I know it'll be hard for him. Discuss it with Hubby and see what he thinks. After all it's his mom & dad.

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



ladylady4470
Rating
Honey, I hate to say it you need to tell him. It is sad that we are so afraid to tell people the truth. I had to tell my step mom that my father was cheating on her! I didn't wait she was going crazy not know what was going on. My father was a fool. It hurts but, at least it is out in the open and she could move on.

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



sleepsheepnyc
Rating
Stay out of it. If you tell anyone, tell your husband, and let him deal with it. But really, best to stay out of it. Your involvement will lead to nothing more than trouble. When there is cheating going on, the injured party always finds out one way or another, regardless of the distances between, so there is no reason for you to get involved.

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



Simply Lovely
As much as it hurts, it is none of your business.

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



Grumpy
Rating
Of course your upset with this, what kind of behavior is she teaching you and your husband; shame on her.
However this in none of your business! She is a grown woman to whom has been the one married for 30 years. She is more experienced than you; maybe you should let her be. You have no idea how her husband really treats her when they are alone; nevertheless you dont know what goes on in their bedroom. You and her son need to leave her matters into her hands. If it really bothers you that much then you should talk to her about it.
You can say or feel all you want about a marriage of 30 years, the things you think you will do or not do. Realistically no one really knows anything about a 30 year relationship except the people who have had them or still in them.
Talk to her and let her be the one to talk to him; after all no one knows him better than her. You dont want to be stuck in a triangle of she said he said.

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



Slim Whitman
Your husband should confront the mother first. he need to tell her stop or expect to not see the grandkids.

ANd you husband should be the one to tell dad if the mother doesn't stop... Not you.

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



evelyngrz
Rating
Well you shouldnt really get involved because its not your mother..I understand how you feel and it is wrong for her to be doing that but you should talk to your husband and let him handle it.. They are his parents after all..

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



mandilu
Rating
If it were you that was being cheated on, would you want to know? Personally, I would. It's hard to hear, but by knowing the truth you are able to work though it and move on. If you are kept in the dark, you just keep trying and trying and you have no idea that nothing you do will fix it. However, I would involve you husband. Family dynamics are tricky and he's got more experience dealing with his parents than you do. Good luck!

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



Twiggy
It`s nothing whatsoever to do with you. What do you know about what`s been going on in their marriage anyway, and what right have you got to go sticking your oar in ?

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



Shortstuff13
I know it's hard to keep quiet about this but it's best that you do so for many reasons. One, you don't want to ruin the relationship your children have with her & vice versa. Trust me, in time, your father-in-law will find out what his wife is up to. He may already suspect it anyway, since she did move out. If your husband doesn't want to tell his dad, then let it go. The truth will come out in time, it always does.

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



tutis000
Rating
Regardless of the relationship you should keep your mouth shut. It really is none of your business. Maybe your father-in -law just isn't ready to accept the truth. And if you tell him he may lash out at you! Its best you keep out of it.
What does your husband think????

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



allrightythen
Rating
Stay out of it - it is not your business. It is their marriage to work out.

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



Twizzle
Rating
I think it is most important that you let your husband make the decision on this one.

However, I highly recommend that the two of you advise him that it is important that he thinks about his finances for the future as he will need the money whether or not she returns to him.

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



Sondra
There you go, you answered your own question. Unless he's a complete moron, you shouldn't have to tell him. She already moved out and move out of state. Also, since you don't live with the two of them, you have no clue what life has been like living with him. He may have been a creep for the past 30 year, having affairs left and right. Since you weren't there, you don't know. This wonderful man you think he is may not be so wonderful at all. My advice to you would be for you to butt out!

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



wondering
Rating
I think your husband should tell her to decide what she wants to do and tell her husband what she has decided. Tell her if she doesn't then he will tell him the truth about what she is doing. He deserves to know. Right now it sounds like she is using him for his money.

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



brazilsfinest0921
tell your husband and see what he wants to do about it.

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



LPE213
let your husband deal with it!

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



Chanel
difficult one...I think you should not interfere with that. Maybe talk to YOUR husband about it and see what he thinks about telling his dad about the cheating. Other than that, it's best to keep a distance from their situation even if it's hard to do.

Best of hopes to you

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No



Lyssa B
I would tell the father in law. Why would you keep that from him an make him out to be fool. I think I would rather have the truth then be treated like a fool.

Was this answer helpful to you?  Yes  /  No






Archive: Forum - Forum - Links - Links1 - Links2 - RSS - All RSS Feeds
Trusted legal information for you. 0.044
Copyright (c) 2007-2010 Find Legal Advice Tuesday, October 21, 2014 - All rights reserved - Terms of use - Privacy Policy