Cheating mother in law should I tell my father in law?

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mable3691214	You know nothing. Dont even go near that messy business Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tim S	Take pictures of the two of them together, create a fake yahoo account and email the pictures to him. That way it is anonymous, for at least a short period of time. It really isn't fair to him though, and if you have any loyalty to him, you will let him know somehow. It is your business if somebody you care about is being hurt, and if your husband isn't man enough to stop his father from being taken advantage of, somebody has to do it. I can't help thinking that he shoud ahve some kind of idea though, if she moved so far away from him... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

3boys4me	You need to ask your husband how he feels about the issue. If he has the same feelings, then both of you together should approach dad and talk to him about. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Courtney	Stay out of it. As much as you care about these people, it's not up to you to fix or solve anyone else's relationship problems. And honestly, you may not know the whole situation. It's very easy to judge and make assumptions about other people's relationships, but until you're actually IN that relationship, you can't possibly truly understand. Talk to your husband about how you feel, but don't let your in-laws' issues drive a wedge between you & your husband, or your husband and his parents. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

beautiful	IF THEY ARE NOT TOGETHER THEN SHE IS NOT CHEATING. IF HE WANT TO SPEND HIS MONEY THAT IS HIS PROBLEM. DOES YOU HUSBAND KNOW THIS? I THINK YOU SHOULD NOT TELL HIM. IT IS ONLY GOING TO CAUSE PROBLEMS AND THEY ARE NOT TOGETHER ANY MORE. OR WE NEED MORE INFO. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

needstoknow	You're right, it's not fair and that's very kind of you to want to ease your father-in-law's pain and let him in on the adultery. But it seems like it's more of an issue for your husband to decide if he wants to approach since they are his parents. Talk to him about it and encourage him to be honest with his father. That's a tricky subject. Best of luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jesicka	no way, its none of your business really. he knows who he married and you telling would just open his eyes to stuff he mite not want to see. and somehow if you told him and it back fired? then all the sudden your the b#@!h causing problems. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mab5096	I believe he SHOULD know and your husband, not you, should be the one to tell him. He owes that to his father. Wrong is wrong and his mother is just plain wrong. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chip t	Ahh, go for it!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jude	u should stay out of it, let your husband make the decision to tell dad or not to. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sunflowergal	STAY OUT OF IT. If you feel you have to mention something, let your hubby do the deed. Its his parents. It'll all come out sooner or later, and you'll be involved someway after that i'm sure. Save your energy, be there for the support after all this goes down.... Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Monchichi	Poor guy, but if you have to- let your husband do it. I know it'll be hard for him. Discuss it with Hubby and see what he thinks. After all it's his mom & dad. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ladylady4470	Honey, I hate to say it you need to tell him. It is sad that we are so afraid to tell people the truth. I had to tell my step mom that my father was cheating on her! I didn't wait she was going crazy not know what was going on. My father was a fool. It hurts but, at least it is out in the open and she could move on. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sleepsheepnyc	Stay out of it. If you tell anyone, tell your husband, and let him deal with it. But really, best to stay out of it. Your involvement will lead to nothing more than trouble. When there is cheating going on, the injured party always finds out one way or another, regardless of the distances between, so there is no reason for you to get involved. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Simply Lovely	As much as it hurts, it is none of your business. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Grumpy	Of course your upset with this, what kind of behavior is she teaching you and your husband; shame on her. However this in none of your business! She is a grown woman to whom has been the one married for 30 years. She is more experienced than you; maybe you should let her be. You have no idea how her husband really treats her when they are alone; nevertheless you dont know what goes on in their bedroom. You and her son need to leave her matters into her hands. If it really bothers you that much then you should talk to her about it. You can say or feel all you want about a marriage of 30 years, the things you think you will do or not do. Realistically no one really knows anything about a 30 year relationship except the people who have had them or still in them. Talk to her and let her be the one to talk to him; after all no one knows him better than her. You dont want to be stuck in a triangle of she said he said. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Slim Whitman	Your husband should confront the mother first. he need to tell her stop or expect to not see the grandkids. ANd you husband should be the one to tell dad if the mother doesn't stop... Not you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

evelyngrz	Well you shouldnt really get involved because its not your mother..I understand how you feel and it is wrong for her to be doing that but you should talk to your husband and let him handle it.. They are his parents after all.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mandilu	If it were you that was being cheated on, would you want to know? Personally, I would. It's hard to hear, but by knowing the truth you are able to work though it and move on. If you are kept in the dark, you just keep trying and trying and you have no idea that nothing you do will fix it. However, I would involve you husband. Family dynamics are tricky and he's got more experience dealing with his parents than you do. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Twiggy	It`s nothing whatsoever to do with you. What do you know about what`s been going on in their marriage anyway, and what right have you got to go sticking your oar in ? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Shortstuff13	I know it's hard to keep quiet about this but it's best that you do so for many reasons. One, you don't want to ruin the relationship your children have with her & vice versa. Trust me, in time, your father-in-law will find out what his wife is up to. He may already suspect it anyway, since she did move out. If your husband doesn't want to tell his dad, then let it go. The truth will come out in time, it always does. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tutis000	Regardless of the relationship you should keep your mouth shut. It really is none of your business. Maybe your father-in -law just isn't ready to accept the truth. And if you tell him he may lash out at you! Its best you keep out of it. What does your husband think???? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

allrightythen	Stay out of it - it is not your business. It is their marriage to work out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Twizzle	I think it is most important that you let your husband make the decision on this one. However, I highly recommend that the two of you advise him that it is important that he thinks about his finances for the future as he will need the money whether or not she returns to him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sondra	There you go, you answered your own question. Unless he's a complete moron, you shouldn't have to tell him. She already moved out and move out of state. Also, since you don't live with the two of them, you have no clue what life has been like living with him. He may have been a creep for the past 30 year, having affairs left and right. Since you weren't there, you don't know. This wonderful man you think he is may not be so wonderful at all. My advice to you would be for you to butt out! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

wondering	I think your husband should tell her to decide what she wants to do and tell her husband what she has decided. Tell her if she doesn't then he will tell him the truth about what she is doing. He deserves to know. Right now it sounds like she is using him for his money. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

brazilsfinest0921	tell your husband and see what he wants to do about it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LPE213	let your husband deal with it! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Chanel	difficult one...I think you should not interfere with that. Maybe talk to YOUR husband about it and see what he thinks about telling his dad about the cheating. Other than that, it's best to keep a distance from their situation even if it's hard to do. Best of hopes to you Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lyssa B	I would tell the father in law. Why would you keep that from him an make him out to be fool. I think I would rather have the truth then be treated like a fool. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No