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2009-01-01 18:38:00 +0000	I asked my husband this question and he said " You are in your honeymoon phase, she will grow out of wanting to cuddle you. She is your WIFE and she just wants to show you love. Is that a big deal? Are you a light sleeper that you holding her bothers you? She only wants to cuddle for a little while Whats the big deal? Grow up and cuddle her at the beginning of the night then sleep. Do you love her enough to stand a little cuddling? Grow a pair" Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-01-01 18:53:11 +0000	this is why "kids" in their early 20's shouldnt get married, they lack the maturity and knowledge of what the real kind of love and lifes experience needed to make a marriage work. In and out of the bedroom. especially guys, ...they mature a lot later than women do, and you def sound much less immature. thats not an insult to you either, its simply a fact about men. good luck to ya Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-01-01 18:34:13 +0000	she will eventually stop. i was the same way. she just loves you! ha! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-01-01 18:30:57 +0000	Just tell her that you would like to sleep, and try cuddling her in the day hours, or just tell her you need a little space. I think she'll understand if you say it nicely. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-01-01 18:38:40 +0000	Go to bed 10 minutes earlier to allow for cuddling time. Tell her after that you have to go to sleep. Compromise: it's a big word in marriage. You'd better learn how to do it or your marriage will be a failure. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-01-01 18:33:28 +0000	Dude, just cuddle your freakin wife for a few minutes before going to sleep. How freakin hard is it? I mean really, this is what you have to complain about? Selfish, complaining, silly little man... Better cuddle now, before she finds someone else a little more willing to be there for her! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-01-01 19:18:17 +0000	have a cuddle before you go to sleep or just get her a comfort blanket or better still twin beds Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-01-01 18:33:01 +0000	its called being in love Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-01-01 18:31:36 +0000	I'm not like that-and I personally loathe being awakened for anything less than a fire, so I would be annoyed, have you told her how annoying and clingy she is being? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-01-01 18:34:16 +0000	Maybe she lack love or you doing your part ? Maybe she always picture that that's what married people do just give into it, then she'll get over it. If not express your self to her. Don't let lack of communicate get in between your marriage. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-01-01 21:34:26 +0000	Explain to her exactly how you feel. She may get upset at first, but this must be settled before it goes on any longer. Sit her down, tell her you love her and maybe if you show love and attention before going to bed she will feel better. Don't pretend that you want to cuddle if you don't. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-01-01 18:43:05 +0000	Well, it's alllllllllllllllllllll about you, isn't it. What a problem! You've got a wife who obviously loves you, she wants to be close to you, to touch you, to cuddle with you. You're too put out by it all to at least meet her halfway. You couldn't at least oblige her until she falls asleep? You need to take a step back and look at doing something for her once in a while. Couples do things for each other, and if it's going to work out for you two you're going to have to try something called compromise. But you can keep it up, and before you know it, you'll have that bed all to yourself. Get your head out of your *** and learn to appreciate what you have. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-01-01 18:33:40 +0000	well i think your just being a bit of a dick and you cant really love her because if you did youd want to hold her my bf always wants to hug me and it would be weird if he didnt thats the best thing about going to bed you should of really lived together first before getting married Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-01-01 18:32:25 +0000	Every time she does this, act like you think she wants to have sex. Take off your unders and get a stiffy. If she says she doesn't want to do that, just whack off and shoot your load in her face. Problem solved Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-01-01 18:33:31 +0000	Why is it all about what you want???? That's not a good start to a marraige! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-01-01 18:31:16 +0000	From one guy to another...grow the **** up dude. Seriously, she's your WIFE. You are supposed to cuddle with her, not just fall asleep. You sound like a terrible man and husband. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-01-01 18:33:44 +0000	wow.at least you didn't marry just for sex. what's wrong brother-man. you're still newly-weds.you need to man up and take care of your wife before she run out and cheat on you. she sound like a romantic person and in God's eyes it's ok you two are marry. man-up already. unless you need to get some help for yourself. talk to her and maybe the two of you should go talk to a shrink. none of your girlfriends became your wife either.wonder why. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-01-01 18:31:35 +0000	you married an insecure person. good luck on the loooong road ahead. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-01-01 18:33:47 +0000	You need to speak to her honestly about this. Personally, I love cuddling but not when I'm trying to sleep. I think that's fair enough, but she clearly doesn't feel the same and it doesn't occur to her that it bothers you (why would it if you never tell her?) Make sure you give her lots of affection at other times. Your wife obviously loves you and craves non-sexual physical intimacy with you, so provide this as much as you can, but make clear that bedtime is not the time for it. Of course, marriage is about compromise and you should make the effort to cuddle at bedtime sometimes if it makes her happy. Communication is the key to any successful relationship. If you approach this in a tactful and loving way she probably won't be upset at all and will be wondering why you've waited this long to bring it up! Good luck :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-01-01 18:37:37 +0000	Well, I'm that irritating. I love being held. I'm lucky enough to have a man that holds me at night when I sleep, though. Guess you have a few options. A). Talk to her about it and ask her to stop. Which will, by the way, hurt her feelings, but maybe she'll stop or you'll see how much it means to her. B). Continue to pretend to be asleep, hurt her feelings by doing so and keep being irritated.. C). Deal with it and hold her for a little bit every night. Couldn't you just suck it up and hold her for a bit every night? I mean, is it that bad???? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

2009-01-01 18:40:57 +0000	You married to soon!! If you cant stand it after 3 months your doomed!! you vowed a life time with this clingly women and its not gonna get better unless you want to change your behavior and become her security blanket and make sure that her feelings are always #1....end the the marriage now, dont kid yourself, you obviously arent attracted or do you care about her feelings, get out of the marriage now, or wait a few years and be miserable and end up with kids to boot, and lose half of what you have and still have her be in your life..DIVORCE!! dont wait, it will only get worse, if you think you dont want to hold her now after 3 months think about 3yrs!!! haha come on, get real. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No