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 Why women best often give bad advice to other women.For example they often advise a women to live her husband?

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KrazBfly07
About me, my separate husband and his new girlfriend?
My separate hubby & I've been separate since July 2007, He just started to seeing this woman about few weeks ago, so he asked me to let him take my kids to meet this woman and her kids on weekend..so i told him no because it would influne my kids if they stay the night at a strange woman's house with my separate hubby. I told hubby i prefer to wait until divorce finish then go for it. so I need advice or opinion about that...
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Well..he knew this woman since he was 15 yearsold..he used to date this woman before..so thats how he see this woman again just three weeks ago..I've been trying to ask him for work it out, but he refused to. Its sad that he gave up everything..



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Beach Girl
It's time to let go. He is obviously moving on with his life (and you should be doing the same). Don't forbid the children to spend time with him and the life he's trying to build...it will only confuse them, especially if he is serious about her (and he apparently is). She and her kids will probably be a part of his life (and your childrens lives) so you need to accept this as the natural progression in a divorce. It's time.

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poison_ivy
Don't send ur kids over to him. I wouldn't do it if i were u. He has no right to take the kids and make them meet some other women..He should be ashamed of himself!!!

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Rubi
no because its not rite untill u guys r officialy divorced den explain to the kids dat der daddy is meeting with a lady hes interested in but dont let ur kids sleep over unless der married cus dat a bad influence i think

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Ali
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he shouldnt introduce your children to a new woman until this new woman is serious in his life. because otherwise he's just going to introduce your kids to every woman he meets and thats not going to be any good mentally for your children. i also think its not okay that they go stay at the womans house. its his weekend with them so they should be staying at his place not hers. if she wants to bring her kids over to his place then she has that option.

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Susan2008
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If you don't make a big deal out of it, -----> the issue tends to go away "Don't feed the fire" .......what is your reason for waiting for the "divorce" you are already separated and it is time for all of you to move on. Go and do something fun while he has the kids :)

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Grumpy
Kids need a lot of time to heal. Personally I agree with you.

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Jennifer
I think you are absolutely right. This may just add confusion to an already confusing situation for them (not sure how old kids are). It would also be a bit more wise of your husband to wait longer before he introduces girlfriends to the children. Maybe not until things are more serious, as I doubt this could be if he has only been seeing her for a few weeks. Good luck and stick to your gut instincts! : ) You know more then anyone what is best for your children.

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tammara t
i wouldent let him period she could e dangerous wait a year see if he stays with her

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Rich
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I think you are right@

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Nicky
I'd personally ask him to sit down to work out some ground rules as far as the kids are concerned, in terms of dating for the two of you. I don't think it's unreasonable to suggest say kids don't meet someone until 3-6 months in, that person doesn't stay over while kids are with parent, no living with someone (unless engaged or married) until kids reach certain age, gf/bf's don't keep/watch children w/o parent (unless agreed upon). Whatever rules the two of you think my have implications for you children, as they pertain to your lives continuing on beyond one another. Just calmly discuss the situation, explain your reasoning and try to come to some agreement in the best interest of your children. Having parents that work together to make their childrens lives cohesive and on track is the best solution especially when divorced. good luck.

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SWEETLOUISE
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Sounds reasonable for him to wait until the divorce is finalised, stick to your guns..

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#1 ♥diva♥
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i would do the same, wait until after the divorce, then by then everything will be more finalized and written down in terms of support for the kids and in that way when he has to see the kids it won't be a big thing, so i'd wait til after the divorce is finalized.

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jenna
I definitely think it would be confusing and possibly alarming for your kids to go meet a stranger and stay the night there... even with their father. I don't think that kids need to be a part of overnight visits with either boyfriends/girlfriends. It is fine for him to want her to meet the kids once he has determined that it is going to be a long-term relationship but until that is found out I don't think the kids need to meet anyone new. I think divorce is hard enough without confusing the children anymore than they already are. At this point they need to be reassured that both of you love them, but are no longer going to be living in the same home. There should be no other "bIg changes". It will be a hard enough adjustment without having to get to know someone else. I know this must be hard for you. Good luck.

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pupcake
You are right. It sounds like he just wants them to come along as a type of *Bonus*, to meet his new girlfriend. Besides, what kind of message is that giving the kids when Daddy is spending the night with another woman? I think you are right. :)

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zeneriku
sadning , sounds like you still love him,
but surley any decision you wanna make for your kids has high rule over any one elses and is for there best especially at a young age were they may adapt to thing unknown

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sjbrown25@att.net
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Hang onto your morals and don't you feel no shame, for sticking to your principles. You go ahead and do what you have to do, in order to restore some sanity in your situation. Your soon to be ex-husband has no business, trying to play house with another woman with kids, while you're going thru your divorce. He should wait, until his relationship with this woman's going somewhere, in order to introduce the kids to her. Otherwise, all she is, is nothing but *****, possibly in the children's eyes. Then, they lose all respect for the adults involved in this triangle. I hope that he comes to his senses real quick.

I do wish you luck in this situation.

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takanashi
i say do watever u want but i would go beat the crap out of the new girl and tell her to stay away from ur kids

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Bittuh_Brutha
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It's a bad deal for her to meet the kids if he's just started seeing her anyway. Kid become easily attached to people and it's easy to paint a picture of a new friend being better than an old one so to speak. I say the kids don't need to meet her until 1.) the divorce is final and 2.) he decides to get serious with this woman. Using your kids to impress a new girlfriend is a low trick because we all know most women love kids. I say stick to your guns, the new girlfriend can wait and spending th enight is out.

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Amanda L
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I can't believe he wants to bring the kids into that after only a few weeks of seeing another woman!
You are right! The divorce needs to be final.

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ccaris57
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Your judgement is correct in that you are looking out for your children first. You are doing fine and won't regret your decision. I would work hard to be pleasant and not say anything bad about him to your kids or family (save that for dumping it in some good counselling). Be strong, learn to forgive and move on. You will feel a lot better if you make decisions you don't regret. It really screws with you and your children's emotions to see him with someone other than you. He sounds very inconsiderate and disrespectful of you and your children's feelings. I would keep my guard up but be wise...best wishes:)

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The Bigman
At some point and time you will need to let your kids meet this woman...that is if she is in your husbands life for a while. Now when I say a while I am not talking about 2 weeks. Hell it takes 3 weeks for something to become a habit...this woman did not even make it to the habit stage yet and now she is meeting your children...You did right by not letting the kids go. Not to put your soon to be x down but 2 Weeks and now he is letting this woman meet the kids. What happens if they don't work out he will have your kids meet the next 2 week sensation. I can not believe he is that weak...I personally think that this woman he wants your kids to meet is the same woman he cheated on you with..

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casey l
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it depends on kids age first off second you guys chose to get a divorce what if he gets married to this women are you not going to let him see the kids at all. did he want you to leave the kids with her while hes not around,,, thatd be wrong anyways your life, but in my opinion casual meeting ok. staying the night at his house while the kids are there not ok, until they move in together or get married

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Angel
I agree with your decision, and he needs to introduce the children into this environment slowly do not over whelm them...

They need to accept that both of you are not together, I don't know how old your children are but they are resilient according to age.. Younger children tend to bounce back from change quickly...

Best of Luck

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janejane
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Well, you might not like it, but he IS the dad so he has a right to see them and most likely, they'll meet her with or without your consent. SO the question is, do you want to make it more difficult by saying no and having him do it behind your back, possibly even telling your kids to lie to you so you don't get mad? This is the life of a divorced parent. You have to learn to accept the situation for what it is. I would suggest saying yes, but that you would really like to meet her first so you can have an ease of mind knowing who your kids are with. It might be hard, but in the long run, it will be good for your relationship not only with him, but for your children. If you say no, what do you think he's going to do when you start dating? Make it hard for you, too is my guess...

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Spunky
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If he's serious with the woman, he needs to finish what he started with you. That means divorce. Then he needs to consider what bringing another woman into the children's lives would do to them, specially if the woman did not stick around long. Sometimes its better to just keep people away from your children, unless they become a step parent.

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+BEAUTIFULLY~broken+
well i think you should let them go. i guess its an ok idea for you to wait until the divorce it complete, but even still i suppose he has rights to the kids too, since thy are his as well. and if would like his girlfriend to meet them i think its his right too. i mean all parents brag about their kids and are very proud of them. i am sure he just wants for her to get to know them. and them her kids. i dont think its too dangerous, depending on how long the visit is, and how the kids feel about it. try asking them too.

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AckAck_Eagle
Maybe let the kids spend the day for a time or 2 before spending the night.

Due to the short period of time it might not be good to let the kids get too 'involved' in a relationship that might not last. Sounds like your 'ex' (and maybe you) have not gotten your personal situations together yet. What' is your 'ex' doing getting 'attachments' to another woman and her 'children' without a divorce. That raises questions regarding your 'ex's girlfriends judgment too me.

All too often when 'parents' get into 'male/female' relationships that forget that children develop relationships within that environment too and all too often 'lose' these relationships through no fault of their own.

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Pamela B
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I agree it is not a good idea to let the kids meet the rebound girlfriend or any other until the relationship is stable.
All he will do by doing this is cause bad feeling between the kids and her because in their eyes the reason their parents are not together is her. Keep them away and if fact you can put it in the divorce papers that there can be no sleep overs (between adults) with the kids in the house.

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kaleigh
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I think you are absolutly right in your decision to tell him to hold off until the divorce is final.

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~Wu-Tang Clan 4ever!~
i wouldnt let him borrow the kids if i were you!!!

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Kelly
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Trust me, you can try keeping them away from him all you want, but in the long run, he will win out.
My kids wanted to spend time with their father, and his new girlfriend at the time, and she seemed so sweet. Treated them well. Then he got married, then my kids didn't matter anymore. Her kids meant everything to him, and mine were just a side project. He even started smoking, when he married her, something he hated while married to me. My daughters hated going over there after he married her, but he wanted to get back at me, so he had to have them. Just to spite me.
You might get lucky, and she'll be fine for your kids. Then again? If you have any doubts, fight for them. Don't cave in, like I did.
At least my oldest is old enough to say no, she doesn't want to go over, but my youngest is still 10. She has to suffer every other weekend.

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