Why do some adoptees have difficulty accepting life circumstances. ?

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Candy Corn	it sounds like you have trouble accepting that some peeps dont like adoption. chill... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tish_part deux	LMAO! you never cease to amaze me. this is a great question. might i suggest rephrasing this to read "adoptive parents" and placing this on an infertility board.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Anha S	Where do any adoptees say that their struggles are insurmountable? Why do you assume that because someone doesnt like adoption, oh, it must mean they can't function in their lives at all. Crap happens. And I deal. Its been that way for a very long time. No different than anyone else thankyouverymuch. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

...	I thought you were an adoptee? ....no? Considering this is the adoption section, I think it's the most likely place to find strong opinions regarding adoption. If someone is just A OK with their adoption and never think about it, they are less likely to search for online support, but if they are truly hurt by adoption, they are more likely to represent their position. Do I think "adoptees think their struggles are insurmountable"? Not really, I think that for many here, being adopted (actually separated from their first family) has been an insurmountable event the THEIR lives. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

H******	Not really your concern is it Don't you expend alot of energy worrying about how other people think of feel. You must be so exhausted from angrily protesting how happy you are lol You need to grow a heart Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

小黃	Because some of us - such as myself - find it incredulous that "God" or "Fate" planned for something horrible to happen JUST so we would end up in our adoptive families. Then comes the response: "But WE APs didn't cause the horrible circumstance! When we say it was God's plan, we just mean it was a blessing that our child became a part of our family." They're right - they did NOT cause those circumstances. Nor have I ever implied that they did. :) BUT without those horrible circumstances, these children would not have ended up in an orphanage and BEEN adopted. You do not have one without the other. They are interlinked. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Raheeli	People do all face serious pain sometimes, but "adoptees" especially have faced serious pain in their lives. Having a mother or father is such a basic thing. It is sooo difficult to imagine life without your true biological parents..... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Helena B	cuz we were abandaned and it ruins us for all of time. why do u front on peeps who arent happy with being abandaned. I think your the one who is fuked up. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sunny	I think adoptees who feel their "struggles are insurmountable" probably aren't around to ask, since most of them have committed suicide. A better question might be for you to ask yourself is why other people's "struggles" and emotional pain are of such graphic interest to you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Andraya - Snark's Sister	ROTFLMFAO! I survived cancer you stunned wonder and I did it alone with NO support. Tell me again how pathetic and weak I am, please? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lady Rowan	As i've said repeatdly, not all adoptees feel the same way as others. Some are happy, some are not, some are in between. Some wish to search, others don't. Everyone finds life difficult at some point. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SJM	I assume you're referring to adoptees who refuse to recognize they are adopted and pretend as if they really were born to their adoptive parents. I don't know. Their compulsion to hide from their own past is a mystery to me. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sunshine982	Every adoptee has a different story to tell. My story (and obviously yours) had a happy ending, not everyone is this lucky. People have every right to question their situation, no matter what it may be. Thank the lord that you had a good situation, but a lot of adoptees go through hell. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cruzgirlz3	I don't even know how to answer these questions anymore. You act like we are a breed of dog and should all behave in the same way somehow. Adoption is the loss of one's original parents. Much as you try, you can't ignore that fact. Sorry. It is an indisputable loss. Every person responds differently to loss. You may not understand another person's response but it isn't yours to understand. Let it go, and go focus on your own. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bookwarm	Because some people have difficulty accepting life's circumstances and some people are adopted. If you cross refrence the two there is bond to be a few people who fall in both categories. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No