Why do people who are adopted don't want a be, while people who aren't adopted would rather be?

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Wouldntyou L	The ones saying that on here are just trolls. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Pip	Those who haven't been adopted don't know what it's like and think ot would be better. In my teens I sometimes felt like that as I have an emotionally abusive mother but realistically I'm glad I wasn't as it would have created a different set of issues. I know my history, I love my family and I have been able to move on with my life. My son has had a good life but he has his issues with adoption as it wasn't his choice as he was a baby. He knows the truth as to why he was adopted which makes it even more painful as he knows I wanted him and there wasn't any good reason for him to be adopted. He feels rejected by my family twice, first as a baby then again as an adult. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JennaBear	well, it seems to me that people always assume that adoptees were 'saved' from a **** life. so if something is going badly in their life currently 'being adopted' would mean that they would supposedly be in a better situation. the thinking is rather juvenile if you ask me, anyone who really knows an adoptee wouldn't ever think being adopted is so great... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

icehockeymom7	I don't think that is accurate at all...... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Weeme	I've never come accross that, I really wouldn't know. I was adopted and am very thankful for it, my birth parents were in no way capable of raising me and my adoptive parents were great parents. I have no idea why some people would feel that way, even if they were raised in their bio family and abused I hear that's supposed to be much better than being raised by loving adoptive parents? Not sharing that point of view I can't answer for other people. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lori A	My mom would call this the grass being greener on the other side of the fence. It looks good but turns out to be the same color once you get there. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

AdoreHim	First of all I am adopted, and very thankful that I am, so this is not across the board. However, I think that some people are never happy with what life (or God, if you believe) hands them, so they always think that life is greener on the other side. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Melissa	speaking as the adopted, ummmm i dunno where you got that idea from, couldn't be happier i was adopted,and know a lot of ppl who feel the same. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Banshee Lingers	Who said that they do? Of course if you were adopted you might want to know who your parents are and why they gave you up. And that phrase, GAVE YOU UP makes it really blue. So why do you want to be GIVEN UP? No kid wants that. Of course there are those who have great families and have had happy lives and are prefectly content with whom they are with and where they are. People who aren't adopted and say they want to be may have their reasons. Some may have horrible lives. Like it woudl be great to know that my mother hates me and beat me as a child because I was mothered by another woman or adopted but I know that's not the case . I just have to face the fact that the person who carried me for 9 months and gave birth to me wishes I was never born. It's part of life. However those immature people who say they wish they were adopted, I would say that 8/10ths of those people have fine homes, are spoiled and the mintue they don't get their way they hate their parents and wish they were adopted so they can find their real parents and be given anything they want. Also, if you were an orphan and you were never adopted, wouldn't you want to be? And if you were an orphan adopted into a family who want you for the money the government gives them, wouldn't you rahter have a LOVE home instead of a MONEY home? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kateiskate is getting married	The only people who I can imagine actually want to be adopted are people who are in abusive or neglectful environments. I don't necessarily not want to be adopted. It's a fact of my life that I can't go back and change. What I want is my truth. Plain and simple. I don't care if it's ugly or if it hurts. I want to know where I came from. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

...	When i was a kid, I prayed that someone would "find out" what was going on in our home. Not necessarily adopted, but out of there and somewhere safe. Somewhere that had more food than beer, with people who would take me to the doctor when I was deathly ill, where I didn't have to sleep ina car while the "adult" partied, or with someone who think it's okay to leave a 3 year old girl with a 12 year old boy.That's why I moved in with my boyfriend at 15. It was at least stable. His mom was like my mom. I guess when you're in a bad situation, all you can think about is being out of it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

luvsagooddebate	because it sucks to be passed around to more than 20 different (and a lot of the times abusive homes) foster homes even if you're not a 'problem' child...it kills me when I see people complain about being adopted into a good, loving home, where they had ever chance to have a happy healthy family life, surrounded by people who loved them...for goodness sakes just be happy you weren't moved around a whole lot and where abused....although if they were adopted into a 'bad family' situation then that would suck to Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

monkeykitty83	I don't think that is actually accurate as a blanket statement. It applies to some individuals, but I highly doubt it's the majority, let alone everyone. For those it does apply to, I would suspect it either has to do with their own situation (emotional trauma, grief, abuse, etc.) or in some cases simply that "the grass is always greener on the other side" is human nature. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jennifer L	Because it's human nature to think that the "grass is always greener" (for the most part). But people who have been abused or negected by either biological or adoptive parents can't help but recognize that if they were not with those parents, that abuse would not have happened. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LinnyG	"You can't always get what you want". I think if a non adopted person says they wish they were adopted, they may have some serious issues going on in their home. But if someone says it because their parents are not letting them stay out until 3 am, it's silly. Being adopted comes with a lot of complex emotions and many times serious mental problems. I wouldn't wish that on anyone. Of course, if someone is being abused, that's a different story. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No