"Getting on with your life" and adoption? |
I just read an AP's response to a question about the grief and loss in adoption.
She (I'm assuming here) said the some adoptees "get on with their lives" instead of ... |
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Who else is an angry rather than grateful adoptee? |
| Im so sick and fcking tired of people telling me i should thank my adoptive parents for my perfect life. Who else agrees with me? I mean adoption hurts why the hell people don't get it. We have ... |
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Is it "normal" to feel the same bond with an adopted child as it is to your biological children? |
| While I was pregnant with my two eldest children, I felt like I already knew them and once they were born I felt this rush of love, recognition, not really sure how to describe it. It's like a ... |
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What are ironies in your experience with adoption? |
| WHat would Alanis sing about your adoption experience in terms of irony. I think it is ironic (it may not be ironic but this is not a grammar lesson, so go with it) that everyone, still, says "... |
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What did you think of Sandra Bullock's acceptance speech? |
Of course she gets an award for being a child stealer.
"Family isn't who you're born to or related to or what colour you are, it's whose got your back."... |
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Where do I go to give my baby up for adoption? |
| I am 19 years old and I just had my baby 5 months ago. My parents put me out of their house because I would not get an abortion when I was pregnant and because I would not give my son up for adoption.... |
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Do some of these answers make you want to adopt to prove anti-adoption supporters wrong? |
| Some of these answers are just so negative. I'm not so naive that I think that every adoption is rainbows and butterflies, so don't get me wrong. I just can't believe that every ... |
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Why do certain people think adoptive parents have an "agenda"? |
| There seem to be many people on this forum who think adoptive parents have some kind of ulterior motive for adopting, that we're all obese, infertile or somehow dysfunctional. They also seem ... |
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Why is it that people want to tell me how to feel? |
| As a firstmom, I have to hear from adoptive parents how I should feel. Why is that necessary? Why are you going to try and place yourself in my shoes, sorry, but TTC does not count, and tell me how ... |
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Is there any way the adoption process can be cheaper? |
| I really want to have an international adoption. The more I research about it though, the more expensive it sounds. 25,000 not including all travel fare! Wow! Don't get me wrong, I'm ... |
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Doesn't cps have to check with the family of children before they let them be adopted?!? |
| Ok we just found out that my sister in law lost her kids about 6 months ago. She did a very good job of hiding it from all of us (her family). My frantic mother in law called about getting foster ... |
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What should you call your child before you formally adopt them? Is it right to call them son/daughter? |
If you bring them home as an infant and the parental rights have been terminated but you haven't formally adopted them yet, can you still call them son or daughter?
If you think this ... |
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Adoptees: You know you have two sets of mothers/fathers, but...? |
| In my eyes, both your natural family and your adoptive family are your FAMILY (family as singular). Do you feel as they are both seperate families and you are balancing between the two? How could ... |
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Do you know anyone who gave up a child for adoption? |
| A friend of mine is married with 3 kids. She had begged her doctor for a tubal and after saying he would do it he just never set the appt up. Then he changed his mind (she was too young, she'd ... |
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has anyone on here changed your mind or made you think about adoption differently? |
| you dont have to name names if you dont want, i just want to know how people here have affected you.... |
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how do adopt my niece that's been in foster care for 2 yrs? |
| i'm a stay at home mother of 5 boys married to a very busy firefighter in california. I recently found out i had a brother that i never knew about. He told me he ahd 4 children in foster care. ... |
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Is it Ok to adopt children and give birth to your own? |
I was wondering if it is fair to adopt children and have you own.. please give me your views no stupid answers thanks Additional Details Thanks to all the people who answered, it was ... |
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adoption and benifits? |
okay if you adopt a child
and you are on benifits
is that classed as working?
If so
would you have to pay your rent and pol tax
because looking after a child is obviously ... |
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Katie R |
Why can't teens adopt kids and take them in as there own?
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proudwifeandmom
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Because most teens can't even take care of theirselves much less a baby. For example, my fifteen year old sister in law is pregnant and she still has my mother-in-law doing everything for her. I am surpised she still doesn't wipeher butt for her too. So I can imagine what kind of mother she will be.
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Lady Freyja
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They have no way of supporting them. The point of putting a child up for adoption is so they find a loving stable home and are no longer a finacial burden to tax payers.
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AdoreHim
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Maybe because teens should not be parents? Just a thought
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Tina- Due June 28, 2008
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Many are not mature enough and ready to take on that responsibility.....They're still kids themselves
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SportieCutie
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you have to be a legal adult
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janna w
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Because even if you think your mature for your age you do the most changing and maturing between 18 and 21
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Kailey :)
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Teens aren't financially stable, nor are they mentally ready, to take on a child. They are still basically children themselves. I'm seventeen years old and pretty mature for my age, but I know for a fact I wouldn't be able to handle that responsibility at this point in my life, nor would I want to.
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♥Buttercakes♥
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Teens are not mature enough to handle that responsibility alone,nor financially handle it...most cannot care for themselves let alone another child.
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Jethro
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same reason mature folks disagree with teen parents. They are NOT responsible enough nor capable of supporting themselves and a child!
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Colo_Mom
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Because very few teens are ready and able to devote the time it takes to be a good parent. (And of course, a lot of older people aren't willing to, either!) Teens aren't likely to have the education or training to be in a position to support a child. There are those who do, and do a good job, but if you were giving a child up for adoption, would teens be your choice as ideal parents for your child? You'd probably want them to have more stability, education, and to be out of their growing years and have gotten their own childhood behind them.
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Noah's and Ava's Mommy
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Because they are TEENS. They are not emotionally or financially prepared to be raising a kid(adopted or otherwise). Heck, most are still kids themselves.
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Sucre Noir
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They are MINORS. They are not OLD enough to LEGALLY adopt a child.
Do you know how much it costs anyway? It's thousands of dollars at least. And how is a teen going to afford clothes, food, a house, doctor care, dental care, eye care (what if the kid needs glasses?). Kids are NOT cheap.
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Lillie
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I see your point, but society doesn't even want to let a pregnant teen keep her OWN child, so I highly doubt we're ready to let teens adopt.
But then again, we do allow single people to adopt, while we readily convince single pregnant women that raising a baby by herself is wrong. So, who knows...the hypocrisy abounds.
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