My kid is in foster care or adoption how do I report his foster parents for neglect?

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sweetkisses9187	That's a tough call. You would have to have proof that they are doing that for one. If not, it will basically be , he say she say. You know what I mean. It would be pointless. But if you can get ahold of some proof then you would hav a shot, I mean i dont know the extent of the case , but if your child is being neglected then def. try everything you can do. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

shirley ann	wil the first thing to do if you try to get your kid back show them the rash if already still have it and like tell them that i want the kid back and try to get the baby back on your side also i gonna tell you that tell them to gave you two weeks. trust me or show them this writing then they will believe you also tell u this i use to go to foster care and one of the foster parents was mean as a snake. tell them Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ruthym02	Like many other people have said to you already, 1. You do not discipline an 11 month old 2. an 11 month old can not be "turned away from you" because someone makes them, your child cries with you because you are a stranger. 3. a diaper rash is normal, it does not mean the child is neglected 4. the plan the court wants from you, is to make sure that you have a plan for when/if your son returns to your care. its a smart idea to have one. 5. You are not getting your child benefits because you don't have to provide for the child right now. the foster parents get money because they are the ones who pay for food, diapers, milk and other stuff. This makes sense. 6. If you still feel that the foster parents are being neglectful then why haven't you told the social worker? And seriously do you want to try to get him moved to a different foster home because of a diaper rash? you know that hes probably attached to them and being removed from them would not mean that he goes to you, he would go to another foster home. 7. If you want your child back, then want him back! Don't worry about everyone else, worry about you getting the help you need, making a good plan to give to the court and stick with it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Shelly S	The best thing you can do is WALK AWAY!! That child will be so much better off. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

crzymmof8	I am sorry but every baby gets diaper rash at some point and the fact is that at visits the kids often cry. It is stressful and this young they don't really always remember their birth parent. It is hard for them to transition to a new environment, etc. Even if the foster parents try very hard to maintain the birth parent connection the child just doesn't always remember as when visits are only once a week for an hour or 2 and the child is an infant it is just hard to keep a true connection. Even if you proved the foster parents neglectful they would just move him to a different foster home you would not get him back. You will only get him back if you work your plan and it is a safe environment to return him to. Trying to get the foster family in trouble will not help you but will possibly mean a move to a new environment for your baby which would not be healthy for him. How do you discipline and infant? I guess the part about it is your business how you discipline him is confusing as at this age there is not discipline they are too young to really learn cause and effect so discipline is not useful. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Grace Moore	Foster parents don't get paid all that much, yes they get a daily reimbursable but not enough to make any kind of sufficient income. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lil	it sounds like your just worry about the money and not your child .if you really love him and want him back well just do what they ask you to do i don't think it will be that hard to be a better parent specially if you learn from your mistakes Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

=	"I don't think I should have too it is your business how I discipline my child" Well, guess what......it is NO LONGER your business because you mistreated your child. Now, the state is in charge and has every right to tell you what to do. It is NOT NOT NOT about you, it is about the child. You want your child back? Then you listen to the courts, follow your case plan and learn how to care for children. The foster parents are NOT in the "wrong " ~ you are "wrong" and your behavior has hurt your child. You SCREWED UP....take responsibility! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

farm mom of 10	I'm a foster mom, and have had over 50 foster children in my adult life. We have adopted three of them. I take good care of the children, and I usually have a really good relationship with the parents, but once in a while, I'll have a parent who is as angry with me, even though I had NOTHING to do with their child being taken, I'm just the lady caring for them during this hard time. I recently had a parent, a daddy, who was so MAD. He reported me for everything, a rash his sensitive child had when she was switched from formula to milk and everything he could think of. She was six months old when she came to live with me, 26 months old when an aunt in another state finally got a homestudy done and she went to live with her, her birth parents never got their plan worked, or had a clean drug test. Most of my foster children end up bonding with me, and that's a good thing, because they need to bond with the person caring for them, or it would be terrible for them. This daddy mentioned above actually shook his daughter in front of the caseworkers because he was so mad that she cried for me during a visit. Like someone else said, if you complain and complain until the move the child, which they won't unless your complaints are founded, they won't give him back to you, they will just move him to another home, which will be really, really hard on him. And maybe the next home will be worse, who knows. We do get paid for caring for the children, but I could run a day care center and get a lot more money, and the kids would go home at night and on weekends. I do this because I want to help. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MamaKate is an Aunt!	Dear Sash, Have your rights been terminated? If so, I am afraid there is little you can do. If not, then the best possible advice I could give you is to not worry excessively about what is going on in the foster home (unless there is evidence of physical abuse) and focus on fixing the issues in YOUR home. If there is a problem with the foster family, your son will be moved to another foster home - not immediately returned to you. You MUST address the issues that caused him to be removed in the first place. It is imperative that you prove to the court that YOU are the best parent for your child - not prove that someone else isn't. That is the ONLY way you will be able to get him back! You have been given a case plan to complete. It sounds as though you might benefit from child development/parenting classes to better understand your son and how to help him grow properly and teach him with age appropriate methods. It will make your job much easier once you understand how children think and learn. I am sure it is difficult to not have your son with you, but you need to be able to focus on how you can show the court that you are able to raise him properly. I can see that it bothers you that other people are so involved in telling you how to raise your son but you must remember that they are concerned for (and their job is to protect) HIM. Nobody is perfect and people make mistakes. Be smart and learn from them! Don't let it cause you to lose your child forever! If you love him, are able to swallow your pride a bit and do what they are asking you should be able to have your son come home; and who knows, maybe you will be a better parent for it. Isn't that a good thing? The sooner you can do it the better. For BOTH of you. I sincerely hope you are able to keep your mind on what is really important here. (Being the best mother you can be to your child!) You CAN do this but you must make the proper changes in YOUR life FIRST! Best of luck to you and especially your son. I hope that you are able to be the mother he needs you to be (sooner rather than later) and that the two of you are able to be together someday. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sofiakat	If you are concerned with the care that your son is getting than you should raise the question with your social worker. When I was fostering the two children we adopted, we would regularly bring them for supervised visits with their mother. After a couple of months and as the children began to attach to me, they began to pull away from their natural mother. For example, when my son was feeling ill during one of the supervised visits, he kept asking for me, regardless of the fact that his natural mother was with him. I think that it is only natural that a child attach to their primary care taker, whether that person be a foster mother or even a nanny. This does not mean that the child loves their mother any less; it just means that they are more dependant on their care-taker. In the case of an infant, although they may feel a natural connection with their natural mother, they may also be establishing an attachment to their foster mother, and babies rarely attach to more than one person at a time. Be patient during the visits when your child is crying and show him that he is safe with you as well. The only way you will "get the court to give him back" is by following the plan that has been set up for you, learn how to parent an infant, educate yourself on the needs of children and perhaps even the cognitive abilities of each stage of development of your child. As long as you are unwilling to see where you need to improve in parenting (and we all need that sometimes) than you will not be able to meet the goals of your plan. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Stop the Hate Love instead	If you want your son back you will do your plan. If you think his foster parents are neglectful then you inform your casework or social worker and they will have someone investigate the situation. However if it turns out his foster parents are being neglectfully they will just send him to another foster family he will not returned to you until you do everything the courts have said you have to do in order to get him back. Have you seen anything to suggest he is neglected? He had a rash but babies do get rashes. No one can turn an 11 month old baby against anyone. He cries when he sees you because most kids this age are weary of strangers. Yes you are his mother but since he has been taken he probably rarely sees you so you have become more of a stranger to him. If there is no true neglected I would think you would want him to stay with his current foster family all kids need stability and consistency even more at such a young age. I agree a child this young is not old enough to be disciplined Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

...	A 11 month old baby cannot be turned against you. He is just not used to you. And you can't punish him. It sounds like he was taken away from you for all the right reasons. You also sound very young. So grow up and then think about having him back. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

monkeykitty83	If you have serious concerns of abuse or neglect, you need to talk to the visit supervisor and his caseworker and file a complaint. However, it's unlikely a complaint under these circumstances will be taken seriously. It's common for infants to have nappy/diaper rash, and unless it's horribly severe or left untreated, it does not constitute neglect. I'm also puzzled about how the foster parents could be turning your child against you-- he's an infant. Even if they were badmouthing you, which would be inappropriate, I'm skeptical that he would even understand and process it enough to treat you differently at visits as a result. Separation anxiety is normal at his age, and even though you're his mother, he's still away from his primary caretaker and in a strange environment at visits. Kids cry. I really don't think you have any kind of abuse or neglect case based on what you've said here. If I'm wrong and underestimating, by all means report it. But it really sounds like you're grasping at straws. The bottom line as this concerns your situation is: even if his foster parents are found neglectful, he won't go back to YOU. He'll go to another foster family. The foster parents' status has nothing to do with your own case-- you will still have to complete your case plan to get him back, even if he goes to a hundred different homes in the meantime. If your child is being hurt, by all means file a complaint, because that's totally wrong. You aren't going to get him back that way, though. You need to get serious about working on YOUR case plan, so you can actually get your baby back. I don't know the details, but you've been told what you need to do by the authorities in charge, so do it. You're the parent, so suck it up, even if you don't like the rules. Focus your energy on becoming a safe parent yourself, unless your child's welfare is seriously in jeopardy. The foster parents' status has nothing to do with getting your child back, so work on becoming the best mother you can so you can parent him again. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Just a Mom	Honey, anytime the state has your kids, you have to play the game. I would do whatever they tell you to when they tell you to do it. Stop trying to prove that the foster parents are the enemies and concentrate on doing what you need to do to get your child back. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Randy B	If you suspect something just call Social Services. They are the ones who have the legal custody of the child at this time and they are the ones who placed the child with those particular foster parents. They are the ones who will have to move the child to another set of foster parents as well. Now, what you mention certainly doesn't sound like neglect at all and unfounded complaints will not help your case any but lets face it, you have the right to complain if you wish and the way you do it is to call Social Services. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chocoroco	okay, first things first: you CANNOT turn an 11 month old against its mother. it's impossible. how would someone go about doing this? at this age they cannot reason with you or be reasoned with... it's just impossible. second and most IMPORTANTLY, you CANNOT and SHOULD NOT discipline an 11 month old. as i said above, they are TOO YOUNG! they don't understand anything and are not at an age of where they could even be making "bad choices" that would warrant discipline. i suspect from that comment that there may be some foundation for the suspicion of abuse. if you think an 11 month old baby needs disciplining, then you need a lot of parent training for the sake of your child and yourself. i wish you the best and suggest you seek a good counselor and parenting coach or parenting class. also go to the library and request books on child rearing and early child development. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mommy of 2 beauties	It is perfectly normal for a child to get a rash. Your child probably cries when he sees you because he doesn't know you. They obviously had enough evidence to take him away from you. How exactly do you punish an 11 month old?? Right now anything you say will just look like you are being spiteful. A child his age doesn't understand the complex thoughts of "turning against" someone. It also sounds like you want him back for wrong reasons(money). Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Fancy Nancy	First of all, you DON'T DISIPLINE A 11 MONTH OLD ! Second, a diaper rash doesn't have to mean their not changing his diapers enough. Third, he's crying because he's not used to you. All babies go through a stage where their just used to their parents and not anyone else. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No