I want to keep and raise my baby but my parents are trying to force me to get an Abortion?

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Morgan-murphy Crawford	abortion is murder!! dont do it! please! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kamp	Adopt it out,if you feel you cannot give the BEST care possible. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

HeiressInFL	They absolutely cannot force you to have an Abortion. Adoption is a loving and selfless choice if you feel you are not able to handle the role as a Mother. Please don't abort your baby; God gave you this precious gift for a reason. God Bless you! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

musicchic2012	If I were you, no matter what my parents said, I would NOT have an abortion. Abortion is wrong. You are 20 years old and have the right to say what happens to your baby. If you want to keep the baby then that's completely your choice. I personally feel that if your parents turn on you because of your choice to keep your baby, then they are so very very wrong. They need to be helping you, instead of threatening you like that. Maybe talk to your sister. Maybe she could give you some advice. If there's no possible way for you to be able to keep your baby, then I'd look into open adoption. Yes, it's still adoption, but you can be very much involved in your baby's life. Maybe look into getting a decent paying job, and possibly an apartment so that when the baby is born, and you have chosen to keep him/her you have somewhere to go. As I said before, you're 20 years old, and have the right to choose what happens to your baby. It's NOT your parents decision. Please don't agree to an abortion! I wish you the very best of luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

John Rodgers	Please don't abort it, you love the baby, and this will ruin your life more than anything. Try to show them that you can support it. In the end it is really your decision. If you can't keep it for some reason, adoption is okay, just please don't kill it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

missuplifted	Addressing "I feel like I have no one to turn to..." As CareNet is the largest network of pregnancy centers in North America, it is likely you may be able to find a center in your area. Their Option Line provides caring, confidential support for those facing an unplanned pregnancy. They’re available to talk 24/7 and will offer reliable information you can trust. They have a 1-800 number & an online chat (Once you click the start button, a pop-up window will open, and a consultant will be available for your questions.) Services are free and confidential. https://www.care-net.org/ http://www.optionline.org/ 1-800-395-HELP (4357) Hope you get hooked up with someone you can confide in and with more personalized advice than available in this forum. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lauren B	whatever you do don't get an abortion. now THAT will ruin your life. if i were in your situation id defiantly want to keep my own baby too. but your parents are just..ugh Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Shar N	for abortion info visit www.abort73.com i hope you decide to keep your baby and all goes well! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Brittany B brakes for turtles	11 weeks? this is what your baby looks like http://www.minti.com/members/ellamia/photos/41668/11-Week-Old-Fetus/# your baby has finger nails, can make a fist, suck its thumb http://letmelive.org/development.php heres what abortion at 11 weeks look like caution very graphic! http://www.clinicquotes.com/site/story.php?id=93 Keep your baby, show these pictures to your parents, you are a grown woman adoption like this is wrong! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Doodlestuff	It's really difficult to fly in the face of those who provide a roof over your head, especially when you are a legal adult. Simply keep the matter to yourself. File for WIC and Medicaid quietly on your own. Don't bring up the fact that you are going to medical appointments. Spend your time determining how you are going to support the baby, because statistics do show that children of single mothers are more likely to grow up in poverty. While I understand your parent's point, threatening to kick you out because you choose to have a baby says to me that they are actually more concerned about their image and are certainly NOT, loving caring people. You might consider threatening them back. Be sure to announce to all your relatives that you are having a baby and that your mom and dad are quite angry about it, but that you hope they will get over it. You may actually get some support from those relatives. Also, shop the garage sales for clothing - saves you money. I was 16 and bullied by family, church and adoption agency to give up my baby with lies. With the internet, being an adult and access to information, don't let others make your decision. In retrospect, an abortion would have been a better choice for me, but it may not be a choice for you. Ignore all these posters that go on about don't abort or adoption. They are on their political pedestals and aren't going to be there if you are homeless or broke with a kid at 30. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lady Rowan	You are 20 years old, and your parents cannot force you to have an abortion. If they keep pushing the issue, start calling friends to see if they'll let you stay with them until you can find a permanent place to live. Tell them to back off. Your body, your choice. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Pip	I was in a similar situation to you when I was 19 years old except I was working. I kept quiet long enough so I couldn't be forced to have an abortion as my parents had done that to my sister a few years earlier. She was 15 when she was forced to abort and her byfriend had been prepared to support both her and the baby. My parents and the adoption agency coerced me into surrendering so I suffered for that. Nobody has a right to force you to do anything you don't want to do morally or legally. What they want to do is either a forced abortion or forced adoption. Keep your baby and get support - from other relatives if possible or can a friend's parents be supportive. You don't have to be rich to raise your baby and you can carry on with your education. Find out what programs can help you and don't give in to your parents, Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Voyageur	Don't listen to your parents. Do exactly what you want. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lexii Smith	Remeber this is your choice, and your choice only. By law, your parents can't make you get an abortion. Espacilly if you 20. Do whats best for you, and the baby. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Matt	Im sorry to hear that your parents are coming at you like that.... I just wanted to add , That Its nice for a change to hear from a young female that wants to keep her child instead of giving it away to make their life easier..... I hope everything works out for you.... Love Few, Hate Many, Trust No One... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Damitra	origins-usa.org keepyourbaby.com For a little support for your situation check out these sights. When I went into reunion with my son who was lost through adoption. Which brought me to a place that I never thought possible. I sent an email and received a phone call shortly after from a member. She found people close to where I live for support. It was complete and utter relief. I know it is quite awful to not have the support of your family. Especially when you have grown up following there guidance, full support and respect. You will need to stand your ground and let them know that this is your child and there grandchild that you are carrying. This child need's the full respect of all in it's life. Your child will bring great joy to you and the rest of the family. If they choose not to be a part of that, than it is there loss. Believe me there is support out there, you will find happiness and be a great mom. You do not have to separate yourself from your child. origins-usa.org keepyourbaby.com Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Hannah	Wow. This was my sister's situation 5 years ago. No relationship with the dad, had a boyfriend though. He didn't want the baby, my parents said have an abortion or give it up. She wavered a couple times, even had an adoptive family ready. She ended up not giving it up, and my parents came around. Actually, that is their (I shouldn't say this, but I don't mean it how it sounds) "favorite" grandchild. They love her to death. You should do what you want. If you feel like they are pushing you too hard, or you feel like you can't think, take a walk or get some alone time. Helped my sister ALOT. Good luck on your decision. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ohiogirl	Be strong. It is your choice. Do your research. Look into any assistance you may qualify for. Also, while you are still pregnant, finish as much schooling as you can. It becomes much more difficult once the baby is here. Also, you will need a job to support the baby. Start looking for jobs now since the unemployment is so high. Your parents may be upset now, but try to give them time. It may take awhile, but they will eventually accept that you are keeping the baby. Hopefully they will be willing to help you since you will need all the help you can get while you are working and trying to finish college. Hopefully, the father of the baby is supportive. Although you may not like him, do not keep the baby from its father. If he does not want to be a father, that is his choice. But always make sure he knows that you would like he and the baby to have a relationship. Otherwise, the child will grow up to blame you for never having a relationship with him. If your parents are not willing to help out, look to other family members for support (grandparents, aunts, etc). Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

minimouse68	Sweetie, if you were 12 and pregnant, they still wouldnt be able to force you into having an abortion, nor can they force you to relinquish your child to adoption. Its your body, your baby, your life....time you got out on your own and make your own choices. There are heaps of services available to you to help you keep and raise your child, and take it from a mum, having children doesnt destroy your life it makes your life. Please do not listen to those who try to tell you that adoption is a better option. Relinquishing your child for adoption is at least equally and for many first mums much more devastating that abortion could ever be, a lifetime is a long time to wonder where your child is and how they are doing, I know this because Im an adult adoptee and my first mother NEVER got over being forced to give me up. Children dont need lots of stuff, they only need clothes, food (and for the first 12 months thats mainly breastmilk) a roof over their heads and most importantly lots and lots of love from their MUM, the one who carried them for 9 months, the one whos heartbeat they already know before theyre even born. Stand strong! Dont let anyone bully you into doing anything you arent happy to do! Please, please stay a VERY long way away from adoption agencies and crisis pregnancy centres. Infant adoption is a very big business - your baby could make anywhere up to $55000 for an agency, they are NOT in it to help you or to do the right thing for your child, although they would try to tell you otherwise......they are in it for profit. Unless you plan to abuse your child, and I dont think you do, there is no better parent for your child than YOU. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jacqueleigh	Listen to me carefully please.........I had an abortion many years ago, and I wasn't even sure what to do at the time, but you seem to know exactly what you want, LISTEN TO YOUR OWN VOICE and NO ONE else's.......I regret my abortion deeply, it hurt me ever since the day I did it, and it seems adoption won't be any easier for you either--but it is the better choice out of the two, the choice I believe you should make is to keep your baby. Money is never as plentiful as we think we need it to be, that is the least of your concerns--because you can get a job I believe as long as their are no other unknown factors we may be unaware of.....go get a job, keep going to school and tell your parents that you can sincerely understand their concerns, rightfully so they have them, but this is YOUR CHILD, NOT THEIRS..... Ask them this question directly--if someone told you you HAD to have an abortion with me, what would you have done? LISTEN TO YOUR OWN VOICE, YOUR HEART AND FOLLOW IT.....B/C IT IS CLEAR YOU WANT YOUR CHILD, IF YOU DON'T STICK UP FOR YOUR CHILD AND PROTECT HIM/HER, WHO WILL? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cay	this ur choice but what ur parents are saying is just their way of trying to protect u. raising a baby by yourself can be very hard and can also cause you 2 feel alone and useless, you have to be mentally prepared for no sleep and having your emotions drained, i was 20 when i had my son, he is a year old now but i dropped out college to have him but having him has made me want to go back to college as i want to give him the best life i possibly can but i wouldn't change anything in the world, it can be difficult but its rewards are endless but that is my opinion, you have to make sure YOUR ready. there is always help out there and i don't think your family will reject your child if you decide to have the baby but like i said its your choice. this is a decision you have to make on your own. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

P Booo	OMG your 20 stand up for your self sweetheart. If you want this child trust me you will find a way Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Altrissa	You are over 18 so they cannot force you do to abort the baby or give it up for adoption. Only you can know how serious your parents are when they say they will disown you if you keep the child and it's your decision as to what you want to do. Just be prepared to find your own place if they are serious and you want to keep your child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

justme	Keep your baby. This is not your parents child to do with as they please. Call all Government departments to ask what is available to you for assistance. DO NOT go to an adoption agency for support. They will only try to obtain your baby, that is their goal. Over time, your parents may come to love and accept their grandchild. If not who cares? The ONLY true love in a woman's life is their children. It may be tough for a while but worth every minute of the joy and love of your child. Follow the link provided: Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TerraMere	Keep you baby. While it will be difficult starting out on your own there is support available. It will be far easier than living a life of regret and heartache for not raising your child. Stay strong and best of luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Annie	You should look into to getting a job and getting your own little place. Not their baby, not their choice...Not their business either if you are no longer living in their house. You can look into a lot of assistance programs to help you financially and with daycare. If you want to keep the baby, keep the baby! Otherwise you will regret it! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jennifer L	Even if you were under 18, your parents cannot force you to get an abortion or force you to place the child for adoption. That's against the law. Period. There are government assistance programs to help you with the money end of things, including grants for college, healthcare for you and your baby, housing options and so forth. You can decide to live on-campus in one of those tiny family housing units. They aren't glamourous, but they do the job while you are in school. If you want to raise this child, there are resources out there to help you. Also, look into mother mentor programs, talk to the counseling department at your college and your student health office. As far as your parents go, they may come around or they may not. I don't know them. I will say that many grandparents-to-be, do come around after they've had some time to get used to the idea that they are going to be grandparents. But if they're making some drastic threats like this, I think you need to start making plans based upon the idea that they won't come around. Start making calls now to the state government offices for assistance. Get yourself a doctor and schedule a prenatal appointment. Start looking into alternate housing. If you want to raise this child, you really do need to prepare yourself for the possibility of doing this without their support. It's a tough road and it's not fair, but there it is. Best of luck to you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LinnyG	Ummm, you are TWENTY. Get your own place and raise your baby. No one can force you to surrender a child, but they dont have to allow a grown adult to live in their house, either. Seriously- terminate. Its the kinder option. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No