I have a feeling my adoption counsellor is going to try and talk me into keeping my baby?

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Mary2	I would love to have a baby gave to me. My hubby and I have been trying for a while, but nothing has happened yet. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sami L	What state in Australia are you in? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

te144	Just about the way you're doing it here. Does she have a religious connection? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Marie H	Tell her that you feel that you need time to find the perfect family for your child and you don't want to waste any of that time talking about nonsense. Tell her you made your decision, period. If she continues to waste your time, then just walk out on her. Believe me, there are plenty of other adoption councilors that will be happy to help you without all that BS. Let me guess, it's a christian adoption councilor, right? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

myst1998	Yes because in Australia they have seen the LIGHT and KNOW full well how bad adoption really is. WHY do you HAVE to place this child? What is the reason? WHy not put the child into a permanent care situation so they have the best of both worlds (although for the CHILD, the best would be keeping him/her). Obviously she is trying to do the right thing by your child... pity you as this baby's own mother can't recognise this. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Wickedd	Tell her to stop her Bullsh*t and just talk about adoption!! Haha jk. That'd be much too rude. Um just tell her exactly what you said now. Tel her that you have no interest in keeping the baby and for her to please stop giving you suggestions. Every time she starts talking about it brush HER off and go back to the subject of adoption. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lady Rowan	She's only doing her job, so let her do her job. Be glad your country has that kind of thing! women here don't. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

magic pointe shoes	Every expectant mother considering relinquishment should explore every possible way to keep their child and parent. To do otherwise leaves a huge emotional impact to both you and your child. To plan relinquishment without preparing for parenting is also setting yourself up for a coerced decision. The laws are very protective of women in your shoes to make sure the decision to relinquish doesn't come lightly or without understanding the gravity of the situation. I envy the pre-relinquishment counseling your country gives. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lew	Some short time down the road your going to wish you had kept your baby. You don't have to convince her. It's her job to try to get you to keep your baby, but she won't turn you down for the adoption. I'm telling you though it's not everyday you get to raise a baby to be something in this world. When you get older your going to be thinking about your baby, where she is, what she looks like now, how things would have been different. Downfalls: Someimes babies will be stuck in foster care all their lives and never be adopted. You never know what kind of family your baby will go to. There's a lot of lunatics out there. It's hard to get and hold a bf, when you've got a baby. It's hard to stay finanially secure when you have kids. It's not easy to raise a child especially by yourself. All these things are tough to deal with. Not everybody is tough enough to take the challenge. They want things to be easy for themselves, so they take the easy way out. "Toughen up, you've got something beautiful, and unique. Don't let it go." Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JoHn S.	She wouldn't be doing her job properly, if she weren't showing you all of your options. Being that this is a lifetime decision, which effects more than just you, I would listen to her, with an open mind. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

None of Your Business	Go to another counselor if you feel that strongly about it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Amaretta	Just be firm, but pleasant with her. Explain that you are ONLY there to discuss adoption and that if she won't assist you, you'll find someone else who will. If she refuses to listen to you, then thank her politely for her time and leave her office. There are many families out there that would LOVE to adopt your baby and give it a loving home and many organizations that can help you arrange that. http://adoption.about.com/od/placingachild/a/pregwhergo.htm Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tonia	She probably wants to make sure you know ALL of your options. It sounds like she's starting at the very beginning and seems alright to me, as long as she goes into such detail with the other options as well. Many counsellors will skip the parenting part. If I were you, I'd listen carefully and get ALL or your options on the table before making such a big decision. If you DO NOT want to parent your child, adoption is a fine option. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LadyCatherine	maybe it is possible that she wants to make sure that you are 100% sure that this is what you want to do.. this will help you more then you think now.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MissWong	Most adoption agencies are required to talk to you about both options thoroughly to prevent future problems. Just listen to her and make your choice. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No