I'm pregnant, but don't want dad to see the baby...?

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Cass erole♥	Given his mental state, and the fact that he has little income, and lives with his parents, he will most likely not get custody of the child if he tries to fight for it. So, take him to court or work something out with him alone. Whichever you choose; Good luck(: Oh, and CONGRATS! :):) A baby is such a blessing. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

stevies.beloved	You would need to go to court and tell the court of his metal status. Tell the court that he is unfit to be a father for the baby. You already have a lott on your side, he did say to get an abortion. So, he has shown that he doesn't want the baby. He does legally have the right to see the baby, But you must take him to court to show them he is an unfit parent. I wish you good luck and congratulations on your new baby! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LNSDQ	I don know if this is the same in Ontario than in the US. If he is paying child support he has the right to see if his child. Only if he gives up parental rights will he not be able to see the child and you would not recieve any monies from him. I would think long and hard about that child and his feelings not having a father before you make your decision people can change and deserve a second change. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sizesmith	There's a law in some various USA states, that is called the putative father registry. It is a registry where a man must register with the clerk's office at the courthouse, and declare that he is the father of the baby (in some states, it's as little as 10 days within the birth of the child). If he doesn't sign, then he loses his rights to the child, but not his obligations, including child support. In some states, such as Florida, it even says that ignorance is no excuse. The law is made to protect mothers into not having to raise a child she doesn't want, and permits her to sign away rights for adoption. It often isn't used, and many attorneys aren't aware of the law, but it can protect a child in a case like this. Search your local area, and see if there's such a law. Also, remember that some men do change when they have to. It might be very good to give him a chance to be a father. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

►◄The►◄ ►Answers◄ ►◄Girl►◄	Go to the legal section not the adoption section. So what you're saying is that you want to take away all his rights as a parent but you still want his money? Well he's on a low income job, so you won't get much and he can take you to court for visitation and he'll get at least twice a month visits and even more if he can prove he wants to turn his life around and that you would be a bad mother (not my opinion, that's just how custody cases work) so if he can prove you are a bad mother then you may as well just leave it and not ask for support and let him have nothing to do with his child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dalton & Kaiah's Mommy	If he pays support he has the right to visitation. What you have to remember is he is the father and apparently you found him attractive at some point. What you consider to be a mental problem may not be or he may be on medication. Unless the father (or mother) is a threat to the child he should have the right to see the child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Michelle S	Ok. I got pregnant at 17 in a simular situation. For some reason I felt like he was a good enough guy to sleep with, but not a good enough guy to be a father. He also proved to be a jerk and ask me to have an abortion and I refused. Basically, I cut all ties. His name is not on the birth certificate. Also, my son is 12 and I have never received a dime of child support for him. If the father pays child support, he is going to have some kind of visitation. No doubt. Good luck to you! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Renee	if he doesn't want to he can sign over his rights which unfortunately means you cant get child support if he still wants to have supervised visitation you can go after him for child support cause he doesn't want to have much to do with the baby any ways if you tell the court what you told us they will be on your side and make him pay Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Princess	I dont know really you can call your lawyer and he can tell you if he has to pay child support. if he is a teenager with no job and a mental illness you didnt say his illness it depends most likely not . If hes a teenager with no job thats bad. I'm glad you are taking care of the child with families help then aborting the child.. which most people dont realize but is a sin and its pro-murder not pro-chioce. And im also glad you aren't giving to some strange adoption parents. If i had a baby i have to take care of it myself too cause you can never trust the new parents they appear nice and caring but you never know how they will actually raise the baby. Call your lawyer and find out and I wish you the best and take care.Talk to your church they may be able to help you a bit with prayer and some baby finiances too maybe. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Pea Pod	Unless he is willing to not see the child and pay or he is deamed "unfit" by the courts your SOL. And from what you have said he dose not seem "unfit". He has EVER right to see HIS child. It is as much HIS as YOURS. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mommy_2_liam	In Canada, he is the Father and he has a legal right to see the child. IT is also the child's right to see both parents. You would only be able to use the mental status, if you have a Dr's not, and he is a danger to the baby. Whether he pays child support or not, it is his legal right to see the child. You might want to talk to a lawyer to see. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

AnnaBelle	First, I MUST correct another poster...Child suppport is not contingent on visitation, and visitation is not contingent on child support! Child support is NOT paying for the right to see the child, it is paying to support them. Child support and visitation are two different things! This means that he still has a right to see the child, even if he is defaulting on child support, and he still has to pay child support, even if he is not seeing the child. Period. He is the father of this child. You can't change that. Plus, good, bad or ugly, your child has a right to know who he is, regardless. My recommendation is three-fold: 1) If you believe that his mental health condition will affect the safety/wellbeing of your child, go to family court as soon as possible to obtain an order of protection (which is like a restraining order) and seek supervised visits, to prevent him from seeing or taking his child without supervision. You will need to prove that his condition is a safety risk. 2) Get a child support order as soon as is humanly possible. Even if he doesn't pay voluntarily, the order will be in place so that whenever he gets a job, opens a bank account, etc., money can be garnisheed from him. He has a responsibility to pay for the baby he made, no matter what. 3) Seek other support. In Ontario, there are plenty of programs that will help you to support your child. Swallow your pride and access them. This too, shall pass. You may also want to get a referral from your doc for some counselling for yourself. This is a stressful situation. (And if you get a referral from your doctor, OHIP might cover it?) If nothing else, there are lots of free counselors out there. Google some in your area. Take care of your mental and physical health. Good luck. But remember, him signing over his rights doesn't necessarily solve the problem. He is still your baby's dad, and has a right to be one, if he so chooses, and safety permitting. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rob	You can ask him to sign over his parental rights but then you can't get support. If you want to get support you have to declare him as the father on the birth certificate but he could try and get custody. If you can prove that he is completely unfit as a parent you might get full custody. But if he has no job or stable income then he can't be relied on to provide any support. Most child support is based on the fathers income - no income, no support. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Andraya - Snark's Sister	In Canada support and access are two different matters that can often be agreed upon during family mediation or, if that fails, in family court. It is not your job to deny him access, just like it isn't his job to deny his child financial support. Once the baby is born you will need to contact Family Mediation Services and between you, the father and a mediator a support agreement can be arranged. If the father wants access he will be able to bring that up in mediation as well. If the two of you can not reach an agreement about access, or support, with mediation the next step would be family court where a judge will decide based on the situation. Child support payments are based on a percentage of his income and the specific extra needs of the child, such as child care. The federal child support guidelines will be used to calculate the amount to be paid. His right to access is not dependent on child support. If he goes for, and is granted, an access order you can not deny him that right. If you don't allow him to see his child and he has a valid access order you can be taken back to court and an enforcement order will be added to the access order. If you still deny him the right to access you can be charged with a criminal offense or ordered to pay him financial restitution. Likewise, if he refuses to pay his support you can register with maintenance enforcement and he risks losing his driver's license, having his GST credit, tax refunds and wages garnished. There are many ways he can still see his child even if a judge finds him unfit for unsupervised visits. You don't state what type of mental illness he has or if it is actually diagnosed but it is highly unlikely that he will not be granted some form of access. He will ALWAYS have the option of court supervised visits unless he is abusive to the child during a court supervised visit. He would be responsible for the costs associated with having his visits supervised but unless he has a history of abuse toward children it is unlikely that route would even be taken. It is more likely that his visits would need to be in his parent's home with them present if it is determined that supervision is necessary. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

surojabu	If you ask him to sign over his parental rights which would ensure he has no right to the child (visitation or otherwise), you will not be able to get support from him. If you want child support from him, you have to pursue him as the father. Contrary to what others on here have said, paying child support and visitation DO NOT go hand in hand. You can have a court order for child support but if there is no court order mandating visitation, you are not obligated to allow him to see the child (even if he pays his support in full and on time). Likewise, you have to obey court ordered visitation even if he does not pay child support as required. However, pursuing him as the father (for support purposes) leaves it open for him to petition the court for joint custody and visitation. He may not do this. But then again he may. If he decides to pursue custody or visitation, you could make an argument to the court for full custody and limited/supervised visitation for the father. But ultimately the court will decide what is in the best interest of the child. On a side issue, I'm not sure what kind of support you think you'll get out of him if he doesn't work and is unstable. Just because you have a court order doesn't mean you'll see any money from him. And also, you need to be concerned about the child's well being because many mental health issues are hereditary -- so keep that in mind regarding the child's development as it grows older. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No