Growing up in foster care? Your opinion please...?

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Sam	You need to call, these kids deserve a sober parent All the time. Don't feel bad you are not making these choices the mother is. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Single Mother	Call cps she needs help and only way shell get it is if the kids get taken away and she has to fight for them back, i was in foster care adn so was my daughter, i faught for my daughter and got her back my ma never faught for me and my sis. but they were for dif reasons Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

monkeykitty83	First of all, I think you're placing too much guilt on yourself. The mother has made her own choices. You didn't choose to take those drinks, so the results of them aren't your fault. Whether you should call depends on if the kids are in immediate danger of harm. If they are-- and that doesn't just mean if she's beating them, it includes if she isn't feeding them, or if she leaves them alone or is so incapacitated that they're unsupervised-- then you need to call CPS and let them know immediately. To be blunt, if she actually does lose her job and apartment, she won't be able to hide that for long, so removal is probably where this is headed anyway. Whether you need to intervene to make it happen sooner depends on if the kids are being neglected or left at risk. Also, remember that removals aren't necessarily permanent. Even if they are removed, it doesn't mean the children will grow up in foster care. The mother will still probably be given a chance to get them back; parents get a lot of chances in the system. Even if she can't, the kids may be placed with relatives or adopted. So please don't feel like the decision to make them permanent foster kids rests on your shoulders, because the courts will ultimately make that choice, and it's not a guaranteed outcome anyway. This situation is really sad, but you didn't cause it. Adults... especially parents... are responsible for their own decisions, and for the wellbeing of their own children. It's a shame that this mother didn't or couldn't accept help, but she didn't or couldn't, so the children need to be protected. The priority now needs to be keeping the kids safe. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lisa K	Hi I've just turned 18 and i have been in foster care for the last 15 years I also have a brother that lives along with me who is 12 and has Autism and ADHD My foster parents were very strict and made me do everything around the house and let my young brother sit around watching D.V.D.'s everyday! Foster care destroyed my life and i will never foster but i would love to adopt a child! Foster care is suppose to help you and lead you in the right direction but other people trying to fill the part as your parent is so hurtfull! I would never recommend anyone that is thinking about going into foster care as a child! If your fostering the person(s) that are fostering a child(s) i think should think how whould you feel if you where taking away from your parent(s) and made live with people that where trying to be your parents! It's just my opinon I totally disagree with foster care unless deemed nessacery There are alot of children that die because social services doesn't take them out even when they know they are at risk but they took me and my brothers when we werent at risk! I will never ever thank social services for it the way others would! In this situation they should be called Good Luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

UH-LISS-UH	hi my names alissa i am seventeen years old, i have gone through this with my mom only it was drugs not alcohol. i moved out when i was twelve but that left my two younger brothers still with her. eventually someone did call DHS on her and my brothers were taken away. this is a hard decision but because of what happened my mother is clean and has been for two years. this could end up being the best thing.. the thing she need to really straighten out her life. she doesn't sound like a bad person but she needs to realize that she has a problem and it does affect her children. personally i say call on her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No