Can I still change of mind during adoption?

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cycle	Well you already know you can, I know it says it on all the papers you signed. I know you are just coming here for support, but i want to be the only one to tell you that what you are doing is horrible. I know everyone here will tell you that you don't owe anyone your baby, which is true but most women who want to keep their children never put them up for adoption. You did, so get over it. I mean what if you had an abortion? You couldn't change your mind then could you? I am sure you will do as the rest said and rip this woman's heart out and make the tax payers pay for your child, but I wanted to be the only one to remind you that you chose this. The adoptive parents may have known you could change your mind but you also knew it meant giving up your child. I see eveyone saying you don't know how your child will feel about the adoption, but you don't know how they will feel about you raising it either. Many children raised by one parent or step parents, hate it. And guess what when you get married the child is going to be adopted anyways. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

E/L/D	yes, u can change your mind at any time b4 papers a re signed. but if you cnt afford to take care of your child, then give it up to sum1 who u know is going to b able to care 4 the child. yes, its going to suck bt this is where u put your feelings aside n do whts best 4 your child ask 4 open adoption Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

C Wood	I recommend you find a family psychologist and go for some counseling. You do have the right to change your mind, but you need an unbiased person to help you find the answer that's right for you. A family psychologist can do that for you. Please remember that any attorney SHE paid is committed to HER interests, NOT your interests. You need someone to talk to who will have YOUR needs and interests in the forefront of their counsel. cw Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

j r	yes you can,, and in some states you can change your mind right up until the baby is born,,, but then there is legal issues to be dealt with Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

H******	Yes you can. You don't owe your baby to anyone! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mychildren'smom	You can change your mind as long as you haven't signed over your rights. No one can tell you what is best that is something you will have to decide on your own. Do the AP a favor though as soon as you know what you are gonna do tell them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Anha S	Yes, you can change your mind, and you owe the PAP nothing. Don't let anyone make you feel horrible, or that because you decided to go the adoption route that now you absolutely have to go through with it, because you don't. Others have already brought up just how coercive pre birth matching is, and I have to throw in my 2c and say that I completely agree, and it is one of the worst routes to adoption out there. It creates this sense of obligation that just shouldn't be there. That PAP will find another baby. There are resources available for you to get on your feet and raise your baby yourself. You owe no one your fertility, nor should you "hand him over" because some set of PAP have already paid for a lawyer. Being without a job and a stable place to live is a temporary situation. Adoption is permanent. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kitta	You have every right to keep your child. This is your child.And, legally, morally, naturally, this is your baby. No matter what anyone else tells you...there are no guarantees with adoption..and you cannot know how your child will feel about being adopted. years and years may go by, and you will still be without your baby,and your child will be without you..that is adoption.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kateiskate is getting married	Yes you can most certainly change your mind at any time until the papers are signed. So DO NOT sign anything until you are 100 percent sure. Don't let anyone guilt you into thinking you owe this woman your child because she has hired a lawyer and spent money. Prospective adoptive parents KNOW there is a chance the mother may change her mind and decide she wants to parent her child and they KNOW you have every right to do so if you choose to. Don't let them harrass you. And if you think about it, would you really want to give your child to the kind of people who would bully and harrass you out of your child at a very vulnerable time for you? If your heart is telling you to keep your son, you should keep him. Your head will find a way to make it work. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jennifer L	Absolutely. You have the legal and moral right to change your mind before birth and for a period of time after relinquishment (determined state-by-state). You don't need to provide a reason or justification to anyone else for your decision. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tish_part deux	YES...YES...YES...YES...YES..YES... i was in the same situation, 17.5 years ago. i changed my mind and was harassed and threatened. yet, i basically told the adoption agency to kiss my as$! no matter what anyone says, you CAN change your mind. and: 1) you owe no one any explanation. 2) you do not have to repay money 3) you can not "sell" a baby. hence, any money she paid is her loss. 4) it's not your job to breed for someone who can't. if your heart is telling you to keep him, then simply give them a call, say, "i don't wish to go through with this adoption" and HANG UP THE PHONE. don't let the lawyer bully you. there are NO LAWS that say you have to go through with it... she will find another baby. you want YOUR baby. some people who haven't given birth don't understand the difference, since to these people, all kids are interchangeable. good luck ETA: don't let people on here tell you that you should feel bad. many women come to adoption through very unscrupulous means (looking for support, going to a "crisis" pregnancy center, et al.). also, these people who are telling you that you should feel bad (look below) have probably never been in a situation where they were scared and made a rash decision that they thought would restore things back to normal...lucky them.. /sarcasm. anyway, you DON'T owe her your child. and you have the right to change your mind. trust me, she'll be rematched with another woman, and will quickly forget about your baby. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

DevonChaos	You can change your mind at any time before the papers are signed. If you are still pregnant with the child, the other person has non legal claim to the baby. You can't adopt a child before they are born. You don't owe this woman a child even if she has paid money. Pre-birth matching is so unethical for everyone involved. This child would be better off with his/her mother if you can find a way to raise them. There are so many places that you can go to for help. This child needs you more than this child needs anything. The baby already knows your voice, your heartbeat... You can't guarantee a better life for this child. Only a different one. You may never know if this child is being treated kindly. You may never see them again. Unless you are the one raising them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Princess Cherbs	KEEP HIM! Dont you ever let ANYONE try and coerce you into giving up your child. You can change your mind at any point you want. Dont feel guilty, bad...I tell you....you will feel 10x more guilt if you give this child up for adoption. There are many gov. grants out there for mothers, which you can apply for. If you can use yahoo answers, you can google, and find applications for these. Please re-think your choice. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

snowwillow20	You can still change your mind at anytime as long as you don't sign anything. It doesn't matter if she has paid for a lawyer. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

life is like the ocean	Yes. You can change your mind. The baby is not even born yet! This is why pre-birth matching is so offensive. It puts you under pressure to give your baby to a stranger, then it leaves the potential adoptive parents with expectations, and pain if those expectations are not met. You can't make a decision without seeing your baby. Just to let you know, open adoptions are not legally enforceable. If the adoptive family choses to, they can stop communication with you at any time. I gave my child up to an open adoption and never heard a word until my daughter found me when she was 18. Keep your baby. The pain you will have without your child is unbearable. Your child will also suffer trauma from being separated from you. Your life will be more hellish from the loss, you will miss your baby. Your baby will miss you. Feel free to email me if you would like more info on what it is like to lose a child to adoption. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No