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justlivingitup	First of all if it is the law that you may join at 16 without parents con cent and you are truly set in you mind that this is what you want, then i say tell your mom that you love her and that this is now your decision to be made not hers. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

☆★starquality5050★☆	Just tell her you love her. And not to worry. Eventhough if I were her..i'd be going crazy. It is very stressfull on her. Just convince her that this is what you really really want to do. and explain to her why.... Or if you can find something less dangerous to do..like going to college. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

donna d	tell her if she thinks like that every day she can never be truly happy for you tell her all the good things the military has to offer you.and you would not be sent off for at least 2 years after you enlist anyways tell her it is not her choice and it is something you really want to do and you want her to be happy for you.i have a nephew who has been in the military 5 yrs know and he is safe it gets safer and safer every year that goes by. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mike	From a former servicemember - the military is one of the best experiences a young person can have. You learn so much, see so much and just develop into a responsible person. I can understand where your Mom is coming from since I am a Dad myself. I would be completely out of my mind with worry if one of my sons decied to join one of the branches right now with the war going on. On the other hand, I would also be one of the proudest Dads around. Tough choice that only open conversation can decide. Listen to your Mom and her experiences - she loves you or else she wouldn't care what you do. In the end it's your decision. At 16 you can't join the military anyway. At 17 you Mom could sign for you. At 18 it's your choice. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Shawn T	It seems that you are honest with your mother, which is a great thing! However parents try to run the lives of their sons and daughters too often. Most of the time it's for their own personal gain based on their personal views and the views of persons who are close to them such as friends. This can be a tough situation to deal with mostly in part because you want to respect the views of your parents. I would take your mother to the nearest active duty Army installation. Where she can pick the brains of actual soldiers in a face to face setting. Your mother isn't necessarily going to change her mind on the situation but she can become more informed of the day to day life of the soldier. Also have her talk to someone who is at least a SSG or above they are more proficient when talking to someone such as a parent. This is due to more experience. Inform your mother that the family is notified in advance so she need not worry about the fact that it may be you. I hope this helps and good luck with the career. Have a good un'. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LSD	Thats a massive choice and ur real young mate. what if some b*ard out there kills u? then ur mum will have lost her son at age 16-(ish). im 15 and, 2 be honest, i would st myself out there on the battle field. i no i would want 2 go out there and kill the fkers, but i would st myself all the same. i dont no how u made such a desicion, but talk with ur mum 4 a while first, and ur m8s. maybe wiv lass m8s coz i bet lads wud mostly say "yeah, go out there and kill some terrorists!!!". i no i wud 2 my m8s. also, if u got a girl friend, talk wiv her about it 2. imagine wat it wud be like 4 her to find out u died. also, think about it, if u kill them fks and live to tell the tale, imagine how bad it would be in normal civillian life. in a club and u hear a loud noise, then st urself and freak out. and livin with blood onur hands. im not religiiious or anything but still, blood on ur hands wud be pretty bad. wtf?? is it that bagette b**tard hu is givin out the bad thumbs? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Question	I would recommend sitting down and writing an essay or list of why you want to join the Army. Talk about the pros and cons of why you want to join. Look at the jobs/MOS and find out what you want to do and why you want to do it. Your mom loves you and you need to be able to explain what about the military makes you want to join. Tell her how much you love her and you appreciate that she is concerned but you have thought it out and you want to join because (insert your reasons here). I would recommend once you make the final decision to go and you head out to basic training to write to her everyday. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mom	tell her u love and respect her and value her opinions. that u know she loves u and respects yours.tell her while mothers usually know best, you will find out later. you and your country are proud, and u hope she will be too. good luck and god bless. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SGT V	What Army are you joining at the age of 16? The U.S. Army and all branches of the U.S. military the minimum age for enlistment is 17 and that is with parental consent. So Mom has nothing to worry about. What is your rush? If McCain gets elected president there will be troops in Iraq for another decade. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TeeHee	not sure what you should do.. but i am waiting till 18 since my mom wont sign any crap XD Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jtk15sc15	Tell her that you are putting your life on the line so that other moms dont have to worry about their sons. and that you are serving your country you should be one proud mother f*cka thanks brother, will be there in a few years myself Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nonza	Tell her how you feel inside, and REALLY express your emotions. say you love her, comfort her, and most importantly convince her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

I'm so freaking hot	This is a hard question to answer. Because there really isn't anything you can say that will ease her minds about what she is fearing for your future. I would make a list of reasons why you want to join the army and make a list of pros and cons of the decision. This will help you to come up with something that will help her to understand. Tell her that for now you will be safe because first you have to get through basic training before they send you off oversees. I will be praying for you and hope you find something that will help her come to terms with the idea. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fight obama's lies	Tell your mom that you could always be a Goth.... Its a career, it earns money for school and (liberal hack's comments aside) a perfectly respectable profession. YES, PROFESSION! Good luck, young man Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hi123456789	If you want to know how to convince your mom look later. Well, does it really has to be the army? There are plenty of other action packed things you can do with more contact with your family but not exactly it being more safe. Many of these jobs don't require you to have a highschool/college education. Some are stuntman, policeman, fireman, any sports, journalist (going to far away countries and doing research), and others. Anything that interest you to go to college. Anything that fascinates you. You will be amazed at what you can apply for. College is suppose to be the time of anyones life full of fun and curiosity. (Parties too...) There is even a college course where you go out and play a sport for half of the day. Your mom is only doing that because she cares for you. Also, have you seen some people who come back from the army. To see all that dying really changes people mentally. Are interested in anything else at all? Okay, if you really want to go to the army this is what you can do to convince your mom. First, you have to tell her specifically what you plan to do in the army and tell her what risks are involled. Try your BEST to make sound as safe as possible. Tell her how you can contact her and what are the chances he will actually go to war. Answer all her questions and worried thoughts as positive as you can. Educate her about the army and how safe it can be. Once you convinced her about safety go on with benefits. Tell her what you'll gain and how this will help change you life. Also, tell about those army benefits people get. Try to make it as good as possible. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

zachtheace	There's not that much combat engaging between American and insurgent forces...It's starting to settle down. But there is a lot of Iraqi bloodshed. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kakoii90	I think what you told her is appropriate. You might want to ask her if she will speak with a recruiter with you. Just to gather information. Let her know you are taking this seriously and you are not a glory-hound. Make sure you are fully informed also. My son has just left for Basic Training and I REALLY didn't want him to enlist. He kept telling me it was what he really wanted. He didn't argue about it but just kept telling me that he didn't want to go to college or work in an office. I came around- slowly but mainly because my son didn't throw temper tantrums or shout ultimatums. I made him wait until he was 18 and look into all branches of service and colleges (not all, some) before I willing accompanied him to enlist. Now, I realize it was the best thing for him. Although, I will always worry about his safety. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rebekah u	well your only 16 so legally your mother still has control over you. If she definately will not let you go when you are 16 tell her that when you turn 18 you are seriously considering joining the army. Tell her your doing it to serve your country and protect her rights. when you are 18 she doesn't have control over you anymore, so even if she doesn't approve of it, she has no choice. she should respect your decision, as it is a very honorable thing to do. i wish you best of luck in everything you do! good bless. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

~Amor vincit omnia~	I don't think that u should join the army when your sixteen-that's still young. If you really want to go through with it and put your life at risk in Afghanistan and Iraq, then just wait til your a little older. You have your whole life ahead of you and could do other things. Just tell her that you love her and it would mean a lot to you if she accepts your decision. Tell her reasons why u want to join and what you will gain from going into the army (mentally and physically). Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

George M	No offense, but IMO 16 is a bit early to enlist. Perhaps you should "compromise" with her by moving your planned enlistment back a few years. You can still enlist all the way up to 24 (26 in some cases) and you'll be able to get a higher rank after completing some additional schoolwork. Plus, she'll have more time to come to terms with your decision that way, and have a chance to spend more time with you knowing that you might not be coming home. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jasonat0r	Oh thats hard. Well if your truely SERIOUS about this, then when your "OUT THERE"...you just have to send letters EVERYDAY to let her know your okay. Do that, and she'll be LESS worried...do that and keep telling her your doing it for your country etc...Hope this could help...Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

liam d	Make sure the Army is the branch you want to join. I would talk to all the recruiters,(well i did) and find out what fits best for you. Dont join one because you get a better bonus, because they amount to very little anyway. Ask yourself why your doing it other than to not sit on your butt. Are you using it as a stepping stone to get education? Will it be your career? Those are things that you need to answer yourself, so you can speak intelligently to your mother why you are making this decision, because for anyone the just not being lazy answer, is very unconvincing and in no way reassuring to a mother. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

StatenIsland Guy	Good luck, and God bless. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jason L	My mom was like that, but now she wears a bunch of "Proud Army Mom" T-shirts she bought from my Basic at Fort Benning. My dad totally disowned my *** because he's one of those nutcase conspiracists like Alex Jones. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

krzy_me	If it is truly what you want... do it. She is going to have to understand that is what you want. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lala.	i think it's really good for u wanting to join the army... but you should think about your mom too. she loves you ALOT from what your telling us and she just doesn't want to loose you! join the army if you want...just don't get killed. and write frequently! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ord1226	Adios mom Hey I am a big girl, I could get killed driving my car. It is my career decision. I can get training and college credits. I joined the military back during Vietnam. My mother fainted, hey mom, I am not a little kid anymore. It is my choice, and I can get the money I need for college. After I came out I got my degree in electrical engineering. Promise to write always. One week I didn't write and my mother called her senator and I did KP for a week. Hey it is a human mother instinct. Go into something like intelligence. That will keep you out of harms ways. that will make her happy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sydney B	tell her that you are an adult of course and she can't stop you, but you would really like for her to support your decision to join the army. tell her that you would die happy, knowing you died supporting your country, home, family, and friends. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Coco	She will learn to accept what you are doing. She can't be mad at you her whole life. She will get passed it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

PaintStains	i think you should say you can see where she's coming from, but you have to do with your life what you think is right. she should be willing to support you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

crazy_angel31078	A child joining the military is a heartbreak for any parent, but if in England you can join the Army at 16, then follow your dream. My mom wasn't too thrilled when I joined the Army in the US and really didn't think I would make it (back in '98 before all this bs). Parents must understand that there comes a point in life where the decision calling is not on them, it's on you. You should tell your mom that this is your first major decision as an adult. Though she may not like it much, you should get her to understand that this is an elite obligation that you would like to fulfill for your country. In the US, a little over 1% of the Nation's population serves in one of the branches of the Armed Forces...1%...and to say that you're part of that 1% is to say that you are of an elite group of citizens who are offering the ultimate sacrifice in the place of someone who will sacrifice nothing for their country. Make her a promise that if in the event that you must deploy, tell her that you'll try and call as often as you can. The most important thing is to tell her not to watch the news. It is often full of nothing but propoganda that supports the pros and cons of war. When I got my mom to stop watching the news, she finally settled down and was less stressed about things. Plus, being that I'm in the Signal Corps, I was able to call back home from my work site almost every night to let her know that I was ok. I kept up with the news and when I hear that someone was killed in Iraq, I called my mom to let her know that it wasn't me and that I was ok. This is your decision and your life. If you speak to your mother in a mature manner to let her know that this is what you want to do and this is what you plan on doing to set her mind at ease, then maybe she'll feel a little bit more at ease with your decision. I wish you luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No