My boyfriend does not support my decision to go into the Navy! What shoud I do??

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brandim3135	You need to put yourself first. What is more important to you? The career in the Navy or the boyfriend? My husband is in the Navy and things just wouldn't work if I didn't support his decision to join. If he can't support this now, how will he be able to support you while you are separated (boot camp, schooling, deployments). You can't make him support you though, sit him down tell him why this is so important to you, your reasoning for doing this and anything else you need to discuss with him. If he can't grasp the concept and support your decision, then my advice would be to let him go. There are plenty of other men out there who would be proud and supportive of your choice and be there for you every step of the way. Good luck in your decision!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Wiz	1. You can never MAKE him support you. 2. You are in almost as much danger walking down the street in any major city in the US. As a female HM your chances of going to Iraq are probably pretty small. After you get a commission you will be a nurse, probably and the chances even smaller. If this is what you want to do, do it. As others have said, there are many other men in the world who will respect your decision. If you don't do what you want now, you will find it very difficult to make a decision in the future that is opposed by those who purport to love you. It is your life, live it as you wish. And Thank you for your future service to our country. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dontknow86	Thats sad he can only think of himself, You go get what YOU want out of your life, Dont let anyone stand in your way, You might find a guy in the samethings as you, And you will be together for a lifetime , Dump him. TRUST ME ! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

.	Dump this jerk. Go into the Navy. You will have the best time, and probably meet some really great guys. You don't need that anchor around your neck. What does he want you to do? Get a job in your hometown and support his lazy butt? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

diana .aka klockwatcher	forget him..follow your dream..after all it is yours...go serve your country...you will be proud you did...sink that loser... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gfgayle	Be your own woman!!!!!! Do what makes you feel good about yourself and provides for your future. I tell every woman (young and old) that I come in contact with to ensure that they are prepared to take care of themselves for life. I am not trying to say that he will not provide or that something will happen between you guys. But think of it this way. If you marry and have say 3 children. Your spouse has a great job making loads of money. He goes to work one day and gets hit by a car cross the street. If he is killed or even maimed badly what happens to his pay? Wouldn't you feel better knowing that you are at least trained to step up and take over providing for the family. Being in the military also gives you a sense of self worth and pride that you can accomplish anything. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mrsjvb	okay I confuzzled.. are you enlisting as an HM, or are you going to ROTC? can't do both. as for the BF: he is ONLY a Boy Friend and you cannot make him do anything. so decide: which do you want more, to serve in the Navy, or to capitulate to his whim and possibly end up broken up with him in six months anyway with no Navy Career to show for it? NOBODY has any right whatsoever to keep you from fulfilling your dreams. NOBODY. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

davidmi711	Sounds like either he does not love you or has a REALLY bad way of showing it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

stunna3m	Ithink that it is awsome that you want to support your country, Further more the military can offer you many opportunities. Right now your boyfriend is not trying to hear that. He is concerned about losing you, which he rightfully should be. Explain to him that this is your dream and that you really need his support. He may not understand but you now, nevertheless you must follow your heart and dream. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lexus23606	Nothing you can not force someone to support you, I am so sorry to hear that he is so very closed minded. Look if this is what you want YOU need to go for it and if he will not support you then in the long run he will hold you back. I am a Ret Navy man but i am not saying to because of that, I am saying that you have a real chance to better you life and definitely get a real jump in life that will make you a better person. As far as your BF he will either be on the bus or he needs to get off and look at himself, Look if it was the other way around would you support him? I have a feeling that you would. Good Luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JUAN FRAN$$$	With the divorce rate running at now around 60% there is a more than fifty fifty chance you and he will end up getting a divorce if and when you get married. Yeah I know wet blanket but necessary to remind you of. Why because you need to have a profession and career that is not dependent on some one else. So that refreshing your memory, he doesn't support you and says he is going to break up with you if you do it. That is a pretty good indicater that you and he will end up getting a divorce anway if you marry him instead of going on to college and you will be stuck with no education as well as kids to support and raise by yourself. He does not sound like the type that will pay child support and raise the children. In fact sounds more like the kind that will be laying up drinking beer while you are out trying to make enough money for the family. Went through this with one of my daughters. Get my drift. DUMP HIM! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Citizen DeCat	It is possible that he is worried about your safety, what with the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan. However, you can't go through life wrapped in cotton wool. Do what you have to do - with or without your boyfriend's approval. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

naturalist	If this is what "you" want, then you need to do it. Giving up a dream like this (and great oppurtunity) will only make you live in regret. If he loves you, it'll work out. If not, then at least break it off before you leave for the service. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gugliamo00	I don't know him. My surmise is that you can't change his mind. If he loves you, he'll support your decision. If not... sounds as if it's his loss. There was this woman officer (Navy) I knew that used to tell me, "I realize I'm in what has been traditionally a man's world, and that I have to do twice the job a man has to do to get the same recognition." And she'd get this cute smirk on her face and add, "And I do it." And she did. She was recommended for deep selection (you'll find out what that is) every time. She swam in a meet in San Diego and took a first, two seconds an a third--and she was the only woman swimming. It takes a good man to share the life of a woman like that. Just a thought. You have to go home and live with yourself every night. Others come and go in and out of your life as suits their fancy. But you don't have that luxury. You have to do what you feel to be right. Nobody can--or should expect to--dictate what that is. Good luck... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rachel b	If he doesn't support you pursuing your dreams then drop him. He shouldn't hold you back and long distance relationships are really stressful. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Joseph, II	Explain to you boyfriend that this is VERY important to you- & that you'd REALLY like his support. If he still gives you a hard time about it, or threatens to leave you because of it, -remember THIS; Good Dreams are HARDER to come by- than Boyfriends. Good luck- with BOTH! :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

git r done	if y'all get married and go in together,i mean both of you join he might go along with it then. they will guarantee y'all will stay together while y'all are in.now wouldn't that be fun.the only time y'all would be apart is basic training.8 weeks.so give him that alternative and see what he says,he might tell you to go ahead and he will support you.good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥ €ћяϊ§†Ұ™ ♥	Well hes not your husband.... And if you never do what you wanna do. You will always have anger towards him cause he never supported you to accomplish your dream. Basically hes telling you what to do, already. Either that or he REALLY loves you and doesnt want you to be away from him that long of a time. Your just gonna have to be the strong one and stand up to him and tell him you wanna do this. Im not sure how old you are but if you are close to 20, you need to consider doing it, before you get any older. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

south of france	Before you commit to any Navy you should go to see a ship leave on a long deployment. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jenny	You already made your choice!!!! Regardless how he felt. You can't change him/ No more then he can change you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Fritz Milan	Well, I can understand to a certain extent. But, you have to decide if you want a career in the Navy or do you want a family and husband, you say you love him a lot. It sounds like your family has already done a great deal of service to this nation, so you shouldn't feel any obligation to have to do your part. Personally, I am opposed to women on ships or in combat zones (except for Nurses). But, it is your life. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nthearmynow86	I was married to a guy that didn't support my joining of the army. Key word: was. I'm not saying that your bf isn't the guy for you, but military life is too hard as is, without an unsupportive significant other. Trust me, you'll start to hate hearing 'I told you so' when you try to vent to your beau about how hard your day was. Don't sacrifice your dreams for anyone. I almost did, and I will be forever grateful I didn't. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Erin	LEAVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE... NOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW. If he can't support you, then you don't need him. Leave now! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

John Reid	If he does not support your decisions, maybe you should find someone who does. My guess is that he is insecure and is afraid of losing you. Many times, when a man does not support a woman's decision, he is afraid that she will do something which will make him feel inferior. Anchor's aweigh!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Doodlestuff	Your boyfriend has other dreams. I think it's time to call it quits. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

John W	Sorry you've got such a tough choice to make, but you have do decide to what is most important to you. It's tempting to say that if he loved you enough he would support your decision, but it's not always that easy. On the other hand, it may be that he is trying to control you and that does not bode well for your future. You're not going to be able to change him, though, so you have to choose. If the Navy is your dream, go for it. I'm sure there's a guy out there who will love you for your committment. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JT 20-20	forgot about him. he must not be man enough to handle that you want to fight for your country! follow your heart Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

christine_	I don't think you can "make" him support you. Maybe once he sees how happy it makes you, he'll change, but don't sacrifce your dreams for someone who won't support you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

keltillos	Find a new boyfriend. IF he doesn't want you to pursue the life that you want, then he does not and can not truly love you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

beardog4314	Inform him that you weren't asking his permission. You've chosen to go a certain direction, and would enjoy his company, but you're willing to walk away from him too. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BethS	I'm not sure you can make him support your decision. This sounds like an issue that is going to test your relationship. You may need to make a difficult decision about your ralationship in order to fulfill your dream of joining the Navy. My advice is to be true to yourself. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No