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jeff the drunk	Report this to the MP's, and his Unit CO, you have medical evidence, and you have every right to do so. Before you do this, pack up everything and get out. You need to get as far away from him as possible, get a restraining order, and begin the process of getting a divorce. You dont need to put up with this. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TRUE PATRIOT	He is the one beating you. He can't take your kids away from you. He is the one in the wrong. Get out and take your kids with you. Call the MP's. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sandi A	By keeping yourself and your children in that environment then you are just making it dangerous for them. You need to report him to the MP's, his commanding officer, whoever. Just because he is in the military doesn't make him exempt, in fact, he should know better. You were not put on this earth to be a punching bag for anyone. Don't take it anymore, make a stand, stand your ground, kick his butt, lock him up. Do something. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Beth	Oh God. Please get help. He is going to say anything to scare you. Do not stay in this relationship. It only gets worse. He'll think he can get away with it more & more. Been there done that. Good Luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

melinda	if he is in the military it will work to your advantage. he cannot have full custody of the children anyway because of the fact he could have to be gone long hours or for training or deployment. the fact that he is abusive is another plus for you. there is no chance in hell that he could get custody of your kids unless you are some kind of drug addict that sells your children for drug money. he has no right to do this to you, and you need to report him to the mp's and also his commanding officer, do the opposite of what he said, tell tell tell, anyone who will listen, tell them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Blondie	Being in the military, he is considered a deadly weapon. So the punishment he would get would be more extreme than a regular person. LEAVE HIM!!! It will only get worse...and you don't want to risk him beating your children. You do not deserve at be treated that way. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

xadralix	You need to contact the army family advocacy program on the base that you are living or the next one to you and let them know about your situation and they will take care of it. You can also call his commander and tell him about your situation but be aware that once your commander its aware he will call the MP's and jag and your husband will be persecuted and must likely kicked out of the Army. You need to get away from him and the MP's will take care of that as far as your kids he cant take them away from you and actually you can use the military issue against him in court since soldiers are never home, constantly deployed or they work long hours and on that schedule it will be very hard for him to be the sole caregiver of your children even if they go to school or daycare. Whatever you do please be safe and stay away from that man. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

katziyz	I am so sorry that you have to go thru this. I went thru this a few years ago and it took getting the back of my head cracked to realize I had to get out. Find somewhere safe to go and the first thing you need to do is get a restraining order. That will protect you and your kids even family. The courthouse should waive the fee if you cant afford it. I was a stay at home mom at the time and had no money but you can find a good legal aid attourney if money is a problem. If not just get a lawyer and start custody proceedings. The best thing is that you will already have the children and they will be safe. Also you will need the proof from your doctor as the other people have told you in the other answers. That will be one of the most important thing you will need. Dont worry if he drags your name thru the mud and tries to say you are an unfit mother. Thats the only way he could take the kids away is if you were unfit and trust me he has to prove that. First and most important tho- get out while he is away. I moved out while my ex was at work. I got a small storage space and got as much of mine and my childrens things that I could while he was gone. When it starts getting that bad to where he is seriously hurting you Im afraid to say no matter how much you think he will change he wont and it will get worse possibly fatal. Good Luck and be safe. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tweeder	get rid of him he will get in a lot of troulbe to through the military Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

p_stanleyrox	Get out now!!!!!!!! This type of behaviour does not stop. It does not get better. It will only get worse, and could spill over onto the children. Leave him and do not look back!!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cookie1578	If the MP's don't do anything when you call them, contact his First Sgt. That is what "Shirts" deal with. He may be issued a no contact order which means he can not have any contact with you at all. He will be removed from the house and probably be put in the dorms. Please do this now before it happens again. As a "Shirts" wife please trust me and call someone now. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sara	Please don't believe he will get the kids, he is a bully, a bully only has power over you by convincing you they have power, every one here is right it is against military code of ethics what he is doing and he will lose in court, just remember a restraining order is just a piece of paper, it is a piece of paper that allows you to call the police before he hurts you and not hear from them "he hasn't hurt you yet" but it isn't a personal bodyguard,alot of dead women with restraining orders, thought they were protected. behaviour like he has displayed only escalets and it is already bad, next time he might kill you GET OUT, enlist the help of everybody you can. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

shrty0525	have you called the mp's? had pictures taken of the bruises? He can't take the kids away if you report it - do it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Annie	call the SP's..they will remove him from the house and he will be ordered not to return while the investigation goes on. If he does def orders, he will be arrested and detained or forcibly held in quarters. Your next step is to call the family advoacacy program on your base as well as the legal office. Have them help you work out an exit plan..a way to leave him. And know that the courts would not give custody of your children to an abusive husband. I would also be sure to request copies of all your medical records...you may need and or want them when you take the bastard to divorce court. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Pia	Take those kids to a relative's or a friend's, and go with them. Will you stay with him? Because if he is going for the custody, that incident report can easily help you get full custody, not even joint with him. Get out of there, girl. Your kids don't need to see that situation happening and you'll be better off anyway, after you settle. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jeff F	Report him to the MPs on base and then call the civilian police. With a charge of spousal abuse on his record he will not be able to handle a weapon and therefore bye, bye to his military career. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

stellablue1959	My best friend went through this exact same thing.YOU have no rights and HE has all of them,simply because he is in the military and they will back him up.My friends husband was in the Air Force,abused her and her children for years with many of the incidents documented by the on base police.She took all her proof in to court.The first time she lost custody of her oldest child,the next year she lost her second one.The only thing bad he had to say about her as a mother that once when the oldest swore,she put tabasco sauce on her tongue as a reminder that swearing wasn't acceptable.A far cry from physical abuse.After he raised a shovel to hit his youngest with it,she stepped in and took the blow herself.She fled for the safety of her children and he tried to pin kidnapping charges on her,she was in a shelter at that time.I was in court with her every time and couldn't believe that something like this could actually happen in this country. Make sure you document EVERYTHING.She reported his abuse to his commander and his response was,so what,he is allowed to do whatever he wants.The whole situation was very sad and my friend has never been the same since losing her children.I sure hope things turn out better for you,my heart goes out to you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kalynn h	talk to his commanding officer show him the x-rays and tell him what happened take your kids to a safe place during this so that you know where they are at but he doesn't. They shouldn't see this, but you need to talk to someone. The military doesn't tolerate that and he won't get the kids because he would be living alone, if he is lucky he will still be a soldier and he won't be able to have the kids in case he has to go to Iraq. GET THE HELL OUT OF THIS SITUATION!!! don't let him push you around and scare you. Be strong and independant and leave his sorry *** Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jim G	Don't listen to his threats. 2 words for u - restraining...order Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

GRUMPY	If I were you, I'd wait until he goes to work, (The base) in the morning and then I'd move back home. File the paperwork for a restraining order and then file for divorce. NO man should ever rasie his hand to a woman. NO MAN at all. He must be insecure in his man hood and needs to do this so he can say I'm A MAN. He is woosie is all. He isn't man enough to try that with a real man. If he has any guts at all tell him to step up to the plate and hit me. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lethallolita	why are you still there???? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kimberly S	You should take legal action. He can't take your kids away if you can prove he is abusive. What did you tell your doctor happened? If you told your doctor that your husband did this then you have all the proof you need. Take pictures of any brusies. You really need to get out of any relationship that you have been abused in. I know that probably not something you want to hear but it would be best for you and your kids. Cause the next time he could take it out on your kids. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BRIAN R	when he at work you need to get away from him before he hurts you again or it might get worse Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dwight N	First of all grab you stuff and kids and move to a hotel or somewhere he can't find you. You then tell the cops. I would divorce him If I were you. Women have a better chance of keeping the kids in court. The fact that he beats on you will help in court b/c it will show that he is abusive. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

This Is Not Honor	Get out of there and take the kids. Get a restraining order. And make sure you have documented proof for custody battles later. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Waynes Angel	tell anyway if you went to the dr they have proof that he hit you so he wont get the kids if he is abusive . if you dont leave it will only get worse and your kids will grow up and think this is okay so get out now Good Luck and I will be praying for you Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Screaming Eagle	Remove him from all the credit cards and bank accounts. Leave and take the kids. Take the car. Take as much money as you can. Seek a safe house. Call the police. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

morrisandkemah	I am sure the military has a spouse abuse hotline or there is definitely one in your area. I don't know where you live or I would get you a link... They should be the best equipped to give you advice on this subject. Here is a link to a miltary program... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jen G	Do you know how much trouble he could get in especially since he is in the military. You won't lose your kids, he will. You need to seek help or else it may escalate. Do you want your children to grow up in an abusive environment. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sentient6	You have a doctor and evidence to prove he is abusive you think hes going to be able to take your kids away if you go to court? Courts already favor the mother if you can prove the smallest amount of abuse he wont be able to do **. I hope for the sake of you and the children you leave his sorry *. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Why Not!	you needed to report that to your Dr. and with that type of behavior he will have a hard time getting the kids.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No