Worried if I tell hubby I want to stay home he won't get me pregnant?

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It's Her Again!!	I can't imagine that any real man would want his children to be raised by strangers. If that is the type of man you married, then I wouldn't have kids with him. I work now and have since my kids started school. Until then, I stayed home with them. My husband respected the job I did running the house, caring for the kids, keeping the budget and making sure his income covered all we needed. I didn't sit around watching soaps and complaining about being bored all day. I was happy and proud to take care of my family. I wish I hadn't gone to work when I did, because honestly the kids still needed me at home then too. If you do it right, being a stay at home mom is a full time job and then some. Be proud of it and treat it as important as it is. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

angel_xof_xmusic	Well, I just have to say that if your husband truly loves you, then he would support your decision about being a stay at home mom for the time being. It is proven that if a mother and baby spend more time with each other, the bond becomes very strong between the both of them, and it would make for an amazing relationship for you both. On the other hand, I can see where you are anxious about giving up a state job. But, most jobs like that have benefits for pregnant women, and when they get to a certain month they stop working for a while until the baby is born, and come back about a month to 6 weeks later (Again, depending on the work place) But, I do think that your choice to stay home with your baby would be great! And, if your husband is loving and caring enough, he will respect and be behind you in any decision you make. I don't think that if you tell him you would want to stop working if you got pregnant would make him not want to have a baby with you. But if that is what it came down to, he isn't a very good husband if he can't respect your decisions. I really hope this helps! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

EZZA!	get a family member to help u look after the baby so u can still keep ur job. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mellie	I would hold off on the baby thing until you've established yourself at this job. Good jobs are hard to come by, and you want some tenure and benefits if you do become pregnant. That way, if you do stay home with the baby, your job is protected because you've worked enough hours to qualify for short-term disability. But you have to discuss this with him. Why make plans without him anyway? You wanna have a kid, and you need him to make it, so discuss these plans with him and let him have a say. The only way you're going to find out what he thinks is by talking to him. Otherwise making these plans without him is kinda weird. I know you are looking forward to a baby, but you need to wait probably for his sake and yours. But discuss it with him as soon as possible. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lenora	After the baby, can't you scale down and work part time? Its better than nothing and will keep peace in the home; however, didn't you feel this way before you got married? If you did, it shouldn't be a surprise to him to the point of him freaking out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JellybeanLOVER	Why is it automatically thought that the mum should stay home full time? In this day & age many dads stay home with their new bub while mum works full time. If you job is such a good opportunity & your earning such good money maybe your man should be the one to stay home. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

crown-me-gold	first of all having baby is 2 people decision...but if he makes enought money then he should know that its better for you to stay home with baby ....but if he has some other worries that you are not aware of then you need to sit down and talk about it. baby means extra cost ...so your cost will go up and i think thats what worried him...it is good to be financially prepared more then anything Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Anna	I am sure your husband loves you very much and would not think of leaving but...even the best men fall sometimes. Do not give up your dream of having a baby never....take it from a mother of three and one angel. but just remember men are not like OUR DADS these days. people are losing jobs and its tough out there. look before you leap. but never give up the chance of being a mommy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

maryannmccarthy2003	A state job is hard to come by, are ya sure your willing to give that up considering the pay and benefits alone? If so, well than just start living frugally NOW without even mentioning anything right now and then when you have a nice chunk of money in a separate bank account with hubby as beneficiary, show him what you have done and then discuss being a stay at home mom. There are some good books out there about frugal living as well. Mary in Camden, MI Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nicole m	in these times i would not not give up a state job, thats a great job, with benefits. what if you just went back part time so at least you have the 401k. your gonna get bored staying home all day. and want some adult time Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Forlorn Hope-only 5 suspensions	why should he have to be the only provider??? can't he stay at home and you work??? what happens if he loses his job??? better to both work, and be sure, than HOPE that the other person continues to work in the financial uncertainties there are at the moment... if i was him, i'd down tools, if i was the only one to work... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Epona S	You have to be honest with him of your intentions. That is a must. Then you can find a compromise. Don't try to trap him by getting pregnant and then saying "oh btw honey.." that's bogus. He might ask to wait another year or something just to get more money in the bank. Its not all about what you want, you have to give a little in a partnership. And maybe he wont even ask for that. Explain your position and strategy and that might be all he needs..good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ablex	So you are afraid that if you are honest with your husband you won't get what you want? You're saying he will think you are manipulating him, thus making it impossible for you to manipulate him. If you can't talk to the man, you definitely shouldn't be having children with him. You made an agreement - stick to it unless he agrees to change the terms. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

John	I think you have a good plan .... Take your time .. see if the job is a "Real Keeper" ... then see about policy on extended leave options and is the company willing to work with you...... Then explain the option you worked out to your husband. Good Work ! Congrats on the new family plan ! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No