Wives, why don't you like sex?

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carebearsrsweet930	I'm the opposite and want it all the time! But we have just read a book for pre-marital counseling, and it completely makes sense. If a spouse's love language isn't being met, their "love tank" will be empty, and therefore that causes some problems with the relationship. So if your love language is physical touch- as mine is, and your spouse's love language is quality time, you each need to speak one another's love language in order to feel full and complete. If you spend more quality time with your spouse, she might be more willing to give you more sex. I know for myself, when I spend more quality time with my fiance, we do have sex more often. The book is "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. It's great! And it might help you! Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

heart o' gold	Well...I'm not married...but I would imagine that after washing his socks and shorts for a few years you'd lose interest in the rest...when men relax in a relationship, it's not pretty... That's why I've always stayed single, it keeps them on thier toes... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

extex_cop	That's not true....my next door neighbor's wife loves to have sex with me.....oops??? Never mind.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

the_orc_1	men and women want sex for different reasons as per my wife we had the talk ladies prefer it for romance not love and guys for needs and physical attraction guys if you can make it last for say 30 mins then you would get it more often thats a fact i know ive been there and do it not to satisfy your need but to satisfy theirs (wink) your will get their too i swear but do all the cuddling and foreplay that they want before hand and then wham get to business and when they get theirs your home free if they arent there yet take a breather but dont stop until they are satisfied thats what makes women freeze up in bed as per the wife Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cliktoo	Perhaps they took the spark out of the relationship,try asking what she would like,instead of burdining her with grunts. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Muley Bob	Maybe because you are too pushy and don't romance her like you used to when you were trying to win her affections. Maybe now you just feel entitled to some sex and aren't willing to make her feel like she wants to give you some. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sam	Kenny, Just like many other gullible men, you tend to over generalize. You live in your own little world. OK, Sherlock, your theory is YOUR wife not liking sex means all wives do not like sex? Right?...WRONG!!! Kenny, your wife likes sex, she just doesn't like sex with you! Check yourself out in the mirror dude and you'll figure out why you wife doesn't want any of that! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

undone	I dont like sex with him because he is a bad "sexer". Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

steff	maybe because we like to be loved and not feel like a pin cushion just so men like you can get your rocks off Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Calley D	we do and were not all the same wow I have a dirty mind and thats all I think about sex and ******* I love sex, Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mredgarjr	Here are a couple different versions of the same old saying... What is the number 1 killer of a womans sex drive? Wedding cake/ring Nuff said Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pjfromgb	the wives that you are referring to already have what they need your $$$$$$$ and your balls in her purse. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

scott_v1963	Great question. My wife loves sex when we do it...just doesn't want to do it. I try romance, flowers, candles, night out w/o kids. I try romantic notes, email and poetry. I try home from work early, dinner ready, kids doing homework. Sigh. My wife will always be the hottest woman I ever dated and most adventurous in the bedroom. All that is history. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ravish2006	"we do too, only that we like emotinal bonds better" -- a wife's confession. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jayla J	sometimes they are not in the mood and also they might be mad at you Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

?	glad i don't have this problem...but it seems like women like that always give good sex up until "I DO"...then knowing that they are into you for "HALF"..then they can slack off...LMAO.... but seriously sometimes childbirth can lead to that...or....you just need to so some real romancing...make it (the chase) new again. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Chloe	I think it is because the sex has gotten old. And men are very inconsiderate....they want sex but they dont want to help us get aroused.What girl is going to enjoy sex when it is just for him? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BirdogsID	Just a shot in the dark here. Perhaps it is because society expects a woman to keep a trim fit body (get boob jobs, tummy tucks, face lifts) and maintain a high level of libido even when their husbands gain weight and make them (the woman) suffer from premature ejaculation. This is coming from a man. Perhaps I should change my name to "devil's advocate." (Sounds to me like someone ain't getting any....) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BC	Maybe the magician doesn't know how to use his magic wand. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

agrocks	When I was scheduling my vasectomy, a friend (who had already had one) told me it would increase the amount of sex from once a month to 12 times ...per year. : ) In MY experience, the primary factors include: (1) weight gain after pregnancy and her own self image; and, (2) having busy lives with very little time for private conversation or recreational time that we used to enjoy (like when you first started dating). And the weight issue is ENTIRELY from her point of view. You may think she looks great (most husbands think their wives are beautiful no matter what), but SHE needs to think she looks great -- and there's nothing you can say to change that. IF that sounds vaguely familiar, then when those two things are fixed, she'll be "back". And no, she doesn't need to loose 20 pounds first over six months (so don't stress). Just the START of losing weight or gaining muscle tone will make her feel better. But for heaven's sake, don't suggest that she lose weight!!! (That's sudden death right there). Just be supportive of it if she decides to do so (don't eat junk food in front of her, maybe exercise with her, etc.) and compliment her. Meantime, evaluate your conversation time with her. It never hurts to make an effort to spend some extra time talking (talking about current events, gossip, funny things that happened to you during the day). Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ttc after mc	I enjoy sex just not at every waking moment like my husband. There are days when I'm really busy and I fall into bed exhausted. I don't wish my husband's penis would fall off, haha, but sometimes I wish there were more hours in a day. If your wife doesn't have any kids and doesn't have a really demanding job then she might just not be turned on. When a woman is really busy, stretched thin, and stressed out then the last thing she'll want to do is have sex - she'll want to relax and go to sleep. Otherwise you might not be turning her on; Massage her, shower with her, write her sexy notes, talk dirty to her, make out with her. It generally takes women longer to get turned on. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

schneider2294@sbcglobal.net	many husbands take there wives for granted and do not spend the time necessary to please them or meet their sexual needs. Remember great sex is about pleasing your partner and when you have done so she will blow your mind, no pun intended. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

adelaideadam1981	maybe those husbands just aren't doing things properly... just a suggestion is all Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

acmeraven	It really seems to be true, the way to paralyze a woman from the neck down is to marry her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

☆ luv ☆	I dont know what kind'a woman you married but I love sex.......but then again your wife just wishes YOUR thingy would fall off, she didnt mean someone elses........... lol Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

CrazyH	Its just some times you need more than 5 mins. and if you can't give it why even try. It is a waste of our time. We have to much to do to waste the time so you can get off. Nobody ever said we didn't like sex we just want more at a time. Edit If its always been like that than why did you marry? She must just not like it. Ask her. Women are not as complicated as men would think. If you want more tell her, if she doesn't want to oblige than ask why. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Buzzoff	It's not about the sex. It's about everything in the course of the day, week, or month that leads up to it. If we feel valued, loved, and LIKED, the sex is easy. When we start feeling like a servant, an after-thought, or just a full-time babysitter/cook, that's when we lose interest in sex. But we don't lose interest in the "sex" - we lose interest in having sex with our partners. Does that make sense? Ladies - am I all wrong here? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gypsy g	It not the sex we don't like but the performance that we loath. You suck in bed or are selfish we tend to become despondent. Become a better lovers and wives may start responding again. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

monicanena	Women don't feel like having sex with their husbands for a variety of reasons: 1. He's not nice/helpful/sweet outside the bedroom. 2. The woman is on the pill or some other drug that's zapping her sex drive. 3. She or her husband has gained weight and she's either embarrassed by her body or not attracted to his. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Common_Sense2	well, i don't like sex with my husband very much because he comes way too fast, and he also is not the most romantic lover that i have been with...he's selfish because we only go at it until he comes that one time. after that, sex is over. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

catdogpenny	I was in that situation. I was with a guy seven years. it got so routine. I gave it to him once a week though. I know my brother only gets it but once ever couple of months! that sux. Now though i've realized its good for both people. So even if i'm not in the mood i do it and get in the mood. Sex is good! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No