Will my kids hate me forever because.........?

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zaytox0724	I am going to tell you what happened one Christmas when my kids were young. They are boys, and one was about 7 and one was about 5. I was raising them alone. We were very poor. I was so afraid that I wouldn't be able to get them anything at all for Christmas that year. I finally found an ad in the paper for 2 free water turtles. So, I got them the water turtles. I set them up in a free little kids swimming pool that I got as well. I was so glad that I was able to at least get them something, but I cried and cried that I couldn't get them anything else. So I told them that I was only able to get them one small thing each and that I wanted them to know that they deserve more gifts than I could ever give them. I told them that they are so very special and I am so lucky and blessed to have 2 children as wonderful as them. I also told them that somehow, someday, I would try to make things better and be able to give them more of the things they deserve so much. I cried with them. They said they were happy and that they got me something special this year from the student store at their school, so they suggested that THEY be the ones who give gifts this year, not me. I said they were so sweet! But they at least get the one little gift that I had to give. So, the next morning, on Christmas, they saw the turtles and they loved them so much! They were so excited! The next day, when we all woke up, we went out to see the turtles and they were gone. They had been stolen. I was so horrified that I cried my eyes out. they both hugged me and said that this is the best Christmas they ever had because they have me and thats all they have ever needed! They told me that they are so lucky to have me as their mommy. My heart swelled, and I scooped them up, hugged them and never wanted to let go. To this day, we share that story. And they are 27 and 25 now and say they still feel they same way!! I hope this helps. Never underestimate the love your children have for you... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

anikaroni	....such a shame.... i know how you feel...but hey, money isn't everything... just because you don't have money doesn't mean that you can't make them happy this christmas... instead of money, why not spend time with your kids and just have fun? though they still have the right to know, just break it to them gently..i'm sure they will understand... and hey, this is not the last christmas....a little more work and prayer could be of help during these trying times, and maybe next time, you could go a long way next year :D have you watched 'The Pursuit of Happyness' by Will Smith? if not....try watching it and you'll see what i mean merry christmas ^_^ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cooool dude	well they will hate u but u being more smart try to explain them or convince them with a nice story...... just dont tell them that u dont have a Christmas gift. or u could just put some chocolates in there socks and tell them that that's what Santa brought them so u cant do any thing about it.......if they ask to many questions then tell them to go the north pole and ask Santa about it..... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dreamweaver	your children wont hate you forever its a money situation do you have family or did you apply to churches or salvation army or even ask your local welfare office to help you i hope you can at least have a nice dinner and just give thanks that you all together your not the only one in this situation its so sad this might bring you all closer together dont be so hard on yourself Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

warrior	I doubt they will ever hate you. When you get a little extra money after the holidays buy them a little something they want. If they are old enough talk to them and let them know why you are having trouble affording presents. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Insight™	All you can do is explain, Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Alicia T	no of course they christmas isnt about presants its about family and you should tell them that. they will be glad your there. they may be a little discouraged but they will understand. show them what x mas is all about and give them as much love as you possibly can. they will always love you. you should go some hwere and foll around or stay at home and fool around. ask them what you guys could do like go and play in snow or something. ask them what would make it special. hoping that your x mas is wondderful and you can afford what ever you need. alicia tirey age 14 Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Stephanie	They wont hate you forever.. it's ONE christmas and there are MILLIONS and millions of people in the world who are more unfortunate to not have more then just no christmas presents! why is christmas so commercialized these days?! I personally dont agree with all this commercialism. Just be honest to your children and buy them a nice desert for christmas day or make a nice dinner or even just take them to the park and play with them (depending how old they are) if they are too old to play in a park they are old enough to understand that they should be grateful they have a parent who loves them. I am 15, nearly 16 and I would understand if my mother or father was in hardship.. Don't over stress yourself try and show them what christmas is.. not what the giant companies have made christmas in to Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Christine	I feel sorry for you. Maybe you could go to a shelter, they always provide for the needy. Usually around christmas churches donate toys, clothing etc to shelters. Happy Holidays! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ricky K	Im so sorry...I wish I could help. They won't hate you forever. Think of it as a lesson to teach them. Christmas is not about getting presents. God bless you and merry Chrismas. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kiwi.	aww it depends on how old they are, why didnt you ask a family member to help you out until you gathered together some money to pay them back. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

oreo8	First off my sorry to hear about your situation. I don't know what age your kids are but if they're 5-6 yrs. they won't remember this. If they are older tell them the truth. But you can go to your church and talk to your pastor or the person in charge of the benevolent fund. They can take up a collection of money or the church members will buy your kids presents. I hope this helps. They are other places you can go to get presents for your kids. Like the salvation army. Ususally every town has a program that gives out groceries and presents. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Fey	No.. My mom couldn't afford us presents either. In the end she felt so bad she went to the one dollar store and bought something random, just so we'd get something. But we didn't get any presents for years, because she couldn't afford it and I don't hate her at all :) It just depends on how based your children are on material things. I don't think they'd hate you, they'd be disappointed but they wouldn't hate you. If your kids are really greedy they might even cry. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Foxy Roxyy	They're not going to hate you forever. Just try to do something as a family. Or visit your local Goodwill, things are veryyy cheap there Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

beci	wel put it this way im a kid and my mum is in the same position and she said we're going to hate her but no we know she is like you are and we don't hate her we respect her but she has to put bills before us so therefore we will have xmas another time Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

aaradhya	cmon..theyll understand.jst tell them y u couldnt get them presents.i cant imagine getting angry 4 something like that.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Patti_Ja	Go to a church...it does not matter that you are not a member...call United Way First Call for Help and tell them the situation...there are several gift stations who try to make sure that kids have something...Salvation Army....just make a call Christmas is about kids and this should help a bit..you can also call some of the stores and ask for help...Wal Mart has been known to help out as has Burlington Coat Factory... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sarah	Ehmm I'm so sorry! If there was anyway you could get a loan. Maybe not, I'm not good with knowing much about it. All you can do is just tell them that thats not what Christmas is all about. They might not understand it but they need to learn. Afterall they already have good things. They have you and a home to live in and people that love them. If you wanna get them something special make something. Heck you could make treats and they could eat them lol Merry Christmas! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

uncomplicatedlovelust	Forget 1 year we never had it for 14 years living with relatives but now grown up dont want any gifts lol but hey if theres love they wont want anything else Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The Great Slappy McStretch Nuts	Why not contact the Toys for Tots program and see if you can sign up for their help? I'm sure your kids will be eligible. Merry Christmas to you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Me =] x	No !! I know I wouldn't hate my mum if she couldn't get me presents !! Maybe you could hand-make them something like the Malcom In The Middle Ep. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tony douglas	no ur kids will love u nomatter what theyll understand ur there mother theyll always love you and christmas aint about presents its about christ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Pig	How old are the kids? If they are a little older, they will understand. One thing I know some people do is go on a shopping spree at the dollar store. Little kids will like having tons of toys under the tree. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Uncle Tim	They won't hate you "forever" no. Depending on their age they might be disappointed in the short term. Why don't you go to the Salvation Army for help with xmas gifts? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kilckas	no.. i dont think so...if you give them a warm hug & a nice meal.... & take them out ......this might ligten things up....MERRY CHRSITMAS Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BitchinKristin	i think you need to be honest with them. there are also agencies that can help give them at least one gift. call your state social services dept and they can get you something for the kids. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rk	just give affection.. thats enough Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mAdDi	Hey I'm a kid and if my mom told me this, sure I'd be upset, but at least I'd know why this happened. Also, I'd be glad that I even still have food to eat and have a roof over my head...I think you're doing a great job as a mother, and are very strong not to go out and charge everything on a credit card so that the kids can be happy, but you have a lot of debt. =] Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kacie W	how old are they? i'm sure they will understand. if not now someday they will. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

browndogzzz	tell them the truth about the money and ask themfor ideas how your family can make Christmas special anyway Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JCA	I don't hate my parents for all the Christmas' I had without store bought presents. I was 5 years the first time I remember not having "something store bought" for Christmas because things were economically tough for my parents. But Mama made the best Christmas dinner I can remember from hamburger, potatoes, 3 sweet potatoes and squash. She also cooked up some rice pudding from 1 pound of rice that our neighbors had shared with us. A bit of spice here, nutmeg there, red and green kool ade just rounded off the feast. I still remember that and I'm 64. I don't remember much about the Christmas which had store bought toys. But I remember that one Christmas as if it was yesterday. Mama, bless her soul, set me down and explained as best she could through tears of sorrow that Christmas was going to be a little shy of trimmings because Daddy had to pay extra bills that couldn't wait. It was the way she explained it. Sincerely, hugging me, stroking my hair with my head to her chest so I could not see the tears in her eyes but I knew they were there. I said "O.K." and went about. On that Christmas day I awoke to the best ever Christmas day I can remember. Children are more understanding especially when they are already in an economically depressed family. They know what hand-me-downs are. They know "only 1 piece because Janie or Johnny needs to have one too". My children have been my greatest teachers to me than all the college I have attended. I could tell you some stories that will forever remain etched in my heart about times when I was the student and my children were my teachers. I'm sure at some time or another we also were teachers to our parents. I just don't remember it that way. Wrap each child in your arms with a motherly hug, a kiss to the forehead and a sincere I Love You as you gaze directly into their eyes. That's a present that no body can give them except YOU and one they will cherish forever. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No