Will an abusive husband ever change?

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Aim4	Nope! ... nada... zilch... zippo... He will be what he is. There are plenty of men, non-abusive men, good men out there. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lisa h	Went through something similar. I honestly believe that "men" like that will change for a short time when it suits them and thats it. They never change for good. Take your child and go before the child learns that behavior. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

toff	Get the heck out of there now!! Wiht your child!!! Abuse tends to escelate not de-escelate. If he isn't actively getting help he isn't likely to improve. Too many people end up dead because they stayed to give it another chance. Don't be a statistic. Check it out for yourself, every day another woman becomes one. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Fire Millen	No, they will never, ever change. After abuse comes control and you will forever be trapped. Don't believe that counseling will help either..just being honest. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dustiiart	Abusiveness many times stems from personal trauma of the abuser, whether as one who has been abused personally or has been subject to the act of abuse of someone else (parental figure, sibling etc). An abusive person has triggers that set them off...these triggers are unpredictable in a personality that has not been shown through example, how to deal effectively with their anger. Further investigation finds that some abusers not only face inadequate coping skills but also medical issues such as Bipolar illness...severe bursts of temper which at times can become uncontrollable rage resulting in the attack of someone..usually a loved one. In these cases it is almost expected that the loved one will continue to believe the abuser didn't mean it, was justified because of something that was done/not done by the abused. He will not stop his behavior and you cannot continue to tip toe through life, worried that at any time you might do something to trigger an unacceptable response, namely hitting, punching, slapping, shoving or harming in any other way. You are separated...stay that way, not only for yourself but for the sake of your child...abuse is an intolerable act and to place yourself in the midst of it is simply tempting fate. Hang in there and keep safe...you can do it! Your life will begin to get better as time goes on without him. Take care Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

smeezleme	Gee-wiz----as long as you allow him to this to you--he will do it and hold that control over you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

yp_cindy_lewisburg	It will take way more than a FEW counseling sessions. I think it depends on why he abuses. I strongly believe you should be in counseling too so that you don't enable his abuse. Abuse is a horrid thing and if he doesn't get all the help he needs, it will likely be abusing your child too. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jack jack	in my personal opinion no no no Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

boozer	he will not change,things like this are bred into people,he was probably raised in an abusive home.your child deserves better Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ganesha_lvr	he will never change Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dr. Obvious	HE WILL NOT CHANGE. Cut your losses and move on. Look back in five years and thank your lucky stars you got out. HE WILL NOT CHANGE. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kurtbiewald	you were unwise to give him a second chance. He messed that up too. Nobody deserves to be abused in a relationship. Just to maintain self respect if you can't see any other reason for it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fr2fish	IN one word NO. Men that do that will always do it. It's some type of control, power thing with them and won't give it up. The best thing you can do is get rid of him and get on with your life. Because he hits you, he will hit your 2 years at some time. He will have a bunch of excuses on why he does it but that doesn't stop it from happening again and again. He may say that he won't do it again but watch out, he will get mad some day and start all over again. Some day it may get to be more than just hitting. Be careful and don't trust him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

elegante247	he isnt gonna change. you gotta get away from him. life is too short for you to live in fear. alsoo he will most likely be abusive to your child. thats bad news baby. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

white_bunny_slippers	He won't change, at least not toward you. He already sees you as his victim and will always do so. Many men who go to domestic violence group counseling actually get together and discuss ways to inflict pain on their victims without leaving any telltale marks! Do your kid a favor and don't make him watch his mom being beaten up again. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

I know, I know!!!!	Trust me, I learned from experience that they never stop, they only get worse. Get away from him before he hurts you seriously or even kills you. Life is short, you should spend it with someone who is good to you and not abusive. It's better for you and your child you you to leave him. Good Luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Catherine E: VT	Chances are slim to none. I guess it probably has happened, somewhere, at some time, but it's not even worth putting yourself through the grief. You also don't want your child to have to grow up with that. Even if the child his or herself isn't hit, seeing YOU hit will have a permanent effect on them. If you have a girl, chances are she'll marry someone abusive, and if you have a boy, unfortunately he'll probably grow up to follow in his father's footsteps. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

karina	I work in the Domestic Violence field and have for 4 years. It has been my experience that counselling specific to Domestic Violence can help. However, it will only help if he admits to the abuse and acknowledges that what he has done to you is wrong. If he still makes excuses or denies that this ever happened, or does not admit to all the facts, then all the counselling in the world will not help him. This is not your fault or your problem. He is the one that is in the wrong. Nothing you do or say warrants physical violence. You have a history with this person that is not easy to let go of, but I suggest you seriously think this over, especially since you have a child. I would suggest counselling for yourself. If you do make the decision to be with him again, start it out very, very slowly. And like I said if he denies, downplays, or makes excuses, he will NOT change, trust me. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kitty	Most likely he will not change and if he dose he will easly slip back into being like that. Good luck in all you do! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

never2pink	nope he has issues do your 2 yr old a favor and leave this guy...your child deserves to see what a happy, healthy, loving relationship looks like...break the cycle, if they are a girl they will find men that hit them cuz it was good enough for their mom, and if they are a boy they will hit women cuz it was good enough for their dad...they need a better example of WHT to do not what NOT to do! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Roberta	NEVER! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

S K	No. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BigJake418	They never change. Only temporarily will they change. A girl friend of mine left a relationship after 8 yrs of getting her *** beat. it's been almost 2 yrs since she left, but the emotional scars are going to be there forever. do you want your 2yr old grow up seeing mom getting beat all the time? You're alot better than that. Get as far away from that piece of sh*t as you can. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Just_gone	Not much. For the child, stay apart. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gypsy g	I live on the premises that they won't...that way I'll never again have to suffer the pain they inflicted upon me. Better safe than sorry. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jen	I am sorry that you have had to endure that kind of treatment from someone that you cared about. You need to get away from him and FAST!!! It doesn't sound like he is gonna change. I feel you would rather have someone that you are not afraid of and someone to love you with out hitting you. There are LOTS of guys out there that do not hit women. You need to find one of those men. I would never allow a man, that I am in love with or care about, to hurt me in any way. You also need to think about your child, do you want your child to think that this is ok action? You also need to protect your child, he/she should be your number 1. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Louisa C	no he won't change leave now as soon as you can Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mike	He might change for a short period but not long. Be glad you are no longer together Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dianesomeone	There is a chance that he could stop his violent behavior but the odds are not in his favor....An abuser generally continues or gets worse as time goes on....protect yourself and your child....how would you feel if he did something to your baby? And please don't say he would never do that.....for a time you obviously thought he would NEVER hit you again too...right? Be smart....don't give him another opportunity to hurt you or worse hurt your baby...good luck and I pray that you stay safe Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lyn	THINK HE'S MORE OF A TALKER THAN A CHANGER SORRY TO TELL YOU. YOU DON'T NEED VIOLENCE IN YOUR LIFE OR YOUR CHILD'S. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Royalhinney	Protect yourself and your child...stay away from him! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No