Why won't he let go of this relationship?

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Lenora	Have you ever thought, that's why he is trying to get back together? The old addage is: its cheaper to keep her! The other thing, the threats about suicide is considered domestic violence too. He is manipulating you to stay with him. Personally, I would say, go ahead and do it! He won't. Its all a ploy. If you are really interested in getting rid of him, go to the courts and apply for a PPO (Personal Protection Order). Stay away from the house and go to a safe house or a "Safe Haven" in your town. You can find the number in the yellow pages. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rx4u	Tell him that he is your friend now. He will always be your friend. You have a child together and you are not going out of his life-but you can't help it that you don't have love feelings for him anymore. You care about him as your child's father. Don't let him control you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

GenuineGemini	Trust me, guys always do the "i will commit sucide" thing when you decide you cant go on. Both my ex boyfriends did that when i dumped them, a few months later, they are with another girl and now married. They do that to black mail you. When i was once threatened that he is going to commit suicide i said " well if your a coward and cant take the heat or be man enough to stand on your own, then GO AHEAD and kill yourself, that is YOUR choice NOT MINE, i will have no guilt or pity as i didnt ask you to kill yourself nor will i ever regret not being with an emotionally and mentally unstable man like you" As soon i started saying that, they never bothered threathening sucide as i know they wont do it, well if he does go ahead and kill himself, that is his choice and atleast you and your kid can move on with life than have him bring you down till you get mad and kill your ownself. Just get custody of your son, get away from this mess, get a job and live a dignified life. I hope you meet a really good man to take care of you and your son and one who will be mature enough. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Just Surfin	He's manipulating you and playing headgames, which means he hasn't "cleaned up his act" as much as you think. If you fear for your safety, let the court know and get a court order. Let HIM deal with HIS OWN safety. If he's the sort who's so unstable that he would choose to commit suicide, then it is HIS responsibility to deal with his choices - NOT YOURS. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sue C	He is doing nothing but trying his very best to control you in every way he can, That's all it is, plain & simple! This is just a ploy of him "ending it" if you won't go back to him, because he contridicted himslf on this one too! In one breath he said he is going to end it, BUT that he isn't going to "wait around" forever. What double message he gave you on this one! I honestly do NOT think he's going to hurt himself, but he just may take it out on you tho. You do know what he's capable ot doing as far as abuse, & we hear too many things of some of these crazy guys & what they did do to their g/fs then in the end just getting rid of themselves too! These are truly sick people. You have every rite to go w/whomever you want to. You mentioned you have a son together & of course he's behind on his child support. IF he does not visit your child, you just could take out a restraning order against him stating you ARE in fear of your life, & you also do NOT know what he just could do to your child too as he DOES get violent. I would totally let the courts handle the child support end of things, BUT, as far as the former violence end of things, I would just HAVE TO bring up this very important issue to them too.. Just make some notes for yourself so you do not forget anything, & I'd go pay a visit to my local Family Court if I were you. You do NOT need any apt. dates, just walk in & tell them of your delima. Judges do NOT look favorably on Domestic Violence as I too was involved in it, took it to Family court who took care of EVERYTHING for me & in quick time. I would strongly advise you to do the very same thing w/your situation & they'll take care of it all for you too. Get it all straightened out at the same time, & a judge WILL preside over it all for you. All the best to you...:) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No