Why do people frown against getting married at a young age?

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Salvador	typically, kids at your age go from relationship to relationship never really knowing what they want. sometimes people misinterperet "love" for "puppy love" you are way too young to even worry about it. I say go to college, establish a career, then worry about it. I'm getting married in may and I'm 24. you have plenty of time to get married. It's not a simple cheap thing you can do. Finish school and if you DO love this guy, you should have patience to wait till you're older. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The Wife	There is so much more to life than getting married. You have limited experience when you haven't dated much and still have a lot of growing up to do, emotionally as well as in other areas. You are completely in love and that's great, but marriage is more than that. And if you really feel this way, waiting a few years won't change that. At 16 and 17 its impossible to know that this "is it" and it's "right"... It's not that others can't understand it - we do trust me - it's that we also have the experience to know what you don't know... which is teen marriages rarely work out for the long term. Just be patient and enjoy your relationship right now. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

christieee	Because sometimes people make mistakes, and I'm sure the people that love you just don't want you to get hurt. When you're that young, things still change very quickly. And maturity plays a big role, they might think you're not mature enough to go into this type of big commitment. I would stay engaged, but don't get married just yet, just give it time. If you guys are really that in love than just the title of being "married" shouldn't bother you guys. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bird	Because you're children. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MeMyself&Michelle	In life there are certain stages or phases a younger person goes through....it tends to create chaos and conflict between the two. If you get married now you will see that when your bf or gf wants to go out to the bar at 21 to hang out with their friends it is going to create problems. It will happen. Even if it isn't that, there are certain things you need to be able to handle independently before you can join in with another person and try to work things as one. I am sure you haven't learned to cook, clean, juggle the finances, do you have a license, and job, or a house yet..... I am not trying to be hard on you but I have been there and it is a bad idea. I know many friends also.......and can cause a great setback in life and trust me you will look back and remember that people told you so and why didn't you listen, wether it is in ten or twenty years....you will. Sorry to be hard....hits home, trust me....but good luck~ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MiaMonique	I frown because I've been there, done that. Not judging you at all, though. Just wishing you'd be a lot smarter than I was, so you wouldn't have to suffer and go through all the nasty ..s..h..i..t.. I had to go through for not listening to good advice and for -wrongly- thinking I knew everything. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

taquila	Life before and after marriage are very different from each another. With marriage your responsibilities increase manifold. Certain people, one can say are hesistant to take the resultant responsibilities...... some want to just continue with the carefree life of a single life. Also one need to settle down or make some sort of foundation as far as your career finance etc.This however does not mean that one should not marry early. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Wisdom's messenger	hmm .. who told you you are in love? wait till you get older.. the thing is you get wiser as you grow... so beleive me that wisdom youthin kyou have now, if you wait till 20 u'll say you were a bit stupid at 16.. by the way why are u in a rush to marry? how long have you known him 4.. just go out for years , whats wrong with that... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Eva-Belle	you are impressionable, have not reached your potential, and have not been able to fully make your own life choices yet. 1- fear that he will influence you enough to never be able to make your own decisions. 2-fear that life has not taught you who you need to be with for your own good, fear you are choosing wrong with too little experience. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bree	Sixteen? Wow, please wait a little longer... Maybe 19 or 20. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

errca	because at that young of an age, your still maturing and you will change your mind about many of things as you grow.... the most common age that people stop mental changes in growing is around age 20-23 which is also the most common age people marry. I thought i was in love plenty of times at that age and if i woulda stuck with who i thought i was really going to marry then i wouldnt be happily in love and married to the great man, my wonderful husband Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

L Mae	Because statistically most people that get married at such a young age end up getting a divorce. There are many more things to learn about yourself and others before making such a life changing decision. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Taylor! =]	because people are ignorant. and that bull about the 50% divorce rate isn't just aimed at young people, adults and older people get divorced too. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

GerberaMom	You haven't had enough life experiences yet to know what your long term likes and dislikes are. You won't be the same person at 24 that you are now because technically our brains don't stop growing until we are 24. What's the rush? If it was meant to be, you will still be together in your twenties and in the meantime you can get career goals underway, and do the fun things that will be harder to do when you've got a mortgage and kids. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

treekgomon	because they are thinking that both you two don't have the experience under your belt to be getting involve in a situation like this though matter how yall claim to be "IN LOVE" lets face even grown crew with this marriage thing although i admired your courage in taking such a huge resposiblity but i do think that you should take your time Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

DaNi	Because I am 27 and I now realize that the boy I was " in love with " at 16 and I were so not "in love". If anyone at 16 actually falls in love and marries the one there with at 16, I'd be shocked. Your 16 and believe it or not, your still a kid. Trust me, grow up, finish school, and go to college and if you guys are still together then, all the power to you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Simply Lovely	Time has a way of changing people. When you are this young, you have no idea what life has in store for you. You and your boyfriend don't need to get married so young. If the two of you are meant to be, then in say 8 years or so you can start thinking about marriage. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

party hardy!	Because most young people who get married end up get divorced. I've been told that your maturity level from 17 to... let's say 21 is so different. Plus, how are you going to support yourselves? Also, I would like to probably go out and do other things as a young adult then be married. I mean, it's up to you and your boyfriend. So you can make the decision and if you guys do get married, I hope everything works out. :] Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bullet_to_the_brain	Lack of finances and maturity. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sahara	That is really young. What is the big hurry? You have your whole life ahead of you and life can be really long. You can still be together and not married. It's just that you have 0 life experience because you've been with your parents. You still have a lot to learn. If it's meant to be then it's not going to change if you wait a bit. Divorce is very expensive and not just financially. edit: People that I graduated from high school that got married just out of high school got divorced. Someone I know at work got married at 17 and is divorced. They were together 10 or 12 years though. My husband is divorced. He said that he and his ex changed, they didn't want the same things anymore. It happens. Are you going to college? You don't need to get married right away. There isn't a rush. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jasugar.	Many, many high school relationships don't last. I was in love with a boy in high school, but he's not the one I'm going to marry. I thought that then, but I certainly don't now. You can fall in love more than once in your lifetime. Just because you're in love doesn't mean you're going to marry the person. If you truly love the guy and "know it's right", then you can wait. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bold Man	16 and 17 is not suitable age to make big decision. getting married is a big leap in life. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Me	Probably because when you're young and in love it always seems right. I was SO in love and wanted to get married when I was sixteen. Looking back I'm SO glad I didn't. I didn't have enough experience in life or love to know what was right and what wasn't. People just know the chances of it not working out are pretty high and they worry for you and the situation your kids will be in when/if it doesn't work out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rchl321	Because have you looked at the marriage rate recently? Its like 50% divorce. And when you are young you change a lot between 16-30. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ctelly22	Because you really haven't had time to live and experience life. Life experience helps you to grow and develop as a person. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

niiro13	Because a relationship held only by love normally doesn't last. I've seen people who love each other so much they would take a bullet for one another...then they end up breaking up later. Or the guy who played Kevin in Home Alone...he married at 17 years of age...everyone thought it was the best decision...then they divorced after two years. So even when they both know it's right AND everyone else agrees....they both divorced. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

indee.	Because most people's young relationships fail. You know if you really want to be with someone forever if you are matured. Maturity doesn't always come with age. I got married at 19 and I know I will be with my husband forever. We both live for each other. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kc	because at 16 and 17 how do you really know it is right. You have not gotten to experienmce the world why are you rushing if you know it is right it will still be right in a few years so don't rush. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sk8ter_boi	Because they think that you don't really know what"love" is yet and that your not finacainilyy, emotionaly, or physicaly ready for that sort of commitment Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Marina	Because what feels right at 16 and 17 isn't necessarily what marriage is made of. Neither of you can take care of yourselves as individuals right now, nevermind each other. It's easy to be in love when your parents are taking care of everything for both of you and the biggest decision you have to make right now is which movie to go see together on the weekends. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ஐGinஐ	Maybe their jealous that people like us found the right one at an early age. Most of the people I know married young and they are still together. I got engaged when I was 16, got married at 18 and I am still married 6 years later. If you are truly in love, don't listen to what other people have to say about it. I got the same looks and same talk as you are dealing with right now, you have to overcome it and just remember that love conquers all! Good luck and Congrats! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No