Why do most marriages end in divorce now?

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pussycat	Rushing into something that is a committment for life without really being committed to your vows. Settling for less than what you want in a partner. Thinking you can change someone once you are married. Marrying because you are going to have a child. Thinking marriage will 'fix' your life. Believing marriage should be 'all happiness'. And many more reasons. I think marriage vows are taken much too lightly and people should not enter into it unless they are mature enough to handle it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

loudpurplehair	Its very hard being married and a lot of people don't put in the effort. Ive thought hard about walking away at times. Ive been married for 3 years and work at it everyday. BTW who is that in your pic? Looks like the dude from greenday Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nessaja	people become different, change in ways the other cant or doesnt want to understand, different goals and ideas. or they want something the other person just cant give. thats usually it in a nutshell Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

montagne de jade	Because people become more and more individual. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

actresswantabe44	I dont know i wish it would stop. Mayebe bc ppl just wnat to find that right perosn but pick the wrong ones insted by making a relationship speed up. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Amanda J	just to name a few reasons... 1. Because too many people jump into marriage too soon. 2. It's not as taboo as it used to be, so people aren't embarrassed, whereas back in the day it was frowned upon, so people actually worked on their marriage 3. Money trouble is statistically the number 1 reason for divorce in 2006 Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Carlton J	I do agree with you that so many marriages now do end in divorce now. Where I work there were a couple who married who worked in the same office and within 2 years they were divorced. I know three women in their 30s who are all divorced, I hear that people divorcing was quite rare in the old days. I suppose things are different now, it is much more accepted and people live more adventurous lives and will not just stick with whom they married if they are not happy. Maybe also that women have much more opportunities and careers unlike the old days when many women were housewifes and in low paid jobs means that they are more single minded and meet lots of new people and can become bored or drift away from people they met earlier in life. It is a really interesting question, I don't know why so many people fall out of love with people they clearly love so much when they get married. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Princezz	Mine ended because we married young and started having children...I grew up and he didn't want to! Why do you ask....thinking about marrying or ending one? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Saratoga60	Many couples can`t see past the lust stage in marriage or handle living together with all the problems life throws at them.Marriage counseling.....a great way to start!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

music4life6661	a lot of people get married too young and they later realise that they don't love the other person like they used to. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Not Guilty!	Because it's become acceptable and convenient in our morally bankrupt society. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SKA	Because no one takes marriage seriously enough and don't work on their problems, they find it easier to just 'divorce' and end it! In the old days, divorces were so rare because it was such a big issue then, and people learnt to work problems out, especially if children were involved. Now, no one can be bothered, even when kids are involved! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Valleygirl	Because back in the past marriage was a very religious thing, and along with the religious surpression of just about everything they get their hands on, they forced marriages to be life long, and never to divorce, basically forcing people to stay together when they may not have wanted to, which is awful. There is nothing wrong with seperation, it's not the seperation itself the brings the problems involved with divorce, it's usually the attitudes of the people involved. Doesn't make it wrong. Most people just need to grow up abit more and need abit more wisdom in dealing with relationship, and accepting that not all relationship (infact MOST) are not meant to last forever, so therefore end relationships, including marriages, on good terms. That's why people divorce more, because people are now allowed to have the freedom to do what they want and end a relationship when it comes to the end of it's road, instead of forcing something that isn't going to work. :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Alex	Divorce has become an easy option in Britain. Previously, an allegation of insanity, cruelty, adulltery, or abandonment was needed to obtain a divorce, and the stigma and "blame" with its financial implications meant that many divorces were defended. Now it is possible to obtain a divorce, without the stigma, simply because the marriage has broken down. There is little merit in defending such a divorce, because it will not have any significant effect on the blameworthiness or financial settlements, but is going to be expensive anyway. The attitude to marriage and divorce has changed in line with social change on the broader scale. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kylie C	Because people think that they are marrying for love, when actually they dont have a love that is strong enough, because when the butterflies go away and the romance dies down, there is nothing left, and people think that they should have the butterflies all the time. Arranged marriages in other countries actually last longer and have happier marriages than people who get married for "love" Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ms. know it all	because there is too much temptation in the world today and everyone wants to see if the grass is really greener on the other side Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Finally Got It	Because alot of people alot of days are marring for bad reason, such as money, sex, or just becasue there friends are getting married. Thinking of today instead of tommrrow. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Fred mate	i think marriages end nowdays mainly due to a shift in ideology, i mean back in the 50's (ladies dont take offence) women were the housewife, they stayed at home cooked, cleaned, looked after the young etc nowdays there is more of an expactancy and a need for woman to work this creates new opportunities in love? a lack of time? which are all factors in many divorces. Also, nowdays, a lot more can be done and said in public which was frowned upon forty yearsd ago this may influence how people percieve relationships hope this helped good question Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

.	more people are spending time with technology than with their spouse Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Scigirl	It's socially acceptable not to stand up to your word!!! very sad. Go Bill Clinton!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Witch	Peer pressure Marrying too young Money worries Infidelity Easier to get a divorce Loads of different reasons...I think sometimes people expect too much from each other and do not work at it. I have been happily married for 15 years and its a two-way thing, it takes work and plenty of give and take. Its not easy but its worth it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

xzorion54	I think it's because people are getting married too early nowadays. They don't really know what they're getting into and by the time they reach middle age they finally realize that they don't actually love the person they're with. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Gossip Girl [u no u love me]	idk but my reason is, people suck at choosing "the one" katie♥ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

anjamuhlese	Probably people are in too much of a hurry to get married and later on they find out they really don't feel that way about the person anymore. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

*having twins!!!*	People get married too young and for the wrong reasons Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

theoriginalwingding	Most marry too early. We need required marriage/couples counseling beforehand! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

suet moon	because everything is sexualised these days and so people think about sex more so more chance of cheating = divorce if found out we are more sexually liberal society now than in the past Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Just a Guy	because people do not marry each other for the long term anymore. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

David J	People are far more selfish and shallow nowadays, it's all about the "me me me" mentality with no give and take or compromising. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chicken patty	i thinkt the reason is because people rush into relationships and they dont give it time to see if it will work. that is the biggest reason to me. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

David Wilson	Hi PS, The reason's as to why marriages end in divorce could and possibley is, in it's thousands, However as the century's past so does evolution. humans being advanced as they are evolution is moving much faster than our counter parts the monkeys. Going back through the ages for example 1800's, it was common in the hierarchy for a husband and a wife to have lovers albeit hush hush. There was no need for either to be at home looking after the children as the Nanny took care of that, all the house work was done, therefore leaving time on their hands what was there left to do, the ocassional tea attendance etc etc. Unless the husband or wife were actually caught in the act of adultry, it was very difficult to obtain a divorce from the courts. The only time they were actually together was for public functions and the occasional rump in the bed (it was common for husband and wife to have seperate bedrooms to hold down the baby boom sindrome). It wasn't until the mid 1900's this the sort of behaviour seemed to have subsided, with the war going on there were not enough men to meet the needs, however there was in increase in fatherless children. The sexual revolution of the 1960's seemed to be the turning point in our history, Contraception made a well come impact into people lives and yet also destroyed the real meaning of marriage, where as before you had sex with a lover there was a higher risk of becoming pregnant,. These days if you are either using the Pill or Durex, you could be 99% safe from getting pregnant, therefore no tell tell signs, unless you are found out. Society has made it easy for couples to divorce for very little reason and neither one has to appear in court for the procedings unless children were involved. So to answer your question, evolution, has produced the high rate of divorces because todays society has allowed us to be fluent in the way we wish to run our lives. It has given us chances far above the days of old and it will continue. Marriage is not and will never be the same again, Society allows couples, be they gay, lesbian, or hetro to live under the same roof without the santuary of marriage. So it is possible that marriages of the future could end and so forth the amount of divorces will diminish, leaving evolution to create, and complete it's circle. Good luck....David Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No