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lookingwesttexas	Sorry you were treated so mean. You probally got alot of men responses and in general we are the ones who usually get the crappy end of the stick. I am in the opposite situation as you and I can see how they might take their frustrations out on you. But its not your fault and I understand your situation...You do need some summer time with your daughter too. have you talked to him about maybe giving you a few weeks of the summer in exchange for maybe a spring break or something. Communication is the key in your situation and hopefully he will be reasonable. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nitenurse	Compromise /....u have them for a longer time use the other breaks in between to do things with them Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

desertskieswoman	Hey you asked a question. Don't take it so hard if you don't like all the answers. I have gotten some pretty nasty answers myself. WHat do you expect? You are dealing with people who are giving you advice in a chat room. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Hahayeahright	Excuse me but you still get your kids the MAJORITY of the time. Wake up you are being so selfish. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

crunchypickles93	is this an agreement that u and ur husband came up with bcuz ifit is then u should sit down with him and talk it overbut if it was the courts decision than sucks 4 u!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

frugernity	I read your original question, but not the answers. I'd guess the objection is that an agreement was reached and now you are trying to change the rules. If you want to do that perhaps you should renegotiate the agreement (make some concessions in exchange for a new arrangement). Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

user name	as adults we often act worse than our children. I can't believe you have reduced your blessings to who gets them the most. selfish people never see themselves as selfish...only counting how everyone else is getting more than them. - how about just appreciating the fact that the father is a part of your childrens lives. so many women complain that the fathers don't participate in raising their chidren, yet here we are with a woman complaining that he does. I can see why there is a divorce here. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tewarienormy	Maybe because when you settled this matter with your lawyer you didn't make a proper arrangement. Now you have to live with it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

IBSI Special Investigator	Sweetie. Maybe the problem was in the way you presented your question. REMEMBER: "It is not what you say, but how you say it." However, I believe you asked a fair question. I think they should be with you at least one month during the summer. For whatever reasons, he chose to live far away, but he still has rights. And the court considered those reasons as valid. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

amy	i cant say he is right for moving so far but if it was to make make more money to take care of himself and your girls then u cant fault him for it but there is nothing wrong with the children being with him if u get them the rest of the year Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

zether	maybe the oportunities he has to make a decent living are 1800 miles away from his kids and its not a conscious choice for him to move so far away, and for summer break, its 2 months and you get the rest of the year, sounds like you are just selfish and fail to understand the situation properly Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

notyou311	Why do you care? This is not a good place to get reinforcement for your ideas. And it's not a good place if you are sensitive. Make up your own mind. Most of the opinions here come from silly teenagers. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

wormee38	Its not about YOU and the EX...........its about the kids and what they want...you just have to compromise a bit and then everyone will be happy.Good Luck!~ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pessimoptimist	Why? Because you sound like someone who wants to cut out your children's father out of your life completely. You should be grateful that they have a father who is interested enough in them to take them for extended periods of time. If he lived closer and had them every other weekend, like so many do, it would be just as disruptive to your plans. My daughter's father never paid one cent of child support, has not so much as laid eyes on her since she was 6 months old. She is now 45, and she and her father wouldn't recognize each other if they were trapped in an elevator together. There are plenty of mothers in the same position, and we find it difficult to feel sorry for someone in your place, who can actually afford to take any kind of vacation. Count your blessings. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ally'smom	you get them more then him so it is UNFAIRE of you to ask him to give up his little time to go around your schedual. Ever think 4 a min HE IS RIGHT? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Badspe11er	Because it sounds like access to his kids for the Summer is reasonable, and that you are a greedy woman. (Whether you are or are not) At this poing: Accept the arrangement as it is. If there is a real problem with your time share.. sell it and get another one. Or, make other vacation arrangements. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

skcs69	Now wonder you 2 are no long together. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

*never give up*	girl! im in the same boat. put yourself in his shoes! how would you feel if you only got christmas and summer? come on! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

miss-info	you should'nt mind the cruel comments of others but honestly you should appreciate the fact that you spend so much time with them he gaets a mere 3 and a half months in total a year while you on the other hand get about 9 months. you should be grateful and put you selfishness to the side. its really not my intention to upset or offend you so i hope you will understand. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

crazylegs	I was not trying to take his side at all if indeed you were responding to my retort to your question. I was merely saying that if he has a legal document then it is his legal right. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

open_phunguy	As a guy who lives 4000 miles from his kids (her choice not mine) I can tell you that: !. Some women will try anything to keep children away from the father and the kids get used as a barganing chip (so to speak). This would be why the males are upset! 2. A lot of men don't want to be bothered with their children so when you find a man who actually wants to be a part of the children's lives they don't feel anything should be in the way of that. This would be why the women are upset! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tammylynn317	Then why do you keep asking??? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Poppet	Because you are in the wrong. His time with his children is more important than your timeshare. Why is that such a difficult concept? You have them the rest of the year. You get to be a bigger part of their lives than him. He misses out on so much and now you want to take away what little time he does have?!? Sometimes you have to be harsh in order for a concept to be fully understood. I truly believe this is one of those cases. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jessie	It's good that you let your x husband see your daughters. I haven't got to see my dad in over three years. I miss him so much....it's crazy. But when we use to see him, he came and got us every two weekends and every other holiday and 30 days for during the summer. Those was some good times! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kerry	Perhaps the reson you feel this way is that you are failing to realize that your ex does not have the children the MAJORITY of the year. That is because the children are with you. Ask yourself if you would like to trade him your time for his. I would assume that you would not. Count yourself very fortunate that you get to enjoy your children most of the year and he only can a few weeks out of the year. If you look at the bright side of things, it would seem that you have the advantage. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

CctbOh	Quit your whining!!! If you don't like the answers, don't ask the questions. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mohawkmonsoon	i dont understand why u are taking offense to people being mean on here. it is meaningless. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Candy C	I have joint custody of my 4-yr old and I am happy to share him with his loving daddy every weekend, Christmas break, and on summer break I will keep him on weekends and dad can have him during the week. Be happy that your daughter has a dad that wants to be involved. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Barrett G	Well. Maybe he's right. Even consider that? It's his time and he obviously doesn't want to give it up. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

curmudgeon	He gets them for 2 months, you get them for 10 months, and you are complaining. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Turtleshell	Why are you taking this site so seriously! Let it go sweetie! You don't know the people here and they don't know you - what did you expect??? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No