Whats the best way to tell an abusive husband you want a divorce?

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zack	tell him it over now but make sure u hv some1 beside as he will try to beat u . Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rf_trustno1	For the love of God, DO-NOT-TELL-HIM just pack your things and go away! I mean it!! Thne go to a woman's shelter and get help. A counselor and a lawyer. You must also go to the police and let them know your situation and only if you want, press charges against him. If you don't want to do it, just inform the police your situation; I'm telling you to do this because on the event of another abuse from him you can defend yourself and fight back. If the police knows your situation beforehand, chances are he won't be even able to press charges. Trust me, right now I'm on my thrid and final year on the Police Academy and my fourth at Law School. And even when we might be in different places, some things never change. Finally, DO NOT GO BACK TO HIM. He will probably tell you that he's gonna change and that he will never ever do it again. I have only one word for that: Bullsh*t! Once a man has abused of his wife, he has crossed a line and there's no way he'll go back. You have to leave him! Be strong and go away. He's not gonna change. I know you're smart because you want to leave him and believe me, that's the most important step. Now don't be afraid and go on. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

meltingflamez	at court Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jodi M	not in person. get an attorney, move out then let the attorney serve him with the papers. Do not put yourself in harms way. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

AJ	Leave ASAP. Contact your local battered spouse shelter and ask to speak with a counselor... try to get some emotional support from others who have experienced it and gotten out. Get the papers drawn now and a restraining order in place if possible. Don't tell him you want a divorce, let him read about it while you are somewhere safe and he is unable to find you. The sooner you leave the better... he isn't going to change, and it will only get progressively worse. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Neil G	move out then file dont tell himbecause he could really hurt you just do it Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

usmchawkeye	leave and go to a shelter for your protection. Do not confront him head on, you will be sorry for that, he will just get abusive again. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kimberly T	Just tell him, the sooner the better !! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rae-rae	Get all your stuff and leave, file papers on reason of abuse and hope he has to pay for you to live anyway. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Me and my shadow	Make sure you get all the information you need. Take 1/2 of the savings and make sure that you have a safe place to go. Then get a good lawyer, he will do the rest. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

staffy1331	from a safe distance if he is abusive you don't want to be in the line of fire if he goes of but then again you no him better so how do you think he will react? be safe Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

--------	move and have the courts send him his copy of the papers Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

deathtrapp1	Across a phone line after all your stuff is secure!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

writerboy69	Firstly, remove yourself from the abuse. Secondly, hire a lawyer and let him do the talking. That's what they get paid for. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

crystalscandies2005	Do you want to die.You do not tell him.Leave with out him knowing.I have been through with all of that myself.Trust me. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

luvlisteningtomusic	Don't tell him just do it Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cassie12	Go somewhere safe where he can't find you and have him served with divorce papers. Don't forget to get a restraining order. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

utep99	A abusive husband or spouse is nothing to play with. Get somewhere safe a relative preferably and then phone them. They may beg and plead for your return but a abusive spouse no matter what they say is very likely to repeat the event. A abusive spouse feels that you are beneath them and will treat you as a possesion rather than a person. Aface to face telling is not the answer. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Esa	If he's abusing you he doesn't deserve an explanation, he's not even worth your while. Just do it!! Good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

diamondblue382000	You don't tell him just leave and have a lawyer to tell him. If you say that you want a divorce ,That maybe the vary last thing you say to any one. So find some one to help you threw this. God bless you . Be Strong. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

juicylilmamma	Well first I would make sure that I am as far away as possible then I would send him the paper work saying It's OVER!! And by the way restraining orders dont work so if he isn't pleased with your decision and tries to come after u seek for a BIG Guy w/ lots of muscles to guard you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

love dogs	leave the house and go 2 a friends house and call a lawyer and get those divorce papers Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

baybeegrl5	if he's abusive don't tell him anything. pack up your sh@t and bounce. you could leave one of those "Dear John" letters if you need to let it be known of why you left. i just don't think he'd take it too well if he knew that you didn't want to be his punching bag anymore which might lead to 1 more ***-whoppin' and that would be the time that he ended up killing you. LEAVE NOW!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Wizzard2	Let the attorney tell him. Honestly, if you are going to do it get professional advice before telling him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nina B	DONT, an abusive person has no senses--if you tell him, he may react by being really abusive or go to the other extreme of being nice to get you to change your mind..best thing is to start getting your stuff in order, saving money, looking for a place, getting a personal protection order, letting family and friends know whats up--pack your stuff and leave--no forwarding address i was in an abusive relationship years ago, when they didnt have the resources they have now and with the grace of god, i have made it!!!! good luck to you!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

WDS	You don't TELL him anything. You pack your bags, secure living and travel expenses and move to the other side of the world. Self evaluate why you pick men who are abusive instead of a healthy partner. Whatever you do, don't have his babies. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

julielove327	Tell him from as far away as possible. Make sure you are safe before he finds out. Your safety comes FIRST! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

don Quijote	by leave him! now! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cindy	First of all, don't tell him yourself. Make sure you are in a comfortable and safe place. I had any attorney and that was a big help. My husband never saw it was coming. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sally P	Don't tell him, pack up your things and be gone. He will get papers when you file. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

toodie7298	go to a womans shelter.....they can help you........ and you will be protected from him and someone will serve the papers to him.. Abuse is nothing to play with. It takes many years to get over it and probably longer for the man to get over it. Life is to short to stay. So try getting help to get you out of the marriage. That would be the safest way....... Good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No