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Jet	I'd say there is affair in the midst. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bay area curious george	Well, its sounds pretty harmless. You can't follow him around at work at keep him from talking to any females. You need to trust him to a certain extend. However, the texting to eachother while at work and at home sound a bit suspicious. It could be innocent flirting. But it stinks a little. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

caramelqueen	HUGE RED FLAG!!! They are definitely doing some flirting on the text mssg. The fact that your husband got mad means something is up!! If it was all innocent - he wouldn't have cared about you knowing about it. U guys need to talk this out and SOON before he gets physical with her. And without his knowledge, I would contact the cell phone company to see if it is possible to get a listing of what was said on those text mssgs - some companies have websites where you can view them! Anyways, do that research yourself and then confront him with it. In the meantime, I would watch him like a hawk - that is a sure sign something is going on!!!! Hope it works out! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kitty	I would be suspicious. I went through that where my ex was calling his ex. Turned out they had a little side thing going on. I would keep an eye out if I were you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

maryc	Well, if my husband called spoke 30 times ON THE CELL, I would ask myself questions ... something like, "Why? and why with a CELL?" Never mind him being mad at you. Just ask him WHAT HE WOULD THINK if you had spoken to a guy on the cell for about 30 times. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

efraevo	you ever really know. it could be that their just friends, but it could be more. wait until you have mroe evidence of him chaeting before you make the conclusion. sometimes guys just have weird ways of handling these things. i'd say that finding out if your husband is cheating on you is worth him not talking to you for a while. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jules	I would sit down and have a serious discussion with him because you don't deserve this. You are married to each other not to someone else so he needs to make the decision what he wants to do. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jessigirl00781	Well I understand what you are going through. You have a right to be upset...I would too! My fiance gets upset if I think something...but that is the way they are. With the texting...I don't think that is right of him to do that with that girl. Doesn't matter that they can't talk at work...what are they talking about via text message that is so important? Also, does he know that it may cost you guys? I honestly think there might be SOMETHING going on..... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

finesthaitian	There is definitely something going on. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

august0893	I think you did the right thing, your husband is an idiot. I would confront the girl or someone else he works with at work. Hope this helps!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

outspokenone	yea he's guilty girl....get your alibi together because its going to be some drama headed your way soon and you are going to have show your attitude to some homewrecker.......and your hubby as well. I mean why would he get mad if you just asked him what were all these calls about?...you are the WIFE so you have a right to ask.... when a person is guilty they start trying to put their guilt on you...they start trying to pick fights and everything else ...so when the ** does hit the fan they can say "well, look at all the problems we having".......you are much better than me...i wouldnt be on yahoo answers right now i would be in his *!!!! but hey thats just me....... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

name of spritual tantra horr0r	you are right as your partner is involve in so many girls as he is too disturb and never satisfied person and duetothis he can be too looser in his life becaus there is no such a good relatin between u and marrriage life isnot so sucesful Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Pixie206	Turn it around. Explain how a woman's mind works. (Even if you don't believe it.) Reassure him that you know that he would never break the sacred vows he made. You trust him completely. (If you said something to the contrary before this would be the time to say sorry about that.) Then go into how you don't trust her. Put him in your position. Ask him what he would think if he saw a guys number numerous times texting you. (If he said he wouldn't care because he trusted you make sure to tell him again this isn't about him but the person who is texting him.) This then gives him a chance to be honest. You gave a little and now he can give a little. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sir Poochala	suggest marriage counseling. the truth will come out there Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

C P R	Trust me, as a guy, who texts, and has been in this same exact situation. He is being a bad boy. How bad is up in the air. But he wouldn't get mad unless... I will say this: guys are naturally gonna want to spread their seed. Its in their genetic make-up. So while you can be mad or hate him for it, maybe you can also understand him just a little. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, at all. Also, she knows he is married, so she is probably more at fault than him. Women are almost as bad, if not worse than men. It's not her fault either, as its in a women's genetic make-up to seek out a good man for daddy purposes. Even though she might be ruining the very thing she wishes to acquire, somehow it makes sense to her anyway. You, unfortunately, are caught in the middle! Good luck. Talk about it, and let him know you want the truth, and that it's OK to tell you. Personally, if my wife cheated, I would rather her tell me about it than keep it a secret. I would even forgive her if she told me, but probably wouldn't forgive her if I found out any other way. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

:)	It Depends. But you should hang out with both of them, if they're "such good friends" and see how they act together around you. It ususally leads to something. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kitty p	i would ask her. it seems to me that you should killim with kindness Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

packerprincess	well it depends what she writes and how shes saying these things and icons on the phone icons mean every thing. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MARIO S	oh no a man in love dosnt put a friend before his wife ever Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

D baby	Hmmm, how is your relationship otherwise? Do you feel like he has changed? Like is he no longer affectionate etc. Also ask him how he would fell if you were text messaging a male friend at work etc. Be honest and tell him how you feel and hopefully you two can resolve it without going to the extreme or fights etc. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

You call that CHANGE?	He is mad because he got busted!! Why dont you text this girl and ask her why she texts your husband so much, if HE mentions it to you, then you'll know that what your gut tells you is true. If the whole situation was just a work related thing, there would be no reason for him to be mad and then to ignore you, he would have handled it completely diff and would have reassured you that it was no big deal. We women were born with special instincts, use yours!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

teresa d	YOU SHOULD LOOK INTO IT MORE WHATIS SO IMPORTANT THAT THEY HAVE TO TEXT AND TALK SO MUCH Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Scarlette	Either your husband is annoyed that you would ever doubt him, or is using that as an excuse to not talk to you. I would go appologies and talked to him about it and if he feels like being a dick, tell him he is and wait for him to say sorry. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

purplemustang15	go and contact the woman with your cellphone number and ask why do they do this and mention that you are married and if your husband isn't still talking to you mention divorce and maybe things might get better Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chaaqarah	For the moment I would let it go. I'll apologize. After a week or two I would strick up a conversation about "feelings" of the text messaging and telephone conversations. Do not argue just listen. Digest everything that is being said and keep your eyes and ears open regarding future happenings between the two. There is an olds wives tale (aka a scripture) that says .... what happens in the dark will eventually be revealed in the light. Stay strong, limit your conversations with 'others' regarding this issue and be patient. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

duvaldiva.com	Take his cell phone and hide it right before he leaves for work one morning. Show up to his job and stand outside or downstairs and text the girl's phone and ask her to meet outside. She'll fall for it cause she'll think its him. When she gets down there, she'll be in for a big shock. Don't get violent, though, no man even a husband and a homewrecker is definitely not worth going to jail over. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

trudie_barraza	yep he's cheating on you otherwise wouldnt he give her his home number to call? he is being secretive and his actions of him being mad now at you ...is called displacement. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jakebrake402	If your gut is telling you something is not right , trust it , something is wrong, if he is not talking about it and getting mad when you try, something is up. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kjp	Well, he's mad because he got caught. So ask him to let you see the texts. If they are explicit, he probably deleted them. Thirty or more is at least once a day, every day. He's a dodo. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

vito194	4get that text me Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sparklingsatine04	He's not necessarily cheating, just look for more signs instead of jumping to conclusions. Men hate being confronted about things, even if they aren't true, so they get defensive and angry. Just look for more signs b/c maybe they are just friends and you may be making more of it. You can't base a relationship off text messages because some messages can be one word or 2. Sit down and seriously talk to him if you suspect something after you've done some investigating and have more to go off of. I know what you're going through. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No