What would make you get a divorce?

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pussnboots333	Well let's see, my ex was a control freak espceially over money issues. It became such a problem that I had problems shopping for anything. You name it, groceries, shoes, clothing, xmas presents. There was always an issue and I was the one bringing home the bacon. i never shopped at expensive places, and we always had plenty of money in the bank. Of course, when he wanted something, there was no question, he just got it.. Then he put on a ton of weight which didn't bother me at first but b/c of all these other issues, I never wanted to be intimate with him. He became like a father figure to me and it became apparent that i had no desire to continue on with this type of relationship. he also treated my family very badly. We tried counselling, but my heart was not into it anymore and I had to leave b/c i was so unhappy. I didn't want to resent him anymore than i already did. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Phil S	Well, my ex came home and told me she wanted a divorce - and in counseling told me "no matter what, we are getting a divorce"... So I called my lawyer the next day and filed...the day after our divorce, she moved in with the guy she had been cheating with for over a year-and-a-half. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

G C	I've been thru two divorces. Cheating is the reason for both. Finances, I could live thru, abuse I could live thru, but once the trust is gone there's nothing left. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lanabee	Through better or worst to what extent ... there are a lot of phrases used everywhere and everyday. When the problems the spouses have are affecting the children negatively and marriage counseling wasn't a 2 person effort... that did it for me. Life is short. How unhappy should people be? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dennise X	There are 3 main things that would make me get a divorce (if I ever get married that is): 1. Physical Abuse, 2. Verbal Abuse 3. Infidelity and all happen because your spouse does not respect you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

scottygirl	Well my husband came home one day and said he wasn't happy and left. He deserted me and our daughter in a different continent, closing our joint bank account which my paycheck went into and opening another one in his name only. He went on to take away my job, car, our cellphones and throw us out of our home. We eventually found out he had been seeing a 21 year old woman who was 30 years younger than him. All this after 22 years of what I thought was happy married life. I filed for divorce. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Alex B	CHEATING...anything else can be worked out. well, also if i fell out of love--no controlling that. i think most people do it because they're weak and they give up. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kystarlyte_kystarlight	How about...Enough is enough, I can't take anymore! I've tried everything, including counseling and nothing works. Cheaters, and lying about it when confronted with proof. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jjohnny65	Cheating is the divorceable offense!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

char the brat	Being unhappy for years and trying to get my husband to go to counseling. When he refuses to go, I go anyway by myself. I try all the things suggested with no response. Decide it's time to be happy and move on. Marry again and am treated very badly. My children from first marriage are treated badly too. These both really happened. I think I could forgive my husband for an affair, but not for mistreating me or my children. I would divorce any man who sexually or physically abused a child. It's absolutely unforgiveable. I couldn't live with a monster. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kayneriend	When the husband is beating you up to death, treat you and you know it's coming to the end of you??? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dudleydo	Physical and verbal abuse. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

In God We Trust	Divorce requires serious thought. Now if a person does not want the person they are with any longer, then they will come up with any excuse and divorce them. People don't take marriage as seriously as they used to. Remember this, What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us? - Romans 8:31. The Lord daily loadeth us with benefits, even the God of our salvation. Selah. - Psalm 68:19. Peace and God Bless. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Johnnie C	Marriage is for better or worse, in sickness or in health to death do us part. But, adultery takes marriage to the death do us part. The decision to remain in the marriage after it has been killed by adultery is left to the surviving victim, and children are not an excuse to remain. The perpetrator usually is arrogant and promiscuous inflicting a life of, "Russian Roulette" with every time there is sexual communication with the unaware partner. Then there is confusion, lack of trust, anger etc. once what is hidden in the dark comes to light. Even with the strength of Goliath the failing pulse of the marriage could stop beating, and its only through strong communication, remorse, and developing understanding with repentance can there be a revival. Truly only when the perpetrator really learns what the true meaning of love is, selfless, compassionate, unconditional, enjoying, growing, nurturing, comfortable, blessing, thanking, appreciating, celebrating, building,uniting, etc. with the permission of the victim the marriage can survive. Adultery is the one thing that will bring to death do us part into a marriage for better or for worse, burying it with a divorce! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pvelas	it depends on how much of the "worse" you can handle. can you handle a cheating spouse, one who doesn't want to work, dependent on drugs. lost communication and trust? if you continue to stay in it, how much can you handle before it drives you crazy? to each his own. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Amy Lynn	infidelity!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cindy C	I guess the only reason I would get a divorce is if I found out that he had another wife and kids somewhere. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

FunFlirty&30	Funny you should ask this question. I am in the process now. I was diagnosed w/ a permanent disability that my husband makes light of, while he was away in school and could only visit 1-3 times a month he very rarely had sex / made love to me. When he was home permanently he told me that we would have sex when he wanted to and still I got NONE. When I cried out for help to him that I was unhappy, he stood by and did nothing. Then he took over the family bills while I worked 14 hours a day and got us behind 4 months on our mortgage- while he was telling me that everything was ok when I asked. I'm cutting my loses and getting out before worse has me and my kids living in my car. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Fritz Milan	Nothing. I married for better or worse...my ex-wives divorced me. But, I have two great kids out of it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Damo	My 18 year marriage ended recently because my husband cheated, kept cheating and wasn't sorry about it. If he had cheated once, realised he had made a mistake, and then stopped doing it, then I would have given him another chance. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

veterannavymom	abuse. God didn't intend for people to be abused in a relationship Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

No More	I can think of no reason that I would leave my wife. If she was unfaithful to me I would be devastated but I think we could get passed it provided that she could make me believe that it was a one time thing and that she felt it was a mistake... If she cheated again I would end it. I have enough respect for myself to not allow myself to be used...You have to remember this though, vows are sacred and to be taken seriously, they are not an excuse for one person to use to get away with transgressions. Even in the Catholic church it is possible to have a marriage annulled if that case can be made that someone had no intention of honoring the vows... I have read cases where marriages that were 10 or 15 years in length and were still granted an annulment.... for better or for worse does not mean that your spouse has to forgive you for whatever you do. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Thoughtful	Ironically, I am in the process of getting a divorce right now. My wife has been diagnosed by a psychiatrist as bipolar and although I've done everything I can to stay in the marriage (we have kids) she wants me out. I am blamed for everything; never cheated, not a flirt, attentive, keep a steady admirable job. But nothing is good enough. It wasn't this way in the beginning of our relationship, but it has eroded to this point over time. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sparkleythings_4you	cheating, that's breaking the marriage vow, so the end of the marriage Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

terrysgirl0206	Abuse Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

seymoretowns	Abuse. I don't think even in a better or worse situation that a person should be abused. I mean real abuse be it mental or physical. Not some made up stuff just b/c your unhappy Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ERIC S	my ex stole our car, left me with 2 kids, cheated on me, and spent 600$ of my money on methamphetamines. but i am not bitter. is that good enough reason? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Amanda B	If my spouse sexually abused our children ! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lasata	if he hit me or sexually abused my children Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

vanessa c	well,,,if my husband had a one nighter, we could work thru it,,,if he told me he LOVED her, it'd be over. and if he EVER hit me,,,goodbye i have been reading thru all these answers....how people have been treated, how they have been used..its so sad Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

frr_ls	adultry, verbal and/or physical abuse Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No