What do you think about parents arranging marriages for their children?

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rock4u005	ya it's cool we should do love marriage rather than arrange marriage coz we would marry the girl whom we know deeply Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

amaan	yeah parents should arrange marraige for children..............but some people does not understand Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rocky	HA AGAR GHAR WALO KO KOI AITRAAZ NA HO TO AUR LADKA LADKI KO BHI KOI AITRAAZ NA HO TO YAH THIK HAI AGAR GHAR WALE NA PADH RAHE HO TO BAAT HAI Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sekarssk	As per me, arranged marriage is good way to start the life.. since if children was given liberty means, they ll love and marry but thats not a problem, here i ll say u the exact reason behind the love marriage they ll choose the co-lover blindly, initially while loving they ll just see his appearance at first sight and if he/she looks smart, they both ll come to conclusion that they r in love, but its a LUST. After they ******* for some days they get bored and after that only they ll come to know the real life and real character of each one.. I am against love, but saying the real factor about love. this was the case in around 80% of love marriage. but if two friends get in love and they marry means, they can lead a happy life forever... But friends (then lovers) cant marry in all times, so binding to Arranged marriage by parents is one of the good way to lead a happy life, since they ll query all the things about the bride and bridegroom. this ll reduce the risk factors in future... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tia	hey friend i don't think its a good option.. to marry someone is a lifetime commitment.. its you who have to stay with the one you married for your whole life.. only you can decide the one with whom you can spend a lifetime.. the choices of children should be considered by the parents.. i Truly believe in love marriage.. when you are in love nothing is fabricated you show you true self to the one you love but in arrange marriage you got to show only the good side of you and when after marriage you darker side comes to light it always creates a problem.. so arrange marriage is definitely not my cup of tea!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rakesh m	my answer is parents is right Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

namitaavnishdubey	I agree with you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rajini kanth	Parents will choose a suitable person for their child as a life partner. But the children can choose a most suitable person for their life.So love marriage is the best option for life at the same time parent`s advice and suggestions are most most important for their life. So my one line answer is CHILDREN CHOOSE THEIR LIFE PARTNER AND PARENTS ARRANGE THEIR MARRIAGE. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Arjun	yeah love marriage is better it is better to marry a know devil...rather marry an unknown....... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JUSTIN L. LOVES JILL C.	well parents want the best for their children FIRST OF ALL. However, you have the right to marry the person you love and no one should be able to persuade you to think otherwise. think about this one. LOVE or MONEY? only a golddigger would say money. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

naheed	i think its ok as long as the child agrees.it should be a mutual decision after all u cant ignore your parents they are the reason for our existence.But then if your parents really luv u they wont be against u. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

luv2luf	i think we should go wih parents because they have a lot of experience in tneir life and whatever they do is just for our betterment but it is really very confusing because experiencing love is truly great i feel and i think everyone should taste it atleast once in their life hey really i love ur beautiful question and i myself cant decide this lets see our fortune drives us and leads us to love marriage or arranged but personally i tihnk in love marriage v get know about ur soulmate better but in arranged i think its only physical attraction i love to experience love but its quite risky in indian families but even i n arranged marriages we have the choice to decide and thats good because i dont think parents force us at that time ok bye Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Indian2010	Yes Captain Jac...! My views are: U belong 2 a country which might b modern/developed in living style/standard unlike India. Ours is a developing one. Here is the difference !!! It's absolutely clear that Divorce is common at yr end, while we here in India have some social values in most of the families and divorce will b the last resort we will embracein case their marriage lives are not successful or it becomes difficult for them to manage it. But that's not so in developed countries like yrs ! Isn't it? I have two grown-up children for whom I w'd have 2 arrange their marriages in due course. We cannot give absolute freedom to them as per our "Sanskars"; i.e. our traditional values. We will not mind if they propose someone and we take further processing to enble us to materialise. But offcourse, our children will not have their independent decisions. They will take us into consideration of the matrimonial proposals and as per our social norms, we will proceed and that will b the right direction whatsoever the outcome may be. We will anticipate a normal life for them to go ahead and b successful in their lives. I'm sure, u will go through my views in the right perspective...All the best Captain.... Indian2010 09.03.2009 Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Aisha	Its the worst method. I agree with u. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

divya d	yes.parents arranging marriage to their children is a good option but, at the same time they should even consider the opinion of their children. as they are the one who are goin to lead their life with their partner, not the parents. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

aripper2002	parents want to choose their children's spouse because they want only good to happen to their children, but sometimes this doesn't work. parents need to be open minded and be their children's friend so that if the child loves someone they must be ready to accept it. if they don't then they need to discuss with the children, but never force them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Samou S	I THINK PARENTS SHOULD LIVE THEIR CHILDREN FOUND THEIR PARTNER WITH WHO THEY WILL GET MARRIED,BECAUSE IF PARENTS FIND A MAN OR WOMAN AND AFTER MARRIAGE THE BOY OR GIRL HAS A PROBLEM WITH HIS PARTNER,THE PARENTS WILL BE RESPONSIBLE OF THIS. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Balaji R	i think it's worng bez before marrige two persons have some communication abt our self if u r guy in arranged marriage how do u find the tasts and some other of that grl... i think in my view arrainge marriage is just like buying a person.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

VoiceofCommonSense	It tells me that they would never trust their childrens decision to find their own spouse, they do it themselves. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rekha S	my view is a love marriages brtter arranging marriage .il love marriages we can understanding each other Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sneh	Parents arranging matrimonial meetings should be ok, but it should You who decide whether you want to go along with the person or not. At times it is good to go for this kind of arranged meetings because, you have some information and idea about the person and a family. more important, parents are equally responsible for the relation you are going to bind. As a matter of fact, mine is arranged *** love marriage.i saw my hubby for the first time during arranged meeting. Then my parents saw him and denied for the relation. But i fall for him. I decided, i will marry him only. And finally took a year to got the thing official. So you know.. it's always luck. Believe in your instinct. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ndm1958	This has been done for thosands of years with a lot of them being very happy ones. My brothers wife was chosen by the church (I do not practice his religion) twice and the first on ended in divorce. I the United States if you don't want to go along with a arranged marriage you just don't get married, but you risk losing the relationship with your parents. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chetu	yeah u r right...we should have the liberty for choosing our life partner but Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

THE FUTURE	I AGREE WITH UU Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

xavier s	The best is love marriage, but arranged by parents and elders with their blessings. There can be chances when boys and girls out of their infatuation, take rapid decision for themselves. It is not enough that boys and girls know each other, but their families should know each other too. In India, the marriage is not only between two individuals, but also between two families. Parents should guide children regarding this and in order to work towards the good of their children, they have to throw away all their ego and stubbornness. Every marriage is and should be a love marriage, however arranged by parents. Love is the first condition for a valid marriage. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Satnam S	I THINK POSTIVE ABOUT PARENTS ARRANGING MARRIAGES FOR THEIR CHIDREN BECAUSE THEY HAVE A LOT OF EXPERIENCE OF LIFE THEY SEE ABOUT FUTURE FOR THEIR CHILDREN BUT BOY AND GIRL ARE EMOTIONAL IN LOVE Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tenley and Piper's mommy	I guess that it just depends on the culture in which you are raised. I personally would never choose my daughters spouse. That's not my decision to make. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kkkk K	In my country we don’t do arrange marriage so it sounds strange for us. But I can say you one thing, marry only if know the person very very well or else don’t do.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

KARAN	It has been working successfully for generations. Failures are in everything. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jagannath_kr	Do you think that it is a sin to arrange marriage for their children? It is not always. They do it taking as their responsibility and nothing else. But as you say, children should be given some liberty to make their own choices, especially with regard to marriage. Parents should change their attitude with the changing time and trend, especially now in 21 century. They need not impose their principles or authorities on their children, but they can guide them if necessary. Arranged marriages were done so far in a mechanical way. What we did not think so far is that both Parents and children never sat together to exchange their thoughts. Better we start conducting frequent family meetings in all subjects now, the elders share the thoughts of their children and guide them with logical advise. I second your thought my dear. I have already applied this idea to my son and asked him to go ahead. Whatever may be the idea of arranged or love marriage, the parents of both side should be informed about the activities of their children to avoid any consequential problems, such as sex before marriage, child birth before marriage, running away of boy or girl after having secret sex in the name of irresponsible dating before marriage, which are illegal and detrimental to social discipline. The dating shall be restricted to know each other well but not to indulge in other objectionable activities. Excess in anything is bad. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Harijann	What is Love? It is a combination of Physical, Emotional Psychological and a combination of all this makes a perfect marriage. Love commences generally with physical attraction we marry and do not give enough time to the other two requirements that is emotional and psychological to groom simultaneously and occasionally start looking for it somewhere else and is the beginning of signs of strain. In the modern society educated parents and children understand the necessity to develop the relation before arranged marriages. Arranged marriage is a collective initiative with our approval and has the love, support and backing of all concerned parties like the boys parents, the girls parents, cousins, relatives, etc and this support systems helps to bind the relation in the initial stages IF it shows any signs of strains and helps to sustain the marriage in the initial stages and gradually it flourishes physically, emotionally and psychologically. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No