What I was told....do people still feel this way, even now in 2007? lol?

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Rebornie	Hey, you are not destined to be single simply because you do not know how to cook, you won't know someday you may marry a chef lol. Well, my experience is some men do prefer women who cook well, they can really be impressed. It's always an advantage to know cooking, if it's nothing you dreaded too much, perhaps you can try out cooking class. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kathyw	Learn to cook - it's a survival skill. Of course your grandmother is right. She's exaggerating a bit when she says you'll NEVER find a man without cooking skill. What she could have said is that without cooking skill, you will have to find a certain kind of man - a man who doesn't want you anywhere near the kitchen would be the best choice. He has to love cooking. What's so funny about thinking that you need to know how to provide something for yourself and others that you need 3 times a day, every day of your life? LOL that's what is really funny. If you plan to eat out a lot, plan to earn a lot. Add that to the description of that certain kind of man. He has to earn big bucks so the two of you can eat the majority of your meals in a restaurant. LOL. Get used to eating at McDonald's because that will be your diet, then. LOL. Your grandmother's not old school. She knows what it is like to raise children, for example - whence she got that term 'grandmother.' I recall a woman bragging to me that her daughter didn't need the cookbook she was buying for her. It was obvious she thought her daughter was a little princess who had married a prince who would never let her lift a finger around the house. Good luck. I said to the woman, 'I suppose she plans to have children someday.' The woman got a serious look on her face and said,'God willing.' I said, 'Then she's going to have to have food ready for growing children more than just three times a day, for snacks and parties and entertaining... I don't know any kid who doesn't come home from school and ask what there is to eat.' Of course I made my point - which was that even little princesses need to soil their dainty hands if they expect to raise children. I think I should add that I was not having this conversation with British royalty, just someone who thought money was going to make cooking unnecessary. LOL. LOL. LOL. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

whatever2006	okay, cooking skills are esential not only for marriage, but if you're gonna be single, then you really need to learn how to cook...no one wants to eat out all the time. My husband and I both cook, so that's not a major problem, but for the most part I do the cooking. Don't worry, with time and experimentation, you'll get the hang of it. I hate to cook, but some times it's fun and it gets your mind off other problems as well. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

starrrrgazer	I have three sisters and a daugher who do not cook, period. They burn toast and can't boil water. They are all married to great cooks. I can cook and cook well. However, I also married a man who can cook better than I can. He does 75% of the cooking. Cooking no longer has anything to do with marriage. My other daughter is in the same situation as I am. She works as a cook, but her significant other is a better cook than she is and does about 1/2 the cooking. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kitty	There's more to marriage than cooking, that's for sure. Yes, a lot of guys still like "domestic" women; but it really depends on the guy. I have a friend who does all the cooking; she is a great cook, and her husband appreciates it very much. Another good friend of mine is a good cook, but her husband loves cooking too, so they share the duties; he makes to-die-for pesto! Yet another couple I know never eat at home; she cannot cook to save her life, their fridge is always empty - but they've been married for 7 years, and are going strong. I think, any potential "mate" will be looking at the total package, not checking off traits from a list. In our household, I do most of the cooking; my husband only makes mac and cheese or hamburger helper. I really don't mind; my husband does most of the working and most of the money earning - so it works out. For the longest time, I didn't know how to cook. My mom always cooked for us, and then when I moved out on my own I would survive on hot dogs and noodle roni. But when I got married, I was thrown into the whole "domestic" routine - and quickly learned my way around the kitchen. Now I actually enjoy cooking, it is hardly a chore. Don't sweat it, you'll find a man who appreciates you for who you are, and if you learn to cook it will be a bonus. I've never liked cleaning, and my mom would always say that I might not find a husband if I don't shape up; but I'm married now, and we just have to pay a maid to come in a couple of times a month. There's always a solution. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

civic9497	We both cook although my husband prefers to do it because I am not that good at it, I know the feeling about Hamburger Helper......lol. There are a lot of men out there that like to cook as well. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

StormyC	That is very old school, if you are working outside the home, the cooking should definitely be shared 50/50. BTW, a lot of guys love spaghetti and hamburger helper. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Scott F	My background: male, married 28 years next Saturday. And of all the many things I feel that I need my wife for, cooking would be the one I'd give up most gladly. :-) Part of that is that I started learning to cook when I was 14. I've always loved cooking, not only getting food to taste like it's supposed to, but then going the next step and imagining what it would taste like if I combined ingredients in new ways. And it's very rewarding, for me, to cook a good meal because it's such a combination of creativity, technique, time-management and (for lack of a better word) "performance art" to get everything done and served at the right time. I mean... I cooked my own Father's Day meal because I wanted it to come out exactly a certain way. And it did, and everyone loved it. (Roast pork loin with caramelized cipolline onions and garlic cloves braised in white wine and balsamic vinegar, plus porcini mushroom risotto, with baby artichokes on the side.) Now, having said that, I'm almost certainly not a potential husband to you for many reasons -- I'm already married and, well, I probably have daughters about your age. (Of course, if you don't mind older men... ahem. :-) But cooking ability wouldn't even make my list of Important Qualities if I suddenly found myself in search of a potential mate. (What would they be, you ask? Let's see... Humor... intelligence... patience... some sort of artistic ability... and various sexual details.) And at the same time I highly recommend that you learn to cook, not so much in order to Catch A Husband, but because it's a very rewarding skill to have. A couple of times in our married life I've been on my own for a few weeks at a time, usually in the the process of making a move where either I was the first to move to a new city or the last to leave the old one, and in all those cases I found that simply being able to make what I wanted, the WAY I wanted it, was a great comfort to me. So take some cooking classes, watch the Food Network, and try some new things. If you can already make spaghetti, try some other Italian dishes -- fettucine Alfredo is supremely easy if you do it the traditional way, as I was served it at the NYC Alfredo's (never made it to the one in Rome!): Fettucine Alfredo (in the style of Alfredo's) 1 pound fettucine (fresh preferred, dried acceptable) 1/2 stick (2 oz, 60g) unsalted butter, brought to room temperature 2 to 3 tablespoons (30ml) cream Dash fresh nutmeg Dash salt Grated Italian cheese (parmigiano, romano, etc.) to taste Heat a serving dish in a 200 degree F/90 degree C oven for 10-15 minutes. (Alternatively: I put the bowl on top of the bot I'm using to boil water; the point is to get the dish warm enough to keep the butter melted.) Boil water for pasta. While water boils, whip the butter with a fork until soft and fluffy. Cook pasta as indicated, then drain into the heated bowl. Place the whipped butter onto the pasta and stir to melt the butter. Add cream just to coat the noodles, then add salt and nutmeg. Top with grated cheese, serve immediately. Serves two (you and your grandmother, perhaps? :-) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Don't Wanna Die	No, you are not destined to be single. But it might depend on whether the guy you get interested in had a father who cooked some, as a role model for man cooking. It also helps if you get a guy who lived on his own, so he is already used to doing some cooking for himself. My son and his wife are 23. It is sort of a joke at their house that she really doesn't cook, she just never really had the opportunity or the time, although she hopes to do some as time goes on. But my son loves her and married her anyway. He even has a few specialties of his own that he cooks. My other son is 20, and he has been cooking since he was about 17, even though he was living at home at the time. My husband and I share in the cooking and the grocery shopping. No set pattern to it. Sometimes one of us just does it for chunks of time, and sometimes we are more evenly split over the course of a week. There are certain types or styles of food that he likes to prepare, and there are other things that I prepare. You'll be OK, but you might want to add just a couple more recipes to your repertoire. Good Luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

miss thang	usually its only one person that does the cooking.....little cooking lesson right here.......any kind of meant: season as you wish...then either fry it back it or grill it....if you have a george forman grill use it if not invest in it..makes things easier..cut the meat open if its pink cook longer if its not then its done! sides...canned veggies always good...put in a bowl lil butter salt and pepper and microwave for about 2 minutes...most boxed foods have directions...follow them....cooking is all about experimenting with foods..trying different things...if ya like it write it down if ya dont move on.....good luck with the cooking...and your not hopeless..not evey many looks for a woman that can cook! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lady in Red	I do most of it, just because I, myself, am pretty old-fashioned for a 26 year old, but he's a great cook. Sometimes, he mans the grill while I do the indoor stuff, and vice-versa. Sometimes, if his days off are a weekday, he has supper ready for me, on the table, when I come home. Sometimes, on those days, when I leave for work, I jokingly tell him that when I get home supper better be on the table, the house clean, and he better be looking pretty. It's not that big of a deal. Two women I work with said they cook about 10 times a year. Their husbands get off work earlier and like to cook, so they do it gladly. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

justforfriends	I don't know ...I know a lot of guys that love to cook. However it would not hurt you to learn how to cook something other than spaghetti and hamburger helper. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

catgirl	When I married my ex, he knew that I did not like to cook. My ex likes to cook and did most of the cooking. While growing up my father did most of the cooking. If you find someone that doesn't know how to cook, perhaps your grandmother could teach both of you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Klingon	You can always take cooking classes!How about that one! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lucky	ive known married women who cant cook and guys who cook great. its old school to assume a woman has to do all the cooking. thats like back in the day when women didn't have jobs they just stayed home and cared for children. if u ever meet a guy who won't be with u cause u cant cook kick him to the curb cause hes not worth it Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ashley	There's hope for you! I don't do any cooking because I've been with an executive chef for 4years now! There ARE men that like to cook. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sun s	you will get a husband BUT the truth of the matter is, Most guys are old fashion no matter how young they are..Some behaviors we display as males and females are innate..Society will change and put a spin on some uncivilized behaviors but what is biological will always be.. I was not a good cook but i have become great at it since i got married..I watch a lot of the "food network" channel..You can learn a lot there..I love to see my husband's reaction every time i make a new meal..He is so proud of my cooking he tells people about.. My friends enjoy my cooking..If i cooked for you now..you would think I'm a chef..but the food-network is great..I can make Italian, french,African, American.Latin foods..I'm good Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

loves2dream2003	In my marriage, we share cooking. But, I do the most cooking. I'm not a big fan on cooking. It doesn't mean that you will be single for the rest of your life. She should try cooking some easy things. Frying, baking and etc. If you are open minded on cooking and becoming a better cooker than you will be fine. GOOD LUCK Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Allie M	Lol in most cases yes one person cooks. I cook for my husband and kids. I do the cleaning and most of the other house work. He works long hours and doesn't have any idea how to cook . You just have to be bold and take a chance and work off of recipes if you can find some you like. Then as you get more comfortable you can change things to make it more to your tastes. Its what I do and it works great. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

two_kee_kees	Oh don't worry about granny. Sure there's probably tons of guys who want a woman that cooks, but this is 2007, it's not necessary. I can't cook to save my soul. I can make some mean pieces of meat on the George Foreman grill, but that's it. But guess what.. I have a bf! We've been together for four years and he could care less that I can't cook. We try cooking stuff together, and it's fun! Granny is probably right if the year were 1945, but not anymore. You're fine, you'll get a man. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Thunderscream	i hate to make the 21st century woman mad but the facts speak for itself yes i prefer a woman to cook but i can cook clean and do the laundry but when you have someone do it for you or let them do it, it is a special bond that is made like the guy is special wierd as it sounds but its true besides how long has she been married compared to most of the women today there is the answer in itself lol Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mommybaby295	I can't cook at all - I am horrible. My hubby barely cooks. We just make do the best we can. I think that if a man can't look past the fact that you don't have kitchen savvy, then he's probably not worth it anyway. There is a big difference between preferring your spouse be able to cook and requiring it. Look on the bright side - if neither of you is very good, you can take lessons together. :) And by the way, my parents are from an older generation, and they both share the cooking duties fully. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rlfesty	You're right, in these times, it is more acceptable and EXPECTable for both to cook sometims, but I guarantee that it will end up most nights just going out. That is a TREMENDOUS leak in your family's money that you would prefer to use for better purposes (vacation together, a home, the millions of things a child needs, etc.) Eventually, you will both cook more. You both need to know to cook. I am not used to someone cooking for me, but, if someone did ever have food for me when I got home, I immediately see her stock go up in my eyes because she cares and she has a domestic side, which is what long-term relationships and eventual marriages are all about mostly. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tardis_mom	My brother (who can only make brownies from a box) just got married to a fabulous girl who can't cook anything. They plan on learning together (and laugh along the way). Obviously, he found something to like about her besides her ability to cook. Re: your second question. I tend to cook in our house because I like it, but my husband can cook, as well. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

wish I were	No you don't have anything to worry about! Yes we both cook! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MadCuzImFlagrant	I feel the same way about being destined to be single. Nowadays, it doesn't matter if women can cook or not. I can cook better than 90% of the girls Ive dated. Grandparents are that way. It was a 10 mile walk to school up-hill both ways in the snow and rain...lol. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rance D	Nope. You're just doomed to find a man who has enuogh money to take you out to eat a lot. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mktxlady	Just last night my husband told me one of the many reasons he married me was because of my good cooking. Learn to cook, it's fun.............. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

DMD	I can cook very well but still would like partner to enjoy the meal with...... Women and men are equal in'07...well decent ones are Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ideally_rational	Well...you didn't say what your age is. I, for one, have been married, single, and remarried, and have done all the cooking in one relationship, and almost none in another. Inbetween I ate salads and had a skinny body, something men like, shallow beings that they are. :P But! Good food should be the norm. Hamburger helper is NOT cooking, lol That's what I fed my first husband when I already knew what direction we were headed in. My point is simple. Cook good food for the sake of eating good food. It's a quality of life issue, single or not! Inexperienced cooks think that good food is more expensive. It's not. People who eat fast food everyday spend more on food than those who take leftovers to work, and those fast food eaters weigh a lot more and their cholesterol is off the charts. I think that sharing the cooking is becoming more the norm. Inexperienced cooks also think that cooking is HARD. It's not...watch a few programs on tv...granted it's an art...but a lot of it is simple trial and error. There's no reason for a person not to eat well in the abundant grocery stores we have in the U.S. Experiment! You'll learn to be proud and like it. Take a trip to southern France or Italy. You'll never want to eat hamburger helper ever again! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ncc742	You can learn to cook as you go. I have been married 5 years..i could cook before but i can cook even better and different things now. And i do almost all of the cooking but he can cook...he showed me that when i was pregnant! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No