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cincywahine
What's the best way to get revenge on a home wrecking whore?
My husband and I are getting divorced. He is a cheat and was seeing this whore at work who KNEW he was married.

I am getting EVERYTHING that I want in this divorce. EVERYTHING. He is currently without a car (his motor blew) and he is sleeping in his friends basement. She is now sleeping in the basement with him now too since he needs a ride to work every day.

I already have it set int he divorce that she is NEVER to be permitted within 500 feet of my son. Regardless is they fall madly in love and move in together. It is written that she is required to leave the residence should they ever cohabitate.

But, I am not done with her. If she didn't know....then I would let her walk. But, she knowingly got involved with a married man.

Legally, what can I do to make her life hell. I know it's already going to cause problems with them the way I have the visitation with our son set up.

Any ideas? Nothing "really" illegal. Not into going to jail.



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yu000
Do you believe in Karma? Spiritual guide? There could be some lesson you may have missed in this relationship.
It's normal for each & everyone of us to be very, very, very defensive & self denial. We may, some how or other made some mistake which we just sweep under that carpet.....
Why revenge? why make things already bad to worse? Leave it to the universe, we are just human ..... we can never satisfy our egoself, even you manage to create hell for others - what do we gain? building happiness over other's misery? satisfaction - but, deep down inside, the guilty feeling ~ it's much more difficult to comprehend .... what turns around, comes around - we'll get a chance to experience those that we do unto others - we may feel it for ourselves one day.
Live & let live ~ there's always a reason for everything, it's just we keep on denying on our part as a contributor - and, it is difficult to understand now, one day you'll understand.... look at your son - how bad it is to grow without a father? wear his shoes ............ and wear back your shoes - then ask yourgood self - is this what I want in life?

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Rene
Hmmm... I wonder why your anger is just directed at her, not your cheating husband. Your husband was the one who cheated on you, not her. He is the one who broke his marriage vows to you. Does it make you feel better to blame her more than you blame him?

Seriously, your bitterness will hurt you and your son far more than it will hurt them. Try taking the high road and let all of this anger and bitterness go. Trust me on this... no one likes being around an angry, bitter person. Even your son will eventually get sick of hearing about how horrible they are and how angry you are. You will be much happier if you move on with your life!

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sassyk
You are one of my favorite people on this site, so let me give you some good advice. I went through this over 30 years ago when my husband left me for a woman 20 years older that either he or I. I wanted to get revenge on her too, until I realized, that is was him that betrayed me. He is the one that made the vows to you, not her. Don't waste your energy on her. Once a cheater, always a cheater, and he will cheat on her too, just like mine did. I did finally get the ultimate revenge on him, or rather he did it to himself. He committed suicide 9 years ago. He made his life miserable and was not involved in our children's life. Once he realized the mistake he made, he took the cowardly way out. It devastated my children, and I must admit it was hard for me not to jump for glee that that miserable creep was finally out of my life, but I had to remain stoic for my kids. 30 years ago, 5 years after my husband bailed, I met the greatest guy, and we have been together ever since. You will meet a great guy too. Get these creeps out of your life and open new doors for yourself and your children. Good Luck Girl.

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sunbun
don't you realize that he, as well as the whore, knew he was married....It appears to me that you are taking all your vengence out on the female..when the male is equally as quilty

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LadyK
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Your husband cheated on you......be mad at him. You have concentrated so much on the other women, it sounds like you haven't taken your anger out on the person who needs it most. As hard as it may be, she doesn't owe you anything. He owed you his life. Be mad at him. He is the cheater.
Don't ever fight another women, for a man. All you are showing him is that he is worth it. Move on and be happy, that will make him feel like he isnt worth anything.

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Donna T
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I understand your anger and sympathize. Unfortunately there isn't really very much you can or should do to retaliate. If your husband was cheating he alone is responsible for his actions. It would be nice if women would not get involved With married men, but it happens. Chances are he persued her, at any rate his being unfaithful is what destroyed the marriage. I think the focus now should be on your child. Please don't be so wrapped up in revenge and making his life miserable that your child becomes a pawn. I'm sure your child is very upset by the loss of his dad in the household. When it comes to visitation try to make arrangements that are fair to your child, not punishment for the husband. He is probally scared and confused and afraid his dad left because he doesn't love him. Try to look through his eyes and don't make it harder on him by letting him see your anger and feel like he has to choose between his mom and dad, or that one parent loves him less. It's a sad situation and I'm sorry this happened to you. Hope in time you are able to move on to a much happier life.

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rosei16
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bitter angry, and you have every right to be so. I dispise women who are so LOW and disgusting that they seek out married men KNOWINGLY. what the hell kind of person does that.... I also have NO RESPECT for a man who cheats on his wife.

I mean the thing I have always considered is, if he will cheat on the wife with you, what the hell makes you so special, should you get the turn to be wife? its laughable.

I dont know how you can make her life a living hell, but I do know that trying to can and will only make YOUR life a living hell... honey, do your best to heal and let this go. He isnt worth it at all, and neither is she. You have a son, and you need to focus on you and the son. Your ex husband is certainly getting JUST what he deserves! Such an assho** He has nothing, and karma is catchin up to him. He will continue to get what he deserves honey, trust me. Neither of them will be happy, and be sure you not only take him through with the divorce, but that you get him in child support and alimony too. He broke you, hurt you, used you, lied and was so untrue, and hell he made his bed. Time to lay in it now.

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MsLiteSkin
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Girrrrrrl... trust me she may have been a whore but she will continue to be that regardless of what you do to her. So the only one who will really be affetcted is you- because you will put out so much negative energy to get back at them and it is not worth it. The best thing to do is walk away and dont trip off of them- she will see what and who he is- look at them now he doesnt have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of and she will be the dumbass to make up for what he lacks. TRUST ME in due time she will know she made a mistake bc he will cheat on her too- think about it- he made vows to God for you and did you wrong- he WILL get her too but worse, truse me. So let dumb and dumber go on thinking they are well off and in time they will crumble, but you shouldnt make that your focus. You have more important things to do, and karma is a big fat B word. I know you feel like you need revenge and u just cant let them get away with what they did but it isn't worth you getting all drawn into revenge for them, cause it could consume you. I have been there and I know I wasted a lot of energy I could have used for good. And they surely were not worth it. A dog and a whore... they belong together so let em be.

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vengence
I've found the best vengence is forgive and forget.

And I hate people.

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Crybaby Bob
The best revenge is to live well. Why don't you try to get over yourself. The way your talking I feel for your cheating husband and I'm pretty sure that's no the way you want people to see this.

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Sarah R
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The best thing that you can do is forget about her and forgive your ex. Your son will not grow up in a healthy environment if you are constantly bashing his father. What your ex did was wrong but i don't think that immediately divorcing was the answer, because it will be very hard on your son. I have grown up with divorced parents and it is very horrible. I would not wish it on anyone else, but, seeing as its already happened to him, you can at least try to not seek revenge on your ex. My advice, is to tolerate him, teach your son that it was wrong, but he will not take that advice from you if you seek revenge on your husband. Try to do something to get your mind off of it. God bless you

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Sherry G
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I can understand the anger you're feeling, believe me! Deep down you'd like to choke the living hell out of her...if I were you, I would just let the chips fall where they may and concentrate in taking care of your son and drop getting revenge. Since he cheated, he wasn't committed in the first place, you are truly better off without him. She will find out how it feels on what she did to you because he will most likely do it to her. You also don't want her getting any satisfaction in seeing you ticked off. Hope that things work out for you and your son! Best of luck!

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Team
Why not just leave it alone. He not Her are not worth loosing sleep over. Take your child and MOVE ON!
Be the bigger person in this thing. its not all her fault. He knew just as well as She knew he was married.
Take Care!

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TaffyMoon
Living happily and well is the best revenge - seek tranquilty and peace.

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BabeHeart
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She's not the guilty party, he is and sounds like you've already dealt with him. She's got herself a cheating "boyfriend" who is apparently being taken to the cleaners, and her own bad karma for being a party to cheating.

Let that be that lest you build up your own negative karma in your desire to get "revenge" on her. She didn't make your husband cheat, he made that choice himself...that doesn't excuse her behavior, but there's no need for you to work so hard to get back at her when really he's the only one you should be angry with. She's just rather pathetic and foolish.

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Lyndsay B
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Believe it or not you already got revenge. She is now dating a cheat and a liar. What you need to do is just move on. If he cheated on you he will do it to her and then she will feel everything that you do right now. This man does not seem worth it so don't let it get to you. If he lives in a basement and is a cheat and liar you should thank her for taking him off your hands so that you can find a better man. If you show that it does not bother you than that is the best revenge you can get. I do have to make a statement though to women who do choose to date a man who is married. I think this is about the lowest thing that you can do. Escpecially when there are children involved. I hate women that do this kind of thing. there are so many men in the world that I just don't see how any women would want someone else's man anyways. This person must have no self respect for herself. Just keep this in mind, you are the better woman and she will never be the woman you are and eventually your ex will see that, but by then it will be to late and you will have a new man that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. My best advice is just move on. You can, and will, find better!

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goodies make the boys jump on it
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the best revenge would b u walking around like u don't care and ur happy and ur life is better than theres and u r a better person . don't let it bother u show them that u can move on and b happy

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justkickinit
You need to think more of what this will do to your son than what you want to do to her. My parents were separated for 6 years before finally divorcing. It sucked and caused huge issues for my younger brothers. Maybe look at it this way....she did you a favor. He obviously is not the type of character person you want to spend long term with.

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skunk pie
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Oh please, any woman who calls another woman a whore (unless she's actually a prostitute) is self hating. She's not a whore. So what if you were married, wasn't it your husband's responsibility to stay faithful to you? It's not her fault your husband was cheating scum.

Setting up that she can't be within 500 feet of your son only makes things worse for you son. His father is with her. Now his father can't see his son as much. Terrible.

That woman had no responsiblities towards you, your husband did. I know, it's easier to hate her, but it's the cheating man who you should be angry at instead of harming your son by limiting visitation or being angry at the mistress.

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princess
actually it sounds like you have already hit him hard with the visitation of your son. now just sit back and wait till the first time she does not leave the residence on visitation weekends (and she will after awhile refuse to leace).

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YouCan'tSeeMe
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you have a son...if u did anything disrespectful to her then first off you wouldnt come out of this mess squeeky clean and on top of that be setting a bad example for ur son to show him that its right to hurt another person who hurt you and thats wut ur son is going to pick up from that. wut she did was undoubtedly wrong but you dont wanna sink anywhere close to her level.and everyone gets wut they deserve in the end its nature's rule...dont bother yourself to scheme against her...your family has just broken i kn u must be frustrated the one person u trust just wrecked ur familybut u know if ur husband being a married man had wanted to ignore her and hadnt been tempted it would have happened...he was the married one and he had the responsibility..if it were me i would have given him his possessions back wanting to have nothing having to do with him...indifference makes a greater statement than hate bc the opposite of love isnt hate its indifference....its normal to be bitter about and to feel animosity toward her but u have to know when to restrain yourself.

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Ralfcoder
The best revenge is moving on and living well. You got rid of a cheating husband. She's got him - maybe they'll be stuck together and be miserable. Let it go at that. If you dwell on revenge like this, you'll start a tit-for-tat war that will leave you mired in this forever.

Let it go where it stands.

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tiuliucci
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First of all, you are destroying him and that is great. But directing your anger at her is useless. It was entirely up to him to not cheat on you. She would never have entered the picture if he had not opened the door.

Also, the odds of him cheating on her too are so high that you really have no reason to be angry with her. Cheaters generally do not respect the opposite sex and will cheat over and over again. Her heart is most likely going to be broken some day soon.

Keep up your efforts in ruining him for his actions. Do not take out your anger on anyone else.

Take care,
Troy

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Tricia R
As everyone knows, living well is the best revenge.
Do everything that you possible can to make your life better. If you need to lose weight, start losing it today. Exercise is a great stress-reducer. If you smoke, stop smoking. Take excellent care of yourself. Get a new hairdo. Read books on recovering from a break-up.
Develop new interests. Join a new organization.
Put every bit of energy you have into making yourself a healthier, more beautiful, happier person.
Surround yourself with people who have a positive attitude toward life.
If you see people who will be seeing your husband, confide in them that having him out of your life was a shock at first, but is actually turning out to be the best thing that ever happened to you.
If someone mentions this woman to you, say "Who?"
If someone mentions your husband to you, say "Poor guy." Then say you really don't want to talk about him.
Just concentrate on yourself and your child.
This could turn out great for you.

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Mrs.C
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I agree with oracle, the best revenge is for you to move on and be happy and successful.
Not all men are like this...some, you can trust.
I see all this anger you have towards her, but it is your ex-husband who humiliated and hurt you...not her. He could have said no at any point.

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kitkat
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You need to move on, why waste your life dwelling on revenge. This is not the example you want to teach your son. When he gets older he will think this is the very reason why his father left you...

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Marcie
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Did this woman owe you loyalty and fidelity? She owes you nothing. Your husband owed you those things and he betrayed you. She is none of your business. If her mother and father did not teach her about ethics and integrity... it's not your responsibility or even your business to try to cram it down her throat.
Keep your anger where it belongs... with the person that promised to love and honor you.
Sounds like you are eaten up with thoughts of revenge... it will get you nowhere. I can truly sympathize with your pain, but perhaps you should focus on healing rather than revenge.
You have a son to think about... get into counseling and help yourself to heal and grieve this huge betrayal.....
thoughts of revenge are merely fueling your pain even more.

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LB
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Wow! You really want to give her this much power over you? She wasn't the one who was married to you and therefore owed you loyalty and fidelity, your husband was.
If you let yourself be consumed by this, you are totally letting her win here.
It is time to move on. Let it go.

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greeneyes_bjb
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Honey, this must have been really difficult for you, and I'm so sorry for what you've gone through. However, by being so obsessed with revenge, you're allowing her to control your life. Think about it... do you think she's spending any of her time thinking about you? Probably not. And yet you're consumed by thoughts of her. Move on, and (most importantly) set a good example for your son of how adults should behave. He's already seen his father's BAD example - if you don't set a good example, who will? This woman is not worth your time or energy. Be the bigger person, and get back on the market! When she hears about you dating a confident, successful man who's in love with you, and she's dating a guy with no car who lives in someone else's basement, that will be all the revenge you need.

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chaoss13
GET OVER IT.
Honestly, do you want to become a bitter idiot that stoops to such low levels.
She knew, but didn't promise you a thing. He knew he was married, promised his life to you and he partook. If she didn't, he'd find another girl that would.
Don't bring yourself to that level, it only degrades you and shows how immature you are.
The sooner you get past him and her, the sooner you will have a normal life back.
And when it comes to cheating, I have no problem with the person getting cheated on getting everything, so good for you on that.

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oracleofohio
The best revenge will be to go live your life and be happy. Doing something to retaliate won't really affect someone who has no values to begin with. Why waste your energy. Focus on being a good mother and getting your life back on track. Good luck :)

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